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Being unemployed really sucks!!!!!

Updated on August 28, 2012

My search for a new job

In my earlier years, I would sometimes joke about being unemployed for a little while just so that I could stay at home with my children. It shocked me when it actually happened in 2001 during my first marriage. I found myself being laid off by a major bank in Chicago. I cannot describe the feelings that I had at that time; being scared, anger and depression. Actually, it took me a couple of days to finally come to terms that I was unemployed. I had been used to working; I had been working in the banking industry for over 15 years. I had to come home and tell my family that I no longer had a job to help support our family. My husband at that time was bedridden with rheumatoid arthritis and various other illnesses.

I was able to get severance pay for the time I was at the bank. Also, I was able to get unemployment benefits that lasted for about 11 months. I could not understand how can a person work at a company for so long only to be paid half of what they earned in terms of their unemployment benefits. It doesn't seem fair. But we somehow managed to support ourselves with this reduced income. I cannot express the frustration I felt as the bills begin to pile up. It seemed as if those months of being without work just dragged on forever. I had applied for so many jobs at different banking institutions; I also forwarded my resume via e-mail to these companies. The response rate was so slow during that time. But I kept going out to different places looking for work. I tell you, it was hard and exhausting to say the least. During this time, I had also applied for food stamps and medical assistance to help to hold us over until I was able to find work. I felt somewhat ashamed because I had been used to helping my husband to support our family.

While waiting for possible interviews, I took classes at a major insurance company to be a sales agent. It went well and I learned so much in regards to the different types of insurance. I even went out into the field with another insurance agent to enroll a new client. It was interesting to go through the sales presentation and finally getting that client to sign up for our products. I went to the insurance board to take the test, and I passed. But for some reason, I found myself not sticking with the insurance, so I let it go. I guess I was so used to working in a banking environment.and I was not good at making any type of sales presentations.

Finally, I got a call from a bank located in the suburbs of Chicago. I went through the interviewing process and everything went well. I was also called for a second interview, and I thought maybe I might be on to something. A few days later, I got the call saying that I had been hired, I jumped up and down with joy and happiness!!!!!! Some days later, I had to go to the corporate office to take care of some initial paperwork. I also had to go through the drug screening process which was not a problem for me. I was calling my mom and sisters to let them know the good news, they were so happy for me that I had finally found another job.

I started my job on June 9, 2003 and I have not looked back since. It will be 9 years this coming June of being with the same employer and I am forever grateful. To be without work for an extended period of time was the hardest thing I ever had to go through. But I was determined not to give up in my search for a job. During that time, it was important for me to stay strong and focused not only for myself, but for my family as well. I felt like I was willing to take any job to help to take care of my family's needs, but I had to be careful as to which jobs I could take so that I could be there to help take care of my ailing husband. But I'm just so glad that everything worked out in my favor!!!!!

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    • SadieMariee profile image

      SadieMariee 3 years ago

      I know what that is like I'm currently unemployed myself its not easy.

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      CarNoobz 4 years ago from USA

      Oh man, TELL me about it. It does suck.

      I haven't had a regular job for over a year, and it's been hard. Fortunately, my online stuff is starting to finally show signs of life.

      Voted up

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      Vickiw 4 years ago

      Interesting article, and it really captures some of the hardship and depression that you suffer when losing a job. So good that you wrote about this, and I'm sure it will help some of those who have, and inspire them to stick at working to change things.

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      nina64 5 years ago from chicago, Illinois

      For me, the key to finding employment is to stick to what I knew. At times, it still feels as though I have to keep re-inventing myself in order to stay on top of the employment game. I thank you for reading and commenting on my hub. Be blessed.

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      Shasta Matova 5 years ago from USA

      The unemployment line is definitely not fun. I always thought I would be able to enjoy all my "free" time but it is stressful. I am glad that you were able to find the type of job that you wanted and have been able to keep it.

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      nina64 5 years ago from chicago, Illinois

      I think it is so sad to be judged on what type of job you have. As long as it helps to pay the bills. Of course me being a lady, there are certain jobs that I would not do (for moral reasons). But any job that is legal, I wouldn't hesitate to do it in a heartbeat. Be blessed.

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      dmop 5 years ago from Cambridge City, IN

      If I were in need of a job to support my family, I would gladly accept one cleaning the parking lot, bathrooms, or whatever was offered to me. I actually worked as a McDonald's janitor many years ago. It didn't pay much, but it was a job and gave me just as much pride to be contributing as when I made 140,000 a year.

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      Dolores Monet 5 years ago from East Coast, United States

      Whoever mentioned the job cleaning parking lots at McDonalds, it won't come close to paying the bills. I know people in the business of hiring others, and they are not interested in older people. Not interested in an older person who had a position of responsibility and a high salary for a lesser job, they think the person will jump ship as soon as possible, or be unable to take direction from someone younger. It ain't so easy as some people like to believe.

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      nina64 5 years ago from chicago, Illinois

      Hello Peggy,

      Thank you so much for your comments, they are well appreciated. For those struggling to find work, it seems to be a uphill battle. There is so much competition because people are willing to take any job they can to help provide for their families. As you said too, those who have higher education degrees are having a hard time trying to find work. As my son tells me "Mom, how can I find work when employers will not give you a chance to prove yourself?" Nowadays, you have to have some kind of experience just to get your foot in the door. There's always some type of roadblock to keep people from getting ahead in the job market. Again, thank you so much for all that you have said. Also, I'm sending my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your mom!! Blessings to you and your family.

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      Peggy Woods 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Hi Nina,

      So very happy for you that the nightmare of unemployment ended for you and your family. Far too many people are going through the same hardships today and even well educated people are having a hard time securing jobs. For those over 50...it is even worse. We know that from personal experience! Thank you for writing about this subject that is far too widespread in today's economy. Hopefully those looking for jobs will draw some encouragement from your words. Voted up and useful.

      Also...sorry for the loss of your mother (from your profile). I lost my dear mother 2 years ago and we also were very close and I miss her.

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      nina64 5 years ago from chicago, Illinois

      I wrote this hub hoping to help someone who is in a similar situation. This article is based on my personal experience in this matter. It was not meant to stereotype or to come down on anyone in particular. I was just sharing my views of my predicament. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.

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      American Romance 5 years ago from America

      Cosmic, no changing his looks will not get him a job.......but it might get him an interview.........

      dmop, what makes you think my Lord would in any way look like herione addict to those who love him? And no IF he looked like you I would welcome him with open arms! On the other side of the coin if I had a job opening you would be the first to be shown the door, why? Because most jobs require a person in some way to represent and bring forth the best in that particualar company. If you look the same today that you do in the pic I do not believe most companies would consider that acceptable. Not trying to come down on you but making a statement to all!

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      dmop 5 years ago from Cambridge City, IN

      American Romance, Thanks for the compliment, I'm sorry that if our Lord were to return today that you would turn him away if he were to look like me in my photo. I will pray for you and others like you.

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      Cosmic Bus 5 years ago from Maryland

      @dmop congrats on your degree! Don't give up! So sorry to hear about your job difficulties, praying for great opportunities

      @American Romance I think you contradict yourself by saying we have 9 million unemployed, so by simply changing his looks, he will succeed. Did you even take time to look at his chosen profession? Perhaps it does not call for a suit or a haircut. I see on your bio you are a Christian? I know the job market is different and looks on the outward appearance of man ....but so glad God looks on the inward.

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      Susan Keeping 5 years ago from Kitchener, Ontario

      Okay, I missed that. However, he still has no right to judge someone on a picture that might or might not be current.

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      skye2day 5 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      Uninvited writer American above was leaving a message to dmop and a general message to others not to the author of the hub. FYI. Hugs.

      Keep the FAITH in God He will provide. He is the source God Bless you sister.

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      Susan Keeping 5 years ago from Kitchener, Ontario

      American Romance...you are judging a person on a casual picture and think you know how they look now and how they dress when they are going for an interview? Besides, if you had read the article you would see that the writer does have a job.

      I have been out of work for 9 months now and have applied for at least 100 jobs. Unfortunately, I'm over 50 now and have a slight mobility disability. Many employers can't or won't look beyond that and that is their loss.

      In the meantime, I'm doing some writing to earn some money.

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      skye2day 5 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      I know about the UE Being poor is hard work. Very Hard. Hubby has been out of work 2 years. A little here and there. I used to get scared. It has been a long journey to peace. When I put God first and believe. He is faithful and provides. Trust Him and keep the faith!! God is my boss I work for Him. He is the source. He puts me where he needs me and provides. The hardest part of UE is trusting God knows what He does. Well I am here to tell you He keeps working on us and His promises are TRUE. He is awesome. He is provision. When I stay focused ON Jesus He lights the way and has some amazing ways to bring the money. It is not easy. Is life? No it is not. In trials we grow. No pain no gain.

      I read your feed. I do not think that AR above meant harm to anyone. He is right in many ways. Clean up, then job hunt. There is allot of competition. Sometimes people need to hear the truth. He was basing his words on shave shower and not how the person looks like features so on.

      I think it is good to be honest some are a bit more radical about it. I know for me I need a little boot once in a while. It hurts my poor little pride, but it is usually truth. God Bless U

      Thanks for an encouraging hub. Do not Give up. Keep Going. You rock. Hugs to you.

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      John Sarkis 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Interesting article. Unfortunately, I'm a believer in luck/destiny, which means we just have to give ourselves to the Lord, speaking from a personal perspective. Only God can truly help you and lead you....

      Take care - good luck - God Bless

      John

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      American Romance 5 years ago from America

      I keep reading so many hubs about those who say they can't find work! We have to insert some reality here!

      big breath............. Ok dmop! No one in HELL is going to hire you looking like a heroine junky left over from Woodstock! We have 9 million unemployed with just as much education as you have! Take a bath, get a haircut and put on a suit! Otherwise take the first job cleaning the parking lot for McDonalds! .......goes to show that an education sometimes doesn't teach you a damn thing!

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      nina64 5 years ago from chicago, Illinois

      Dear Dmop, I appreciate your comments. Whatever you do, please do not give up on trying to find a job. When I was unemployed, I found myself having to post a lot of my resumes with different companies. Like you, I was frustrated because of the lack of response to my inquiries. Keep on looking, something is sure to come up. Best of luck to you.

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      dmop 5 years ago from Cambridge City, IN

      I have found myself in a similar situation, though I was self employed, and had no unemployment to drawl. I never really though it could happen to me but when the housing crisis hit, the calls for work just stopped coming in. I have since gone to college and gotten a degree, even graduated with honors, but still have had no luck finding a job. Its like all the years I spent running my business aren't considered as experience and I'm like a high school drop out with no prospects. I still haven't given up, but I must admit that I have become very frustrated. Thanks for the Hub, voted up.