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When Both Sides Hate

Updated on April 21, 2013

The recent tragedies that have occurred in Boston this past week have brought out a lot of America’s worst behaviors, and with good reason. Being attacked on America’s Homeland is not something that we are used to, nor is it something that we will tolerate. There are a probably a myriad of insignificant reasons why many people of the world hate Americans, and there are a few major reasons as well, mostly geopolitical and economical. But hate is what is fueling many if the world’s problems today.

I have a friend that recently shared a picture on Facebook. It was the very graphic picture of the dead Boston bomber. The caption under the picture read:

“Boston Marathon Bomber Tamerlan Tsarnaev. Was it worth it? F*** him and his God. “

Whoever posted the picture and wrote the caption capitalized “God”. They must have the same one. I just looked at the picture and thought about how much hate there is in the world today. I even commented on it:

“So much hate coming from both sides.”

I had an immediate response to my comment on the picture from the same person that “Liked” what I had just said: “What should we do with these pieces of sh** Del take them out to dinner? To bad the other one is alive” (cut and pasted). I was confused. He “liked” what I said, but dissed my comment. He must be one of those “Mental Pygmies” I have heard so much about.

But think about it a little while. Why does one group of people hate another? Why did Hitler hate the Jewish people? Why do skinheads hate everybody that is not white? Is it narrow-mindedness? Maybe. Is it a lack of education? Perhaps.

What about social and cultural influences? What about political influences? White supremacists raise their kids to hate black people, but if you ask the kids, they don’t know why they hate them, they just do. It is like the Hatfield’s and McCoy’s. Generations go by and nobody knows why they are feuding. They just are. They just hate.

Hitler had some mental issues. The terrorists that we are dealing with today have deep rooted religious beliefs that we will never understand. They hate Christians and Christianity. They hate anything from the western world. We think that they are crazy, they think that we are. White supremacists think that they are right and what they do is in the name of God. What makes them any different from the Jihad terrorists?

I was listening to NPR today while running some errands. There was a physicist on there that was commenting on how many of the countries of our planet are getting together peacefully to coexist in outer space on the International Space Station and sharing the satellite lanes over the equator. What he couldn’t understand was why we are cohabitating peacefully in outer space when we can’t get along on the ground? He went on to say that he and all of his colleagues have a cosmic view of life on earth, rather, the view that an astronaut sees when he looks out of his window while in orbit. There are no color coded countries; there are no dotted lines of political boundaries. There is just the earth for all to share. What if there were no more political boundaries? What if there were just “regions formally known as…”?

Hate and greed created these boundaries.

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them who curse you, do good to them who hate you, and pray for them who despitefully use you, and persecute you (Matthew 5:44).

Maybe we don’t have to take our enemies out to dinner as my detractor from above asked. But instead of bombing them, let’s offer to help them rebuild, reorganize or just let them know that we care. I am hoping that our government will lend a hand to China this week after their bad earthquake.

I fully agree that any one person or group of people that wreak the kind of havoc that we saw in Boston this week should be held accountable to the fullest extent the law allows. Every act has its consequences, right or wrong, good or evil. If we are not held accountable here, we will be held accountable somewhere else. We can't run from our responsibilties.

And finally, as incredibly hard as it may be to do, we must forgive. We cannot move on with a peaceful heart until we learn how to do this. It is not our place to judge, although we may be angry and feel we are right in our judgments and lack of forgiveness.

Oscar Wilde once said "Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much."

John Lennon may have had a good point. Imagine.

Once again, thank you all for reading. Though this may not be some of my best work, it is something that I felt I needed to say. Always do a good deed for someone you don’t know, work hard and give the Good Lord thanks for everything, good or bad.

©2013 By Del Banks


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    • badegg profile imageAUTHOR

      Del Banks 

      6 years ago from Southern Blue Ridge Mountains

      Anytime, Kathi.

    • Fossillady profile image


      6 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

      Thanks for trying to spread some love in the world Badegg, we need it! It's the best way to fight hate

    • badegg profile imageAUTHOR

      Del Banks 

      6 years ago from Southern Blue Ridge Mountains

      Sparklea, thank you for thinking of me and my family all of this time. We had our new grandson come into this world last Tuesday, a strapping 8 1/2 pounder!

      Angela, you are right, we keep helping people and we still get kicked around. Some people just don't know how to appreciate anything. We should never give up on praying for each other, though, and for the world as a whole.

      MsDora, You are right as well, it is difficult to forgive while you are angry, but with a little discipline, we can be "slow to anger and quick to think". Thanks to all of you for you comments!

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      Dora Weithers 

      6 years ago from The Caribbean

      Good presentation. My two cents is that it is difficult to forgive while we're still angry, and anger at something like this does not go away in a day. Some feelings may be anger in stead of hate. Let's show compassion for the offender, and no less compassion for those who react to his heinous crime. We'll never stop forgiving.

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      Angela Blair 

      6 years ago from Central Texas

      Very compassionate attitude, my friend and well written. I only disagree on one point -- we've tried to help so many countries with money, etc. and they continue to hate us and hurt our populace. For me personally, I continue to pray for world peace but must admit am somewhat disgruntled at this point as to how much good it's doing. Excellent work! Best/Sis

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      6 years ago from Upstate New York

      Badegg: I want you to know I think of you every day because you, your son and your daughter-in-law have been on my daily prayer list for over a year now. I believe she was going to have a baby? Praying also for the little one.

      Terrific hub, very profound, very true. I keep adding more and more incidents to my prayer list: the movie shooting (Batman); the shooting where all those little kids were killed, and the Boston Marathon.

      Proud that you spoke up!

      Love the quotes, and you are right: Forgiveness is vital.

      Blessings, Sparklea :) VOTED UP AND USEFUL

    • badegg profile imageAUTHOR

      Del Banks 

      6 years ago from Southern Blue Ridge Mountains

      Wow, great! Thank you for commenting so quickly. I have done a complete 180 in my life. When I was younger, I was angry, aggressive, argumentive and found a reason to criticize everyone about everything. It is remarkable what a few years and some life experiences can do. Having raised four kids can cause a tremendous amount of "rethinking" in one man's life because you want to be a positive influence on them, not spawn more of the same ol' crap. Thank you, H.O.!

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 

      6 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      A most provocative and compassionate hub, my friend. I stand by you 100%. When leaders point at the other side of the globe and call it evil, they reinforce the very thing they hate that festers within. There is darkness in everyone, and the sooner each takes responsibility for his or her own darkness, the longer it will take for the light to come shining through. Thanks for sharing, Del! Aloha!



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