Where is change? I don’t see it.

Disclaimer: This article is in no regard written as offense but as an opinion of a citizen that must be heard

Have you ever heard the question, “Where is change?” and often continued with the sentence, “I don’t see it.”?

I have, and it makes me cringe every time I hear it. What is change? Where does it come from? Does it happen overnight? Have you done anything to cause it?

Usually change is spoken regarding politics. But, change is something every human being goes through every day of their lives. Like I always say, “Life is change and change is life.” Change is related to everything, you may change subjects to study, you may change your preference of clothes, you may change your vehicle, and a common occurrence which is you may change your schedule.

However, I speak about change on a broader perspective, which is, change in new generations. Yes, the hot topic of our ancestors.

You might have grandparents or if not just parents around the house, always saying, “What is wrong with this generation? When I was young...,”or somewhere along these lines, and most often you might think, “Here we go again…” Well, next time this happens, think again, “Will I turn out like this as well?” And the answer to that is, “Try not to.” How, you ask?

How does change occur? Change occurs when you take the initiative. And the reason why the new generation or in general all of the generations ended up the way they are, is the way they were brought up.

Dear parents, next time you say,”What is wrong with this generation?” ask yourself not your kids.

Everyone complains in this day and age, about discrimination, terrorism, sexism, bullying and the list goes on. Did you do something to stop it other than complain?

This might sound cliché, but it is the answer to the question, “Change starts with you.”

Now I know what you might say, “Like that’ll make a difference.” But, your wrong, and if you don’t accept that fact, well then you don’t have the right to complain.

Let’s take the example of a seed. You sow a seed, it grew into a plant and then a tree, the tree grew branches, and the branches grew leaves, then flowers and finally fruit. You might think I’m referring to the fruitful outcome, but I’m not.

The seed is you, the tree is your children, whom you taught and nurtured, the branches are your grandchildren, the leaves their kids, then the flowers their kids and then the fruit their kids, and whoever from outside eats that fruit benefits from it as well, they look at your descendants at how well they were brought up, inspire and aspire, directing their kids in the same direction. Continuity of cycle, affects the whole world

What did you do? Sow a seed. It affected the whole world! Do you still believe that change doesn’t start with you and that you can’t do anything about it?

To be precise, we do nothing. As a parent, you might think why your children don’t spend time with you, why they don’t talk to you, why they are so distant, and why their always on their phone?

Go back in time, as a child, did you give them enough time. Children’s minds are malleable, the way you treat them affects their whole life. As a child, sent to daycare, then school, then tuition, dance or whatnot lessons and hardly able to spend time with you. Given them devices to play around with as a child, they learned to live on their own. They didn’t create that distance, you did.

Parents’! Spend time with your kids; teach them to draw and cook or whatever on your own. Sure, send them to school, that’s important, but after that, you spend time with them. If their bad at studies, you teach them, don’t pay someone else. If their having problems, you solve them. Make them talk to you, don’t leave them with devices. To you it might mean nothing, but trust me, to children it means the world.

Hope this helps, may you apply it and I will too. May you and your children be blessed!