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No 1 is Born to Hate?
Kids being Kids
Nobody is Born to Hate
”Do babies fight or hate each other when they are put together” was the question a six year old boy once asked his mum and she said no. No one is born to hate, was the next thing the woman added.
Who knows what kids think sometimes and on few occasions what comes out of their mouths are so logical that one begins to wonder if one actually heard right.
Some teachings and researches show that children are born unconditionally loving. When they arrive on this earth, they are honest, trusting, vulnerable, and dependent on their parents or caretakers. It is very natural and instinctive for them to love anyone unless they are taught not to.
Below are some of the institutions that can be responsible for promoting hate.
- Family. It is sad to know that some parents are still of the opinion of instruction their children / family members to choose their friends based on the colour of their skin, religion, ethnicity, to mention but a few. They see no reason why people of different background should be together. Even some relationships have suffered due to this factor. Everywhere we look in the history of the present world, we have some pockets of reminders of what could have been avoided.
- Institution. I guess we have heard of institutional racism before now, which is a process when an organisation pick their workforce due to their skin colour or otherwise. Just as embarrassing as it sounds, this is still a present phenomenon in our society.
- Peer Group. This play a large role in whom they allow into their group. Some groups don't tolerate outside colour members including other reasons mentioned above.
Practically love begets harmony, as it stands that is nature; if the equation is correct that love is nature, therefore, we are part of nature which makes love embedded in us.
According to Nelson Mandela “No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”
Love and hate do not mix or co-exist, they can try but do not work. It happens one at a time. Either love or hate. There is a great feeling of anxiety, happiness when you know that you are loved. It comes with a sense of satisfaction, hope, courage, trust, reliance, honesty, compassion, empathy, vulnerability and so on.
But hatred brings the opposite; miseries, sadness, frustrations, setback, envy, anger. Time spent to love is rewarding perhaps it is liken to a good investment compared to the hate factors.
A near example is the ecosystem where nature has made everything to work hand in hand. Nature has so design itself to be harmonious and that is what love possesses because it is nature itself.
On the other hand, hate is learnt due to life circumstances like disappointment, competition, greediness, jealousy, anger, etc. Sometimes causes people to build protective walls around themselves, thereby denying themselves the pleasure of giving and receiving unconditional love.
Walls may protect us from being hurt, a kind of defensive mechanism, in the same vein, they also prevent deeper levels of love. However, vulnerability is a necessary quality to fully enjoy unconditional love just like babies do.
So if we do not allow ourselves to be vulnerable because we have built protective walls, we cannot experience the full possibility of unconditional love.
Walls built on fear or protectiveness keeps us from giving and receiving love. Therefore lets us start building bridges instead of walls. Love is best when you least expected it plus having access to it when it comes!
The most genuine and unconditional love is when it comes naturally. If you have experienced one I bet you already know what I am talking about, don't you?