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Tolerating people who have different Moral values from you

Updated on March 6, 2014

Tolerance is an important factor, a virtue that is much needed and desired in our day to day existence. If observed around us, we will find many people who are unique, different, or totally miles apart from us. To bear or survive with such people, approve or disapprove of their thinking and their gestures is something that is constantly related and is deeply associated with the word “tolerance”.

In our lives, we come across many people whom we do not appreciate much, who have stark differences to what we are, and who we are. Mostly our difference lies with the collision of our moral and ethical values. Our standards of good and evil and our lack or difference of understanding with others is what gets bothersome. This is the root cause of our disparity with each other.The question is how to deal with such situations where you meet a person or you are put in a situation where your viewpoint seems poles apart from others. What exactly should be our attitude at that particular time. Below we will focus on some of the very core points which need to be adjusted or added if want to survive in a happy environment.

The key to tolerance is learning to co-exist with each other. With a little bit of effort on our part by being patient  we can live,laugh, and share with each other.
The key to tolerance is learning to co-exist with each other. With a little bit of effort on our part by being patient we can live,laugh, and share with each other. | Source


Whatever the different situation you have to go through or how irritated you might get, the very first thing you have to do is to watch your own self. Your reaction and response is important and mostly it is the reaction that will make the situation good or bad. This is the basic requirement and if you can master this, you might be able to handle everything well.


Another foremost thing which must be taken care of is to learn and establish the distinction between tolerance and a bad behavior. We must identify where to set our line and where not to cross certain limit. True, a difference of opinion is always there, but we have to present our point of view in a way that it should not be conceived or termed as a bad attitude on our part. It is similar to being diplomatic which is often referred as “the ability to tell a person to go to hell in such a way that he actually looks forward to a trip”. We must recognize the need of this distinction.


We also have to be mindful of the fact that our opinions, habits, and styles are different from each other. The religious and the cultural differences also count a lot. So before reacting to a certain person or a situation, we must take care of these facts, look and react at things with an open mind and a bit of consideration.


The key of tolerance is to stay cool in every way. Always remember patience is a virtue and that is something which needs to be developed in ourselves. Also, if we really want a moral reformation in others, we need to correct ourselves first. The attitude is something that really counts and a good behavior comes through patience. We must never let the patience slip away.

Learning to co-exist is the key to tolerance. With a little bit of effort, understanding, and patience we can share, laugh and live together. To stay open minded towards the existing dissimilarities makes you truly enjoy the essence of surviving with each other. It is all about your acceptance and your reaction towards others moral values and also not forgetting that tolerance is the necessary part of the new ethics.


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    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      That's true dwachira, to avoid any regrettable action control of emotional outbursts is necessary. Thank you for your visit and votes :)

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      Danson Wachira 

      9 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      No matter the situation, it is always good to have a control of our feelings. It help to keep us away from many regrettable actions. Voted up and useful.

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      Thank you ashish04joshi for your appreciation and yeah everyone should read and learn about tolerance so that the knowledge gained can be used wherever and whenever is needed :) :)

      Thank you for dropping in your comment!!!

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      Thank you Daughter of Maat for appreciating. I totally agree with the fact that learning about tolerance is a much needed thing (especially these days)

      Thank you for your time and comment,voting and sharing as well.I appreciate very much :)

    • ashish04joshi profile image

      Ashish Joshi 

      9 years ago from India

      Pretty useful...

      everyone must read this one to learn how to tolerate me! :-)

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      Melissa Flagg COA OSC 

      9 years ago from Rural Central Florida

      There needs to be more hubs about tolerance. We all live on this planet and we all need to get along ( that sounds cliché I know but it's so true). Being part of the human race entitles us to certain rights, and we're ALL human.

      Great hub, voted up, and shared everywhere!

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      Hi ishwaryaa22...Thank you for your feedback, i appreciate :)

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 

      9 years ago from Chennai, India

      Good Hub! A true eye-opener for all of us esp those who are trying to understand others different from them! Vote up.

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      Thank you Geoff Morova for your comment :)

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      Geoff Morova 

      9 years ago from South Dakota

      Great tips.

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      @ Kris Heeter ....Indeed it is a good idea to start teaching our kids about what tolerance is all about... Thank you very much for your appreciation and stopping by :)

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      @ Daisy Mariposa... Thank you very much for your appreciation.I really love the quote by Fritz Perls that you have mentioned clearly establishing the distinction between the individuality of every person in this world. Our expectations with others is something that often becomes the source of differences with each other. thank you for stopping by !!!

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      Kris Heeter 

      9 years ago from Indiana

      Very thoughtful and useful tips! And it's so important to start teaching these to our kids at an early age:) Great hub!

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      Daisy Mariposa 

      9 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)

      Good thread, but it reminded me of a poster I saw when I was in college. The poster had the famous quote from psychiatrist Fritz Perls:

      "I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful. If not, it can't be helped"

      The words were superposed on a full lenth photo of Adolf Hitler.

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      Infoforum...thank you for leaving your feedback and appreciation.Tolerance indeed is a much needed factor these days especially!!!

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      9 years ago from Universe

      Respecting differences is decency! But unfortunately the we all want every one to be just like we want them to be. We lack tolerance. If some one doesn't believe what we believe in i-e religion, we consider them wrong! It's a useful hub! Well-done!

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      Hello Bruce

      I agree with you word by word that each one of us is unique.Tolerance is something that lies between intolerance and our reaction.Also we need to learn and apply it exactly how,where and when.It is something in our own control and our attitude towards things is that what matters.

      Thank you very much for leaving a very kind and nice feedback and adding to the whole topic.I really appreciate your encouraging words.And yeah by the way the words "fundamental" and "tolerance" in my summary were just my flow of thoughts and there was nothing intentionally included,so ingenious or not i don't know :)

      Thanks again


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      Rev Bruce S Noll HMN 

      9 years ago from Asheville NC

      Hi Learner!

      Like Jlava73, I agree with most of your sentiments here.

      As I read this well presented hub I thought how ingenious of you in your summary to have the words fundamentalism and tolerance in the same sentence. I believe intolerance grows out of judgment. The sages would, I think, reserve that for a higher power.

      I humbly submit that we are "all" unique. Tolerance purchases a moment in time between intolerance and reaction so we may seek to understand a different view than our own. With that understanding we can then call on our higher self and higher power (however you view that) to instruct us on how to apply the wisdom that respects the sanctity of life!

      I would also add that tolerance requires self examination prior to judgment to avoid hypocrisy. There is great wisdom in the teaching "My brothers, be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger." (James 1:19 English Standard)

      Thanks for providing your concern and view on this very relevant topic!



    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      Moonlake...You are very right.To survive with some people you really have to be tolerant,some take advantage of the situation but then again it is all about your attitude and your preference how you deal with them.

      Thank you for your appreciation and stopping by :)

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      9 years ago from America

      I have always tolerated some people. Sometimes with some people you have to look for the good you see in them and just tolerate the things you don’t like about them, to a point. Some people will go to far and you just have to get out of the friendship or stay away from the situation.

      Good hub.

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      exactly "Jlava73",co existence with harmony is the desired factor here.I am glad that you enjoyed. Thank you :)

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      Jennifer Vasconcelos 

      9 years ago from Cyberspace and My Own World

      I agree with most of your sentiments here. Tolerance is grown out of an understanding of the other person's beliefs and not dissenting or judging because of it.

      Of course if their behavior gets out of line as a result it is a bit more difficult. I strive to accept others even if their beleifs directly conflict with mine so long as neither of us seeks to make the other wrong we can co-exist in harmony.

      I enjoyed reading your perspective :)

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      tamarawilhite.... No one appreciates evil and there is a way to avoid and deal with the bad also instead of totally becoming evil yourself.Thank you for leaving your feedback here :)

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      Tamara Wilhite 

      9 years ago from Fort Worth, Texas

      Respect is important. Yet we must be careful not to tolerate evil. That is how Penn State ended up with at least a dozen horribly hurt young boys while the students riot over the termination of the football coach, not the rape of children.

      We should tolerate diversity of belief, opinions and culture. However, tolerance cannot tolerate the intolerant or those who deliberately harm others.

    • learner365 profile imageAUTHOR

      Saadia A 

      9 years ago

      laurathegentleman...thank you for your appreciation :)

    • laurathegentleman profile image


      9 years ago from Chapel Hill, NC

      Very important, and something that more people need to understand. A very interesting read, good work! :)


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