Is it Right to Call Each Other Losers?
In a World of "Losers", are there Winners?
Being a loser isn't always so bad. If you're at peace, does it matter if you're a loser? I'd find it better to be a loser and reach out to someone, rather than be cool an make their day worse. Is being "cool" even winning?
Losing Can Be Great... or Not So Much
Losing is part of our daily lives. Unfortunately, we tend to connect it to who we are, and who others are. But who said it has to be all bad? After all, being a loser means being kind to others, then I'm guilty.
The Two Types
People seem to categorize others into two categories of "losers."
- Losers they hate.
- Losers they relate with.
For example, the popular people might hate losers solely because they aren't cool. But those same losers might embrace the label and become friends just because they have that label in common.
It's funny though, because the losers that relate to each other will be spending time together, and begin talking about their mortal enemies (cool people) while unkowningly calling them losers too. "[Person] sucks. He's such a jerk. I never want to be like him." Soon enough, The popular folk are hated the same way they hate others. So is everyone truly a loser? And if they are, who's the winners? Is there an end to the loop of hatred?
Yeah, We All are Losers
Let's face the facts. Somebody in this world probably thinks you're a loser, whether you know it or not. In the same aspect, that person is also probably considered a loser by someone else. Sometimes, both of you mutually think the other is loser. Sometimes, neither of you even knows the other thinks that!
I'm not trying to make you feel bad, or make you question your relationships. Chances are, if someone is your bestfriend, they don't think you're a loser. But I bet you do have that "one friend" that can really grind your gears. Maybe you don't dislike them, but you don't particularly enjoy being around them. Unfortunately, many people would subconsciously slap the "Loser" label over their forehead, and justify it in their conscience with labels that aren't so harsh. "Did you have to invite them?"
That quickly can turn to hatred though, and if you want peace throughout the world, you must have peace within your own world. I'd say just don't judge them. Don't put a label on them. Just make it your goal to be kind to the difficult people in your life. It's hard, but if peace is that important, then it must be worth it. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Simple as that, right?
Hatred Breeds Hatred
Treat others the way you want to be treated.
So, if there's losers, there must be winners. But if we were all losers, well then we'd all just be... human? Maybe there are no winners. Maybe there are no losers. Maybe the winners and losers only exist because we make those labels. Maybe the populars and the not-so-populars are equally flawed. Sure not in all the same ways, but nobody is perfect. And if nobody is perfect, then we as humanity, can't be winners.
Success, fame, riches, trophies, medals. All of them are supposed to be proof that we are winners. I mean yes, you can get first place in a race, and yes there's a last place. Those are only trivial competitions though. If you need there to be real "winners" in life, look at the people who are at peace with life. The content, kind people who don't care to make labels, nor focus on success because they don't need either of them. They are the real winners.
No matter what you call someone, fact is, you're just as human as them.
© 2019 John McNally