What Is a Slut Anyways?

For this blog I will be focusing on these two main points from I am not a slut: slut-shaming in the age of the Internet and the book is by Tanenbaum, L. The main two points that I will be focusing on will be a good slut versus a bad slut and the other main point will be sexual double standards, the reason that I am focusing on these two points is because I feel this is where people are concern what the female sex is representing herself and how is she portraying herself as a good or bad slut. In the reading the author is talking to young girls about the word slut, to the girls it is easy for them to say that the word slut is an easy way to make a justification of someone for their behavior. According to Tanenbaum, L. (2015), she has stated that these girls seem to be trying to prove two things when they are expressing their sexuality, the first things is that they are sexually educated, but the other thing would be not being seen that they are to sexual (49).

I feel like that is where there is a problem because people can assume that you are sexually active and take you intension negatively to where that you are considered a bad slut. I feel the only way one can be called a good slut is when the girl has a positive position within her group and they all know each other intension of sexually being active or being able to express themselves by their clothing is only when you are able to be called a good slut. For my next main point that I would like to bring up would be sexual double standard, I feel sexual double standard is unfair and it makes it harder for women to able to express themselves as they like such as men do. I believe that sexual double standard was made so men can keep women under control and taking away their freedom of women being able to express themselves, I feel like taking away their freedom and judging them for who they are and what they like to do is an easy way for women not to express themselves and they have harder time just being themselves because they are being watched and judged for every move they make.

According to Tanenbaum, L. (2015), she has stated that women bodies are being accepted for what they are and the way they are exposing their bodies but there is one problem with that, which is that even though they are expressing themselves it is still an ending result of sexual inequality (77). I feel that for this finding in the reading is true that people are more accepting of women bodies and that it is okay for them to be sexually active, but it is not being treated in a positive way, yet it is taken in a negative way by men wanting to take advantage of women thinking and saying that is what they wanted.

The video that I found is about five bad arguments that people use for girls not to have too much sex and if they do how they receive the title of slut. I feel like this video can be an eye opener because it can help others not to use and not to give a title to a woman for having sex or dressing the way, they did. The video can help stop others from judging women who okay and happy to express themselves in a positive manner to see that we need to be fair and why should women be judged hasher than men for having sex.

The first link that I will talk about is why do men like to pit good girls than the bad ones, this article brings in examples from a television show and why men are having an idea of separating women by good and bad. I do feel like this article does brings in good examples of the situation and how men are preserving women. The link to this website is http://preen.inquirer.net/14097/why-men-love-to-pit-good-girls-vs-bad-girls. I do feel like this link can relate to the main point of having a good and a bad slut, especially since the page is for young adults. The next link I would be talking about is showing how college students are hooking up and they are stuck living in the sexual double standard life and their fear of feeling unimportant. This article does bring up interviews done with college students and seeing their experiences with hooking up with men can be so negative because of the sexual double standard. The link to the website is https://apnews.com/43d8b1899a04481993c4313333f162be/hooking-campus-sexual-double-standards-may-leave-students, I do feel like this website does give many points of why women feel like they are sexually double standard compared to men. One example that I can give why women can get influenced of this idea of sexual double standard is because of books, magazines and movies I feel like these things have such an impact to women and it makes them think what they should do and not do to express themselves.

I was able to find an article that talks about how gender role and sexual double standard can be an issue, I think that this article does tie up with the main idea of sexual double standard from the reading because it is expressing how it is an issue to society for women and how gender role plays along with making these standards. According to Zaikman, Y., Marks, M., Young, T., & Zeiber, J. (2016), this article states the idea of how women and men are being treated differently with this standard. They have found that women are being thought negatively for engaging the same sexual behavior as men, but men are being praised for the act of being sexual. They also bring up how gender role can play a big role for the standards because it is an idea given to society to expect women to behave in a certain way, which is to be at home and keep the husband happy. Whereas men are given the role to work and that they have control over his wife. For the next article it is continuing what the last article is about by explain what is the motivations that sexual double standard was made and is showing how men is getting more support than women on the control theory. According to Rudman, L., Fetterolf, J., & Sanchez, D. (2013), have stated that their overall results came to that both genders did not approve of women having so many causal sex because they wanted to protect them of them being stigma and form rape myth that causing to make a justify the violence against women. I do feel like this article does explain the reasoning to the ideas and standards that are given to women.

Rudman, L., Fetterolf, J., & Sanchez, D. (2013). What Motivates the Sexual Double Standard? More Support for Male Versus Female Control Theory. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 39(2), 250-263.

Tanenbaum, L. (2015). I am not a slut: slut-shaming in the age of the Internet. New York: Harper Perennial.

Zaikman, Y., Marks, M., Young, T., & Zeiber, J. (2016). Gender Role Violations and the Sexual Double Standard. Journal of Homosexuality, Journal of Homosexuality, 28 February 2016.