The ‘hallmark’ of immaturity is being unable to take responsibilities for one’s actions and the consequences thereof.
Blaming everyone else for one’s failings is evident in the very young child.
“The chair did it’ he says solemnly, and if the parent has time might inquire; ‘so the chair ran across the room and knocked over the vase?'
And with the same solemnity the child replies, ‘Yes’.
As a child matures, s/he realises that chairs don’t move. S/he will look for an animate object.
Hence s/he will blame the dog, the cat, an absent adult, unaware that s/he is not being believed.
“Mrs. Bowen threw the cookies on the floor,” he says to his mother, assuming that as she loves him more than the neighbour he will be believed.
This is a hallmark of the child who is unwilling to take responsibility.
“Fart and look at the other guy’"is one of those standard classroom activities.
This diversion goes on until the child reaches that level of maturity (if s/he reaches maturing) to be able to admit when s/he is wrong.
There is a difference between being immature and having that enticing ability to keep a young and positive outlook all their lives.
Some people can be in their seventies and see the world with adventure.
This is not immaturity.
There are people who stay young for as long as they can, maybe dressing like a teen ager, listening to the latest music, interested in things that are 'too young' for them.
This is not immaturity.
Or not what I am discussing.
I am discussing that weakness may people have; the cowardice of being unable to accept responsibility.
Taking Responsibility/or Not
Not all children grow up.
There are many adults who are emotionally immature.
They blame everyone else for their failings.
Those persons who are willing to believe whatever falls out of his mouth. There are people who will accept his explanations. At least at first.
This in no way assists him in gaining adulthood.
Many of these people reach middle age, or beyond, still blaming Mommy and Daddy for not holding a birthday party when he was eight.
Blaming them for not doing more to insure he went to school and did well.
They keep piling whatever failing he can find to place on their shelf.
This is because one of the ingredients of immaturity is cowardice.
Another Scape Goat
Some people, too old to blame Mommy and Daddy will blame their ex-wives or ex-husbands.
Everything they did wrong during their marriage is the other's fault.
It was the ex-wife's fault why the house was kept uncomfortably cold, it was the ex-husband's fault why bills were not paid on time.
The fact he could have turned up the thermostat or she could have paid the bills is not considered.
Whatever went wrong, blame the Ex.
Others are less specific; the blame is shared among “They,” “Them,” “Everybody”. They act as if they had no volition or that strangers wouldl go out of their way to cause them difficulty.
Many immature people invested in clearly risky schemes. Instead of investigating before investing, they accepted what they were told by whomever told them. They lose their money, and now have new people to blame.
The hallmark of maturity is to comprehend that you are responsible for your actions.
Whatever excuse you wish to use as to why you behaved in this fashion, doesn’t not alleviate your responsibility.
Whether you were told, whether you surmised, it is you. You did it. Take responsibility for your actions.
Blaming others only makes you look pathetic.