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Updated on March 10, 2015

Not Me

The ‘hallmark’ of immaturity is being unable to take responsibilities for one’s actions and the consequences thereof. Blaming everyone else for one’s failings is evident in the very young child.

“The chair did it’ he says solemnly, and if the parent has time might inquire; ‘so the chair ran across the room and knocked over the vase?' And with the same solemnity the child replies, ‘Yes’.

Growing Pains

As a child matures, s/he realises that chairs don’t move. S/he will look for an animate object; hence he will blame the dog, the cat, an absent adult, unaware that he is not being believed.

“Mrs. Bowen threw the cookies on the floor,” he says to his mother, assuming that as she loves him more than the neighbour he will be believed.

“Fart and look at the other guy’ is one of those standard classroom activities, and it goes on until the child reaches that level of maturity to be able to admit when he is wrong.

Taking Responsibility/or Not

Not all children grow up.

There are many adults who are emotionally immature. They blame everyone else for their failings.

Those who are willing to believe whatever falls out of his mouth accept his explanations. This in no way assists him in gaining adulthood.

Many reach middle age, or beyond, still blaming Mommy and Daddy for not holding a birthday party when he was eight or doing more to insure he went to school, or whatever other errors he can find to place on their shelf.

Some will blame their ex-wives or ex-husbands, while others are less specific; “They,” “Them,” “Everybody”, as if they matter so much that people will go out of their way to cause them difficulty.

Many immature people invested in clearly risky schemes. Instead of investigating before investing. They accepted what they were told, lost their money, and now have new people to blame.

The hallmark of maturity is to comprehend that you are responsible for your actions. Whatever excuse you wish to use as to why you behaved in this fashion, doesn’t not alleviate your responsibility.

Blaming others only makes you look pathetic.


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    • Leaderofmany profile image

      Leaderofmany 5 years ago from Back Home in Indiana

      I hate the fart and blame it on someone else or the dog. Immaturity at 30 will drive me away before anything. It is time to grow up and be an adult at that age. Love the picture, trouble is I have seen many adults just like that. Good Hub.

    • qeyler profile image

      qeyler 5 years ago

      I ran into a crew of these kinds of people and I was gob smacked, seeing a big clumsy man blaming his parents because he's jerk...

    • Brett Winn profile image

      Brett Winn 5 years ago from US

      It is my fervent prayer that certain immature people I love will eventually GROW UP!

    • qeyler profile image

      qeyler 5 years ago

      they never do. they always find some one else to blame. they invent people to blame. they never take responsibility. It is always someone else's fault.

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