Time heals almost everything Give time time

Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.

Yes, time heals almost everything. It will heal the wounds created in your hart through words or deeds by your friends, neighbors or relative. But we need to give time, time. If you look back your life at ten years ago, you could see that many people those who gave trouble to you are no more with you now. The problems you were facing are no more now. You are least concerned or bothered about the things which are troubled you in your childhood. Many relations in your childhood depressed you. Over the time you forget about it and least concerned about it.

We had many wounds in our body. It may be due to our mistake or someone else mistake. Now, all that wounds are cured. We don't remember it.

Like the things which are very much bothering you now will turn away from you in the coming days. You need not to bother about it much. By bothering you can't change the situation. I remember the words of Jesus who said "do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own" and again He said "do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes?" and again He said that "Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?"

Also please make it a note that the days will come when you will be forgotten forever unless you were notorious or good enough to be remembered. We remember Abraham Lincoln, We remember Jesus and Hitler for their work.

Remember that, before them and after them and in their lifetime there were many million people lived in this earth. Most of the lived a modest life. But no one remembers them. Very few are remembered for their work.

So why we should be bothered about many things. Let us give time, time. To heal and forget.

Many of you may not agree with me. Tell us your views in the comment box below

I wrote the above part of the hub on 13th August 2009. Today (22nd June 2012) I cannot fully agree with what I wrote almost 3 years ago. Time has changed my perspective on the subject.

Even though time needed for healing, we need to take care of the wounds. If time heals, we have to build more waiting rooms than building hospitals. All the sick people can be admitted in the waiting room for the time to cure them. No. That is not the way. We need to take care of the wounds. If we are not taking care of the wounds and leave it to cure by itself, it can damage the body part. If I have a wound in my right hand, I have to go to a doctor for dressing it. Put medicine to cure it fast. If I leave it to cure by itself, there are chances that the wound would be getting bad to worse and do more damage to my body. Even this small wound can take my life. So it is better to take care of it before it gets worse.

I am not forgetting that a fracture in the borne needs time for the cure. Still, it needs to be taken care of. We put plaster and wait while it joins together. We take utmost care by not moving or shaking that body part. Still, it needs our attention.

In our relationship, there are wounds that we create. A spouse can create a wound. A parent can create a wound in the heart of their child. A friend can create a wound. We hurt each other by our words or deeds. These wounds need to be taken care of immediately. Otherwise, it will get worse and end up in a broken relationship. Most of the divorces are the results of small wounds which are not taken care of immediately. We let the wound to heal it by itself. But often they get worse instead of healing. Then they end up in a broken relationship. Divorce! End of a relationship.

Relationships need to be built by putting more efforts. There is no perfect match. Each individual is unique. Relationships are built on love. If you cannot love your spouse, you cannot build a relationship. Love your spouse and put efforts to build a relationship.

It is better to immediately take care of those small wounds in our relationship. It can cure fast and without much medication. It can cure easily. Don't let those easily curable wounds to get worse. Take immediate steps to dress it, cover it with medicine.

The question is, who is to take the initiative in dressing the wound? He who is hurt needs to be taken the immediate steps to heal the wounds. We who are hurting each other needs to take the initiative. Mat. 5:23-24 says “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First, go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift." See, if you feel that your brother, or sister or your spouse or your parents or your children have something against you, then you need to go to them. You need to take the initiative.

Here Jesus says the importance of immediately taking care of the wounds. God is saying that if you are not happy with your brother or sister, I am not happy with you. First, go and reconcile with your brother. God is love. If you do not have that love within you, you are not ready to worship God. God loves you. God loves your brother, sister, neighbor, spouse and your children. Eph. 4:26 says "Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry". It shows the importance of immediate action towards curing the wounds.

Why do you need to spend 10 years or 20 years in hostility with your loved ones, when you can lead a happy and fulfilling life by reconciling with your loved ones? It only takes a few words. "I am sorry, I was wrong". Admit your mistake or forgive the mistakes of your loved ones. That is it!

But do it at the right time. Sometimes you have to wait for the right time. If your angry, it is not the right time. If you are calm, but your spouse is angry, you need to wait for him or her to cool down. When you feel that it is the right time to talk it out, then do it. Sometimes you need to go to a good place where you can talk about it. Away from your kids and in-laws. Where you can express your emotions freely. Wait for the right time and talk about it. Get it right. Sometimes ego can come in between you and your spouse. Let it go. Sometimes you have to accept the ego of your spouse to reconcile. But later with love, you can conquer the ego of your spouse. So look for the right time to put the medicine.

Some issues are like the broken born. It needs to cover up with plaster and wait for a long period. Do not move it. Do not shake it. Do not put force in that part. Leave it for one month, two months, or three months to get it right. Sometimes it takes years to get straight. Give time for such wounds and take care of it.

In short, we have to play our part to cure the wounds created by our loved and dear ones. Do not leave wounds unattended by saying time heals everything.