ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Life After Tragedy

Updated on February 21, 2014

©copyright ALL RIGHTS RESERVED 2012

It was never a choice.

I remember the night I received that phone call and hearing his voice tell me that, "she didn't make it." I can recall a terrorizing rage and then time just stopped. My life began again about three days later. It's twenty three years ago and I can recall it as though it was yesterday. That year there were seven kids who had parents die. It was as though a virus had attacked our high school. Just a week before my mother was killed I stood sadly in the lunch line staring at a girl whose father was tragically killed in a construction accident and as I watched her I remember thinking that it seemed as though she had become an outcast. She was somewhere else that the rest of us would never be. And then suddenly I was there too.

©copyright ALL RIGHTS RESERVED 2012
©copyright ALL RIGHTS RESERVED 2012


The worst part of tragically losing my mother at such a young age was that there wasn't a single person who looked me in the eye and told me that everything would be okay. I needed that, desperately. I needed someone who wasn't on "my side of the fence" to let me know that I could still experience some sense of normalcy even though this horrible event had happened but nothing ever came. Make it a habit to let your children know during the worst times that things will always get better. Being a teenager is tough. Being a teenager who experiences a tragedy is probably the strongest test of will and faith. No one asks for their path but it's the one God gave us. Although the fence may not be real to you, it's very real to those of us who live with it every day. It becomes more slight with time and even dissipates now and then. But at certain times it will rear it's walls to remind us of the separation between believing you will always be okay and believing that you will always have to fear late phone calls, people who have something to tell you with a very serious look on their face, allowing your children to live normal lives because a third phone call would surely put you into an asylum somewhere.

Final thought: It's okay to hurt and feel sadness when bad things happen. It's okay to have bad days and recognize that the world isn't always as wonderful as we want and hope it will be. But you must get up off your knees, look up into life and fight to be faster, higher, stronger. You cannot give-up even on your worst or saddest day. Those are the days when God is trying to tell you that you are tough, that there is more out there for you and your calling is still waiting. Keep searching.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • billybuc profile image

      Bill Holland 

      5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you for sharing this. I lost my father, the anchor of my life, when I was nineteen. It was devastating, and in truth, still today I feel his loss and wish he was here to give me guidance. It is a terrible time and for me, the counsel I needed was lacking...but we get through it all eventually, in our own way, and carve out a new life. Great reflections here, Kristi!

    • krsharp05 profile imageAUTHOR

      Kristi Sharp 

      8 years ago from Born in Missouri. Raised in Minnesota.

      All comments have to be approved. I'll read your poem now!

    • profile image

      Shawn Seiler 

      8 years ago

      Do you set up your account so that coments have to be aproved before they are seen? I am new to this blogg stuff.....And did you ever read the poem i wrote called "The Stage"? ANd how the hell do i post a new blog on my hub?

    • krsharp05 profile imageAUTHOR

      Kristi Sharp 

      8 years ago from Born in Missouri. Raised in Minnesota.

      Thank you Shawn. I wish that we would have been closer then, I would have talk to you. The great thing is, we talk now and I appreciate you so much.

    • firsttime7 profile image


      8 years ago from Planet Hawaii

      You are an amazing Friend Kristi- I did not even know what happened to your mom in school- I just wondered where you were and missed you. I was so not connected with the other people i went to FHS with that no one I talked to even knew either. I wish I could go back and offer you the support you needed at the time...


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
    ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)