The 11 People I Hope You Meet in Your Lifetime
With everything that exists in this world and with everything that we're bombarded with, it can be easy to despair and to become overwhelmed with it all. But amidst the chaos and complexity of our world, there are people who can cross our paths who show us that things are going to be ok and who help us to grow, learn, step up to the challenge and who help us be who we need to be and go where we need to go. They invite us to do as they do and it is our choice to decide whether we will.
In this hub I have referred to these people as singular people ("the one who...") but in reality these people are more than one person and very often these 11 people are found in one person or one person will possess several of the traits that I've separated. These people are found all over the world, throughout history, in every layer, field, aspect, etc. of society and interpersonal life. They are not the majority but they are out there, sprinkled throughout the Earth, and I hope you meet them in your lifetime.
Mr. Rogers on scary things in life and the world:
"When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, 'Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.'"-Fred Rogers
#1. The One Who Helps
I put this as number one because this is one of my favorites. As much as I try to focus on the positive, wonderful things in this world, there is no denying that this world is an unpredictable, unstable, and uncertain place. Nothing is guaranteed here and it does not matter where you look there is something senseless and awful being done or happening. Which is why in your lifetime, I hope you get to meet the one who is helping and hopefully you get to meet more than one.
These people are true warriors.They have seen the world in all its glory and shortcomings and they are here to help. They are part of the solution and they fight the good fight, and you can always join them or be one wherever you are.
#2. The One Who Pays it Forward
This is the person who knows that it is not only important to "return favors" but also knows that it is just as important, if not more important, to pay it forward.
As they go through a door, they remember to look to behind them. And as they pay it forward, they encourage others to do the same.
#3. The One Who Looks Up to You
There are people out there who will look up to you and they are often not even family. They will see things in you that they will genuinely appreciate and aspire to be. They may find you strong, assertive, and charismatic. They may find you compassionate, empathetic, and enduring. They may find you hilarious and well-rounded. They may just think that you are a great role model. The possibilities are endless since we are all comprised of different characteristics, life experiences, perspectives, etc.
So I hope you meet the person who looks up to you because they will see you with the eyes in which you are unable to see yourself. And if you are lucky, you will get to know that he or she saw you that way.
#4. The One Who Brings Hope
We all experience dark times in our lives. Some periods are darker than others and sometimes darkness comes more than once. It can be mental darkness, spiritual darkness, physical darkness, darkness in the world around us, darkness imposed by others--in short, darkness can extend.
However, hope is light in darkness and it is amazing and wonderful when we find or receive hope. Sometimes we find it ourselves and sometimes it is someone who brings hope to us or to humanity on some scale. I hope you find and have hope yourself but also that if you do not find or have it yourself, that you meet the person(s) who bring it to you when you need it.
#5. The One Who Will Change the World
The way of this world and the way that this world continues is enough to make one think that things are never going to change. History repeats itself and despite learning some hard lessons, humanity continues on an arguably circular path.
However, circular paths can be broken and there are people out there in all walks of life, in different languages, cultures, ages, perspectives, sexes, careers, fields, etc. who strongly believe that the world can be changed and work to make this change happen. The fates of these individuals are often tragic, unjust, lonely, and not without adversity and jeopardy but they keep at it.
They are "the change they want to see in the world," they "walk their talk," and they firmly believe and encourage you to do the same.
#6. The Humble, Hardworking Sacrificer
There are people in this world who do the best with the hand life has dealt them. They often have endured a lot and sacrificed a lot, and still may live in one or more than one of life's injustices. They may never see their dreams come true but still hope in the future; be it the Future with a capital "F," their own future, or the future of their loved ones.They work hard and they don't give up on life even if life has given them reason to. They keep going forward, making the best of life. They're humble, hard-working, and strong. They are resilient and possess a strength of character that can only be possessed by people like them.
There is a lot to be learned from them. They are amazing and beautiful.
#7. The One Who Has Found Peace
This world is a crazy place and a source of turmoil, overload, and drainage. Throughout history and in the present day people have been trying to deal with all the madness that there is on this planet. Some have dealt with it more successfully than others, and dealing with this planet and with all that we are faced with in our lifetimes is a constant endeavor.
But every now and then we come across people who have learned how to find peace and who are grounded and centered. They know that finding peace on this planet takes work but they have found how to manage it. They have not only found peace or they not only know how to find peace but they also extend this peace to others having a direct impact on another person and a contributing impact on the planet.
“One of the most amazing things that can happen is finding someone who sees everything you are and won’t let you be anything less. They see the potential of you. They see endless possibilities. And through their eyes, you start to see yourself the same way. As someone who matters. As someone who can make a difference in this world.”— Susane Colasanti
#8. The One Who Expects Excellence
This person expects excellence from his/herself and from others. If you invest yourself and bring your A-game, they will take what you bring to the table and push you to greatness and to all that you can be.
They may do this in a positive manner or they may do this with antagonism, but ultimately and depending on how you respond, they will push you in the direction that you need to go.
#9. The One Who Respectfully Disagrees with You
While it is nice to share time and conversations with people who share our opinions and thoughts, those people are normally not the majority. And depending on your line of thinking, this becomes increasingly important to the human race. This planet does not lack people who will disrespectfully disagree with you and those people are in ample supply.
Because of this, it is good to come across people who respectfully disagree with you. These are people who can challenge you, challenge your ideas, thoughts, opinions, etc. and make you think, grow, and become better without failing to respect you as another human being.
#10. The One Who Will Tell You When You're Wrong
This is different than #9 because it relates more to ethics and morality although it could be related to #9. Generally speaking, humans have consciences. I am sure that there are exceptions and I know that upbringing, culture, religious and/or spiritual belief systems, sex, society, etc. have an influence on our value systems, and on our sense of ethics and right and wrong, but taking that into account humans have consciences.
As evident by the world in which we live, both past and present, people do not not always listen to their consciences. This is a problem. It takes great courage and often great sacrifice to listen to and act upon our conscience or upon what we know is right but we do not always chose to listen or to make the sacrifices required of us to do what is right.
When you do not listen to your conscience or when you are unwilling to make the sacrifice required of you in acting in accordance with your conscience, you may meet someone who will gather their courage and possibly make some sacrifice of their own to tell you when you're wrong and to guide you in the right direction.
These people can be a Jiminy Cricket or angel on your shoulder of sorts, and can often play a role in your life's trajectory or in the trajectory of the lives of others. We cannot expect someone to enter our lives to be our consciences or voice of reason or light, but sometimes they do enter our lives and help us.
Which of the 11 people that I've included in this hub do you hope most to meet in your lifetime?
#11. The One Who Has Seen You at Rock Bottom and Still Supports You
I end with another one of my favorites. We all hit rock bottom. Sometimes we hit rock bottom more than once in life. Sometimes we hit rock bottom and never get up. Sometimes we hit rock bottom and get up but then hit it again. The possibilities for hitting rock bottom are endless.
However, we don't normally share our rock bottom with others and rock bottom often includes an isolated struggle or a struggle in which you do not have the support of others. We often find that people who were in our lives before leave us when we hit rock bottom or that the way in which other people view us changes once we have hit rock bottom. That is why the person who has seen you at rock bottom and still supports you is a wonderful blessing and gift.
This person sees you without the face you put on to the world. This person has seen you at your worst and when your mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional stores are low or depleted. This person has seen you in this way or in your hardship and helps you to rise and still sees you as the person that you are.
This person can be a family member, friend, or someone who enters your life at your time of need. But this person is wonderful and amazing and I hope everyone has someone like this in their time of need or in the time when having this person in their life would make a difference.