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Personal Responsibility: Playing the Blame Game and Not the H.O.W. Game

Updated on December 23, 2012

A MEMORY FROM THE PAST

I had a teacher once back when I was in high school. He was a gruff S.O.B. but as fair-minded a man as you could hope to find. He told us that he didn’t give a damn if we made a mistake, and he sure as hell didn’t want to hear us blame the mistake on any other person or random act of God. He simply wanted to know what we were going to do to rectify it.

In other words, all he required from us was to accept responsibility and then find a solution.

I did not forget that valuable lesson when I became a teacher, and I have not forgotten it in other facets of my life.

To blame is to waste valuable time, and it accomplishes very little.

Why, then, do so many people spend so much of that precious commodity called time, laying the blame at the doorstep of whoever is handy, instead of working towards a solution?

These people taught me responsibility
These people taught me responsibility | Source

POLITICS ANYONE?

Oh My God! Just when you thought the blaming might end with the Presidential Election finally over, we are now treated to the political sniping about the fiscal cliff!

ENOUGH!

I don’t care which side is right or wrong! All I know is that this country is screwed up. I don’t care who failed to do this, and who failed to do that. All I know is that many of the world’s citizens are hurting.

Take one hundred million middle class citizens who are scrambling just to keep their heads above water, and tell them who is to blame for their plight in life, and you have their vote.

Millions are homeless! How are we going to fix that problem? Millions have lost their homes to foreclosure! How are we going to fix that problem? Millions of Veterans cannot get the benefits they are owed! How are we going to fix that problem? Millions are abused and millions are sold into slavery! How are we going to fix that problem?

The debate over gun control is just heating up! Wait until we get into the blame game on that debate…oh, wait, it’s already happened. The NRA blames movies, music, and video games for violence in America.

If you are not part of the solution then you are part of the problem! Period!

MEMORIES FROM MY TEACHING DAYS

If I had a dollar for every conference I had with parents where they blamed their child’s poor performance on someone else, I would be a rich man today. It was always the teachers who were the problem, or it was the administration, or the poorly defined standards and unrealistic expectations. Amazingly, it was never their parenting or their child’s laziness.

I would sit and listen politely, and when they finished with their venting I would simply ask what are we going to do about it? Complaining and finger-pointing accomplishes nothing. Show me a solution and I’m on board with you all the way.

AT THE WORKPLACE

The last time I counted, I believe I have worked at least twenty-five different jobs during my lifetime. I have no idea how many different people I have worked with over that span, but I can tell you that the work environment was pretty much the same no matter what the job was. Hang out in the lunchroom of any business and you will hear employees complaining about the working conditions. Either the pay isn’t adequate or the conditions aren’t ideal. They are being asked to do too much or they are not being given proper training or explanations.

Not one word is said about solving the problems, and certainly you would never hear a worker take responsibility and surmise that maybe he/she was part of the problem.

I have no patience with any of it!

Learning personal responsibility began at an early age for me.
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DEAR OLD DAD

I learned very early on that it was much better to accept responsibility when I screwed up at home. I would much rather suffer through fifteen minutes of my dad’s wrath rather than lose his respect by making some lame-ass excuse for my poor performance.

He simply would not allow it. He taught me that a man owns up to his mistakes and then sets out to fix them. We all make mistakes and it takes so little effort to admit those mistakes, and yet so few people are willing to do that.

Blame someone else! That seems to be the American credo in today’s world.

If you are not part of the solution then you are part of the problem!

WHATEVER HAPPENED TO….?

Whatever happened to personal responsibility?

I can tell you this and I believe it with every fiber of my being: if you are a parent and you are not teaching personal responsibility to your kids, then you are failing as a parent.

We have a new generation of children who seem to think the world owes them something. They seem to think they are entitled to respect without earning that respect. They seem to think that they are entitled to rewards without working for them, and they seem to think that no matter what mistakes they make, they are not at fault.

Every action has a consequence, and if that consequence is negative in nature then we need to own up to it and correct it.

Still, we have millions of parents who coddle their children, pat them on the head and tell them how fantastic they are, and worse yet, make excuses for them.

Am I the only one who sees the possibility for disastrous results from that kind of parenting?

None of us are perfect! Teach children that, and then teach them how to behave better next time. There are definite consequences in the real world when behavior is not acceptable. To grow up not realizing that fact of life is dangerous, and to raise a child to believe there are no consequences is irresponsible.

WHY HAS IT HAPPENED?

Well, seriously, who cares! The fact of the matter is that it has happened. Now what are we going to do about it?

Whatever happened to the family sitting down and eating dinner together? When I was growing up, our family had every single dinner together. It was a time for sharing and it was a time for bonding. We learned about each other’s day, and we learned valuable lessons during those meals as well.

Now we have parents running their children to dance lessons, and sport’s practices, then to the gym or the tanning salon or music lessons, and they rush home frazzled and are at their wit’s end.

I heard a mother complaining the other day while we stood in line. She had so much to do, and she was worn out running her kids here and there, and she just wanted to scream. Her words, not mine!

Hello! Where is the personal responsibility? She has chosen her lifestyle, and she can change her lifestyle.

I have a doctor friend who is well-past retirement age, and he will tell you he can’t afford to retire because he has so many possessions to make payments on.

Hello! Where is the personal responsibility? Did someone hold a gun to his head and force him to purchase all those possessions?

GOING TO HELL IN A HAND BASKET

Just as a side note, what does that saying mean? I’ve heard that my entire life and I don’t have a clue what carrying a hand basket has to do with going to hell. J

The plain fact of the matter is that we have problems in the world today, and I can’t help but wonder if maybe part of the reason is that we don’t take responsibility, but rather spend all of our time blaming others for our problems.

We all recently mourned the deplorable act of violence in Connecticut, and almost immediately after the last bullet had been fired many sought to place the blame at the doorstep of the NRA.

Whatever! Whether or not the ridiculous gun laws in the United States had anything to do with the mass shooting is irrelevant. What are you going to do to fix the problem, because if we are doing nothing to make this world a better place then we are part of the problem.

Personal responsibility! The buck stops here!

Society today is made up of a great number of ostriches who would rather stick their heads in the sand and hope the problems go away, rather than pulling their heads out (of the sand of course) and becoming part of the change they so desperately desire.

Personal responsibility! The buck stops here!

Every single one of you is capable of doing something to make this world better. Every single one of you! If you choose not to do so, then all of your complaining and belly-aching and blaming is just so much nonsense.

Personal responsibility! The buck stops here!

You are either part of the solution or you are part of the problem!

Which one are you? H.O.W. will you make a difference?

2012 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Rachael Cleveland 4 years ago from Woodbridge, VA

      It's all in OUR perspective, isn't it? It's difficult to change our focus so that we start seeing our place in it all. I had this thought while driving yesterday (I moved to busy VA and often think about how much I hate it here): this place isn't changing. I can either change how *I* see things and interact with the world, or I can feel bogged down and frustrated every single day.

      It will take time, but that's all I needed! I'll make it work!

      Wonderful resource, Bill! :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rm, that's a great comment and yes, it has a great deal to do with our perspective and how we view it. Boy, you read this quickly. Thank you and Merry Christmas to you!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      We feel frustrated every day because we are in our own world, complaining but not taking responsibility for it. It's the lack of action, as you said! Thanks for sharing, Bill!

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      JThomp42 4 years ago

      Bill, you nailed this one. Everyone wants to play the blame game instead of taking inventory of themselves. Great hub Bill!!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks you Michelle; it's always nice to have you visit.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Jeff! I just get tired of the whining, which coupled with complacency, solves nothing. :) Merry Christmas to you.

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      JThomp42 4 years ago

      You are exactly right Bill. Merry Christmas!!

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, you are so right. It must begin with personal responsibility. I have always taken a good hard look at myself when life doesn't go the way I'd like. The common factor in every circumstance was me! Therefore, in order to change the circumstances I had to change my actions and thought process. I'm trying to pass this truth onto my son.

      Fess up and own up! Expend your energy in the fix, not the hot air of complaint!

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      Sheila Brown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      Another wonderful hub, my friend! When did you say you were running for president? You're right! No one wants to accept blame these days. Everyone wants to blame someone else and then just go on their way because it's easier that way. Up and awesome Bill! :)

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      the name game.... wow bill i can tell you are a teacher..i have learned so much from you...you are right as usual.. it starts with us.. me and you and them.. many blessings my friend

      Debbie

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jeff! Same at you my friend!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, anyone with an ounce of conscience with look at themselves first and others second. It's just another reason why I love you and relate so well to you.

      Peace and love to you my friend.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sg, thank you, but I wouldn't be President if my life depended on it. Why would I want to ruin my good name? LOL Thank you so much and Merry Christmas to you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Debbie; I have learned a great deal about the beauty of life from you. Blessings to you and your husband, and Merry Christmas to you!

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      Anna 4 years ago from Auburn, Indiana

      I think is great, I completely agree, in fact I say it all time. I have been in management for most of my working career and it was one of the things that at staff meetings I stressed or when I started at a new job I would tell the staff right off, don't give me an excuse, give me a solution. In my personal life it is true as well, I think that is the biggest problem in America right now and has been for awhile is pointing fingers, no work gettting done just alot of people that want to blame others for their problems. Voted Up!! Thank you for writing it!! Awesome!!

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      Connie Smith 4 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, this needs to be made into large letters and nailed to the halls of Congress so they can get a handle on what it is they are there to actually do!

      I have long been a non-fan of entitlements, and I let my congressmen know in no uncertain terms. So far, my pleas seem to have fallen on deaf ears. However, I will continue to holler about what I find to be offensive and stupid and keep proposing solutions. Maybe one of these days, if enough of us don't give up, things will begin to swing back in the right direction.

      I too was brought up with the idea that responsibility for my own actions was necessary and honorable. Voted Up and Awesome my friend.

      Pearl

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Interesting, so very interesting. And I think you are right, we are all capable of passing the buck onto someone else nowadays and I too would love to know how we got here. I could very much relate to your teaching example, having been there and one that. Could also unfortunately relate to that mother you overheard. It probably is my fault from time to time and should take a bit more responsibility. I am guilty just as much as the next person and thanks truly for pointing that out here. Hope you are having a great weekend. Have of course voted up and shared, too!!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Wiley, it is always nice to hear from others who have witnessed the same thing. I don't know when this change happened in this country, but the bellyaching solves nothing and needs to stop. I am so happy that I work for myself now; the staff meetings in my office go much smoother. LOL Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pearl, as always it is a pleasure having you stop by. Thank you! We need to increase the pressure on those fat cats in D.C., and I plan on doing exactly that. Thank you, and Merry Christmas to you my friend.

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      LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

      Wonderful, brilliant, and uplifting article, Billy! You said it beautifully! We need to take action and be the solution, not the problem. It's so easy to blame everyone and everything in our way; in that way one doesn't need to do anything! That IS the problem...... We need to correct our own mistakes, and solve the problems! Enjoyed your hub, sharing, and voting......

      Have a great one, dear friend! :)

      Oh yeah, would love to know who are those lovely people in your photo! :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, most of us are guilty of this from time to time. You didn't have the advantage I had of growing up during a time when excuses just were not allowed. There was no reasoning with my dad; he didn't want to hear excuses; he just wanted to know what I was going to do to improve situations. A lot of pressure for a teen, but a lesson well-learned.

      As for education.....oh my God! I am so happy not to be involved in that any longer.

      Have a great day my friend, and Merry Christmas to you and that lovely family of yours.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzie, thank you! I would love to point at D.C. and blame the politicians, but what good would it do? My job is to affect change in my own way and not rely on others to do it. :) And that is exactly what I am going to do.

      Thank you as always and Merry Christmas to you and yours.

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Well said Bill, I could not agree with you more on this one. I wrote an article on this subject some time back, but I think this is something that needs to be shouted far and wide.

      Mark

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, it begins with me! I can't expect anything from anyone that I am not willing to do myself. Thanks, buddy, and Merry Christmas to you!

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      wendi_w 4 years ago from Midwest

      Absolutey excellent article. Billy you have done it again by taking a complicated emotional issue and hitting the nail on the head and pinpointing the solution clearly and concisely. I am passing this article on to as many as I can.. I may just embroder this on a pillow and hand it out to my children. Kudos!!

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      Cynthia Calhoun 4 years ago from Western NC

      Father Jaeger. Yup, I was in seventh grade religion class and he had forgotten to bring something for our class. Suddenly he slammed his fist down and shouted " 'I FORGOT!' How many of YOU admit your mistakes? How many of you blame your parents when you forget your lunch or blame your teachers when you get a lousy grade? I forgot some stuff I wanted to bring here and for that, we're not going to have the class I wanted today. I take personal responsibility for it. How many of you take personal responsibility for your actions?"

      I have never, ever forgotten that lesson. To this day - though I'm not perfect - I try to always accept that my actions have consequences. If I ever feel sorry for myself, I resolve to remember that all my decisions have led me to exactly where I am. Good hub!

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      Highland Terrier 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      A good hub with a very valid sentiment of taking responibility for ones actions and decisions. And in your personal life you can correct it by taking action to correct the action and decision. But even this is laying blame, its laying at yourself.

      So it seems to me yes you can take action,you can correct things, but you must know who is responsibile, you must know where the blame lays.

      The shooting last week needs to be address but before you can address it you need to know where the blame lays.

      Is it the boys fault for doing the shooting or was he to ill to be held responsible, is it the mothers fault for being a prepper or wanting to have her son commited, is it the attorities fault for failing to commit the boy, is it the nra fault for having guns too readily available, is it societies fault for being too liberal, etc, etc. You could ask these questions till the cows come home, but before you can correct anything or change anything you must know who to blame, we all can be held responsible but to what degree and how effective can a individual be?

      Life has taught me one lesson, I'm a tadpole and in the great scheme of things I can scream till I'm hoarse but no one is listening.

      Look at all the people who over the centuries have tried and till the problems are there, they will never go away.

      Injustice will always reign supreme.

      Why am I so convinced of this today. Because Noonan our finance minister spoke today and every word he spoke tells me he does not give a s**t how the poor and downtrodden cope. He's ok so nothing else matters.

      Good hub Bill and a powerful message and with all my heart I hope you succeed.

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      Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

      This is a beautiful delivery with an awesome goose bump delivery!

      I so agree with you on pointing finger to someone. They should remember that the rest of the fingers are pointing to you, so STOP this blame game and carry on!

      The not able to make a decision on the fiscal cliff is going to affect us ALL , and I hope that our govt officials when on break and sipping their egg nog, realize how essential this is for our country and not just one!

      Well done, Bill

      This was a powerful delivery. Sharing it across!!!

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      Janelle 4 years ago from Houston

      Very good take on this. It always drives me crazy when people cannot accept responsibility. Thanks for sharing!

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      Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

      Hmn, up on your pedestal today, preaching are you? lol I feel your pain pal. You know I agree with you but... I don't like generalizing things. Yes, we do have to take persoanal responsibility for our own actions and yes, we can change a lot of things. But some things have to be understood in order to change them. Sometimes you have to know where the blame lies in order to address the necessary changes. And, some things you cannot change unless you chase the trail up to the top of the food chain. It really all depends on what problem you are trying to change.

      With all that said, it starts at home, with us and hopefully, if we do it right, we create a ripple effect so that other things change as a result of our personal choices. I'd rather try and fail than to not try at all. Failure just gives us another chance to do it better the next time.

      Good sermon Bill. I love your passion and commitment and...the person you are!

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      Melissa Propp 4 years ago from Minnesota

      Accepting responsibility is not easy. Its hard to accept the consequences of our actions on others and ourselves.

      Merry Christmas Bill!

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      This topic is dear to my heart. My mother blamed everyone for everything...I sometimes take tooooo much responsibility. And for the country who cares who is right or wrong, we live in a divided country with people suffering t hat leave out Congress ..they have it all but certainly can dictate what we should have. Anyway you brought out the best point here..Learn to take responsibility for your actions. You go to jail because you did somethingwrong..Not your personally of course.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Bravo and Amen. This is a one-two punch in the solar plexus, that should get some attention.

      When this particular subject matter is discussed, I always mentally zone in on 2 specific people I have known well, for many years. The blame game is a widespread syndrome, no doubt, but relating to personal experiences always seem to bring it home for me.

      Two women, both, at one time, really good friends of mine. Through the years I have inched away slowly but surely, as in, backing out the door so it's not too terribly conspicuous. I'm nearly FREE!

      They are both "perpetual VICTIMS".....it matters not what happens, what troubles come their way, what crap messes they're in....NONE of it, is in any way, their fault.....and then we get the litany of excuses, blaming, woe-is-me, blah blah blah. Miserable, ornery, wenches.

      Now, that's just 2 people. This ilk is everywhere! It truly is enough to make one scream.

      It doesn't matter where this started, how it spread like wild fire, WHY these individuals are the way they are. Analyzing this is useless...a waste of precious time and energy, much better spent.....turning it around. How?......come to think of it......H.O.W is a great place to start.

      Are there genuine innocent victims? Absolutely. I don't think we need a more egregious reminder of this reality, after Sandy Hook.

      I have no more answers than you or anyone, bil, but I echo your statements. Don't just sit there and bitch.....DO SOMETHING...UP++

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Wendi, if my son would read this I'm still not sure he would get the point, and he's 28 yrs old. :) It is much easier to blame the world than look in the mirror for some.

      Thank you my friend; I'm glad you enjoyed this, and Merry Christmas to you and yours.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cyndi, indeed! I went to Catholic school from kindergarten through college, and one thing was for certain....you took responsibility and moved on. No excuses in the classes I attended, and you know what? It was a very valuable lesson for me.

      Thank you lil' Sis! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you......and thank you for a year of wonderful friendship.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Highland, I always love your comments. You know what? I hope I succeed, too, but if I don't, I'll at least know I tried something. I'm just not the kind to roll over and accept things the way they are. It's not in my DNA!

      Merry Christmas to you my friend!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh Ruchira, don't even get me started on our government leaders. Two months after the elections and the first major issue they face they cannot agree on anything, and the finger pointing is at a high level. Thank you for mentioning that, and I hope you have a wonderful holiday season.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dazzles, thank you so much! Merry Christmas to you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Linda, no sermons from me. I don't do sermons. I do, however, reflect on things that I have done in the past and that I suspect others are doing now. Sure we need to know the cause in many instances, but when finger pointing delays or eliminates positive action then I'm pretty much fed up.

      Did you know I originally studied to be a priest? The celibacy thing finally brought me to my senses. LOL

      love to you,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Melissa, it's not easy at all....in fact, it is quite difficult. But when you screw up as much as I have over my lifetime, it becomes easier. :) Merry Christmas to you my friend, and thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, the need of so many to save face is powerful; it is as though we think taking responsibility is a disease. It is so easy and yet so difficult.

      Thank you as always and I hope you have a very Merry Christmas.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, you certainly don't need this hub as a reminder; you practice an old saying I have followed many times....it is easier, sometimes, to ask forgiveness than permission. I just do....I see something that needs doing and I do it....it may not be the right way, and it may not always be allowed, but damn it, it needs doing.

      I have several friends who are no longer friends because of what you just described, and my son, God bless him, has been busy blaming the world for his problems for far too long. Hopefully he will figure it all out one day when he looks in the mirror.

      Merry Christmas Paula!

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      If it's any consolation....(and with my experience & wisdom).......They DO figure it out. It's like any of the "things they go through".....he's still young. Keep the faith, Dad. It happens, even though you think otherwise. And it happens when you least expect it..out of the blue. You're so glad they've finally seen the light and snapped out of the fog....you don't even care HOW it happened.

      My youngest took what seemed to me like F O R E V E R.....and just as I was planning to pay the FBI to put me in the Mother Protection Program...and hide me somewhere......He came to. Hallelujah.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      It is so easy to blame someone else for our problems. I say that if we do not stand up and be counted we deserve poor represention by our leaders. If we let the NRA put more assault weapons on the street, we have failed again. So many times we get mad and rant and rave, then we tend to forget and start again rolling with the flow. We all can do more to make a difference in many aspects, not just gun control. This is our country. We do have a voice, let's use it..Great hub Bill.

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      Rosemary Sadler 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      It is not only the USA Billy, the blame game is played around the world, from the local shop who sold you faulty goods to the government. It is far too easy to blame someone else when all we want to hear is that the problem will be fixed.

      You and your family have a peaceful Christmas my friend and we'll see where 2013 leads us.

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      This is great food for thought. People really do need to take responsibility and turn this back into the great country that it once was. Those were the days that we all cared about each other and had pride in what we did and where we lived.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, i'm counting on the same thing happening, and it can come none too soon. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, i love it! Yes, this is our country, and if we just roll over and allow things to happen, then we have to accept it like sheep. Bravo for this comment my friend. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Rosemay! I was fairly certain that it was not just in the U.S., but it helps to have it confirmed.

      Merry Christmas to you my friend; I'm looking forward to the New Year!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, I completely agree, and we can have it that way again if we all rise up. Thank you!

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      Debbie Pinkston 4 years ago from Pereira, Colombia and NW Arkansas

      Bill, I do love that saying "If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem!" I have little patience for people who complain but don't have any better ideas or solutions. It's so easy to point the finger and criticize but much harder to take responsibility and work to correct a situation.

      Thanks again for reminding us of these universal truths!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Debbie! I have very little patience with whiners and blamers. Nothing is accomplished by either.

      Merry Christmas to you, Debbie! Thank you for your friendship this past year.

      bill

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      Debbie Pinkston 4 years ago from Pereira, Colombia and NW Arkansas

      Merry Christmas to you too Bill, and to your lovely wife. May this Christmas be a time of peace and joy for you.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      I think you put it kindly as one could. All the blah blah will not change the world. Even one's neighbor is something. Thank and a Happy and safe Holidays to you and your's my friend.

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      Rich 4 years ago from Kentucky

      Bill - You echo my thoughts and words, my friend. May you and Bev have a very Merry Christmas!

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      I admit this was a game I played quite a bit when I was younger. I don't remember how old I was when I finally 'woke up', but when I did things slowly began to improve. It helps if you take a bite or two of humble pie first, though.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much Debbie!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Martin! Merry Christmas to you and yours my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rich, Merry Christmas to you and your lovely wife. Thank you for your friendship.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Phoenix, I have tasted that humble pie a time or two, and found out I really didn't like the taste that much. :) Thank you!

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      I'm Already Awake! 4 years ago

      Maybe people don't do anything because it doesn't work. I have called the police, talked to parents, called social services, reported to teachers, on and on and on. I've been put off, ridiculed, suspected of lying, and ignored. And the children WERE NOT SAVED.

      I no longer despise those who pray for "God to wipe out this plague on earth called humanity."

      Those who want to take away my right to bear arms, I'll fight you. That right is what kept me from being one of these victims! And since so much of the problem is from people in power...

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      Nancy Yager 4 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      I will tell you exactly where it starts, in every lunchroom. There is always someone complaining and crying that they do not make enough money, they are too sick or whatever establishment holds them back. The real key to life is to isolate yourself from these people and just do it.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Awake, thank you for sharing part of your story! I have no trite response; there is real pain in the world for sure.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nancy, for eighteen years I shared those lunchrooms, and you are right. I eventually started eating lunch in my classroom where there was some peace and quiet.

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      Going to hell in a handbasket - well - i think that's pretty damned clear and you kNOW i agree - you were very lucky Bill to have had a wonderful teacher and a father who wouldn't allow any 'wiggle room' when it came to responsibility..

      I agree - it's sorely lacking today - there are no consequences for actions, period..

      it's a rampant, viral disease and it is slowly but surely eating away at the fiber of society and the economy..

      as far as the fiscal cliff goes - all i can say is - PLEASE - don't get me started - i have MUCH to say...didn't we just go through 2 years of hell and didn't the People just speak and make their desires known? Raise the f***ing taxes on the rich and let's move on to the next problem at hand - and then solve that one!

      Couldn't agree more - Merry Christmas to you and your loved ones, Bill..

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      You are so right...the buck stops here at my door. We can whine and finger point and blame and it changes nothing. Doing instead of pointless finger pointing can make a difference if we all do a little bit and we do it consistently.

      We all have opinions on how things 'got this way.' But not many of us want to put one tiny little bit of it on our back. It is always 'somebody else's fault, somebody else's problem." And it isn't. It is OURS.

      Keep on, Bill, keep on ringing the bell and soon others will hear and hopefully begin to figure out H.O.W. to make a difference. Merry Christmas to you on this Christmas morning....sending you special Christmas angels today :) ps

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leslie, I will refrain from my usual rant on this Christmas morning. Merry Christmas to you; thank you for your friendship this past year. You are appreciated by little old me.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, good morning, and Merry Christmas! Your friendship is greatly appreciated my friend; I hope you have a wonderful day.

      The angels and I are planning on have a marvelous celebration of hope today.

      hugs my friend,

      bill

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      Break of Dawn 4 years ago

      Excellent article, Bill! I could not agree with you more. How tired I am of hearing excuses, complaints and finger pointing. It really sucks the energy out of me. I truly admire people who take the responsibility for the actions and admit they was wrong. I do believe this lesson starts from home, at an early age. As children we tend to take the easy way out and blame each other, but as with everything else, we are being taught that's not how we are suppose to treat others, but take the responsibility for our actions. It seems, so many, are still at the stage of a five-year old, never being taught this very important life-lesson. Thank you!

      I wish you, your lovely wife, Bev, and loved ones a peaceful and joyous Christmas.

      Sannel

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sannel, what a pleasant surprise hearing from you. Thank you! I think as I have grown older I have lost a great deal of my patience with excuse-making. The fact that so many do it now just adds to my lack of patience. :)

      Thank you my friend; Merry Christmas to you and thank you for your friendship.

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      patchofearth 4 years ago from somewhere in the appalachian foothills

      I worked for a magician-- yes, magician-- who espoused the same philosophy you lay down here: rather than placing blame, let's find a solution.

      As the magician, he was the star of the act. He designed and built all of his own equipment and had a lot riding on him personally. Still, I never ever heard him raise his voice to anyone. If something we were rehearsing wasn't working, rather than placing blame, he would look for a solution. I worked back stage, there were also a couple of other technicians and a couple of "lovely assistants." He was a good showman and a consumate professional and everyone who worked for him liked and respected him.

      I agree, let's stop fussing and start looking for solutions.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Patchofearth, thank you for that reflection. The magician sounds like a great person to work for, and the analogy is perfect.

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      Vidya Mallar 4 years ago from India

      Bill, As usual great subjectto be thought seriously and acted upon immediately.

      Am surprised to see you as active as usual. God bless you always

      HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR in advance.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hello my dear Vidya; so good to see you again. Surprised that I am active writing? This is what I do my dear; I am a writer and I love to write. :)

      Happy New Year to you as well my dear, and may God bless you and your family always.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Right on the money here Bill. No one wants to take personal responsibility anymore. One thing that I think might have something to do with it is all of the lawsuits around these days. Like you, my parents made me own up to my mistakes and I like to think we are trying to teach our daughter that as well.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glimmer, you mentioned something that really does hinder some acts of kindness...the dreaded lawsuit, and there always seems to be someone willing to make an easy buck, even based on kindness. Disgusting testimony about today's society.

      Thank you again!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Excellent! Let's get back to owning up to our responsibility in life. Teach children to respect others, to earn their way through life, to get an education, to be responsible. Voted up!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dianna, I'm all for it! Maybe it will happen in our lifetime. Thank you as always!

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