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Why am I blessed:Tips on how to fight sadness

Updated on October 23, 2009

Most of us are living in a fast paced, constantly changing society. The demands of everyday living makes life difficult, but it is our take if we give in to the many problems we encounter. We need to be strong specially when we are confronted by daily problems be it small or bigger ones. I would like to share some of the things/experiences in life and how blessed I am that it happened to me. Towards the latter part of the article I would like to give some tips on how to remain happy in spite of your list.

I would like you to get a pen and list down all the things, be it small or big things that happened to you which made you happy. It could be just a gift from your mother which makes you happy or a smile from a stranger. You will be surprised by how many times you have been happy. C’mon get a pen now.

For my own sake, I have listed down many things I have experienced in life which made me happy, sad or in between. I would like to say that at this point in my life I just thought that I have received so much blessings already. I am a woman who comes from humble beginning but I manage to survive and come out alive. I love, laugh, cry, cry even more. Many times I laugh until I am short of breath. But I also get mad, frustrated a lot, curse and drank too much until I don’t know what I am saying. It happened many times.

  1. I have no serious illness and I have never been confined to a hospital except to give birth to my five healthy children. Sometimes I have headache and dysmenorrhea throughout my reproductive life (women usually are able to give birth naturally until the age 49), but I manage alright. I usually anticipate it will happen again every month.
  2. My children are all healthy
  3. I can eat my cravings and I don’t gain much wait. I am flat 104 lbs, and my height is 5’2
  4. I am beautiful inside and out (I have brown complexion smooth, and long hair, and well proportioned face, mind you I am not perfect, am not beautiful when I am angry), but even so at waking up, I still considered myself beautiful. I smile a lot, and do care for everybody.
  5. I have love and lost and love again. I have experienced all there is to experience emotionally, been cheated on, left alone,. I was depressed for a time, I cried a lot in my bedroom, in the fields, everywhere I go when I remember the pain. Then it goes away, and I am happy again.
  6. I have seen places. I have traveled Malta, Europe, Asia, North America and Australia. Although I would like to travel more to Africa and South America if I have the means. I know I can do that in the future.
  7. There was never a time when money was a real problem, even if it is scarce at times, I manage to pull through and I survived
  8. I studied free for twenty years, while through the rest of it, I juggle my time as a mother and a worker
  9. I had a work who gave me the opportunity to study and at the same time nurture a family
  10. I was greeted by a smile of a newborn babies (the five born children I had). I experience the pain, hardship of labor and the happiness that comes with it after you carry your baby.
  11. I had been to ups and downs of raising children who totally depend on you and you mean the world to them.
  12. I was loved by my parents and my siblings.
  13. I had set of friends who are helpful and make me happy.
  14. But, I have lost my only brother and my grandmother whom I love dearly. (she died of old age, everybody has to die)
  15. And lastly I still breathe, that is why I can still write this article

How to stop being sad:

  1. Always stay positive. Things happen for a reason and life is really like a wheel sometimes your on top, other times you are below. Always dwell on the good times and things not the bad ones.
  2. Try and try until you succeed. Don’t give up. Hope is free like your dreams.
  3. Be content and be happy with what you have. Life can get better.
  4. Money is not everything, it is a big part of life but not all in life
  5. The realization that being sad makes you unproductive and it brought many kinds of sickness, tension, stress, etc
  6. Somewhere out there, there is somebody who thinks of you and for your children you mean the world to them, so there’s no reason to sulk
  7. And for the one who loves you, you mean the world to him/her



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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Mick and schoolgirlforreal, thanks, Maita

      schoolgirlforreal, I hope you remain always happy, life is beautiful, Maita

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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago

      Today has been a really hard day for me and I feel unappreciated. This hub made me feel good for a little while and picks up my hopes. I am glad to know you Maita, you are very special flower...I did the list and you're right there is more positive than I thought. Sometimes I think we just need a good cry and as you say life is like a wheel. No diagnosis is necessary, we all feel good or bad at different times.

      Right now I feel bad but w/ your help and my own I realize things will get better. Having more positive people like you in my life would be a blessing and I look forward to the day I have a child who loves me with unconditional love...Rosie

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      Micky Dee 7 years ago

      You are beautiful and so blessed and you helkp others to feel blessed too! You are "up" next by the way! God bless you Dear Maita!

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      masmasika 7 years ago

      Great tips to enjoy life to the fullest. Great share.

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      tony0724 7 years ago from san diego calif

      Maita I am so sorry I did not see this hub sooner. I for one think you are as beautiful as a sunrise ! That is why I am such a fan of yours. Great hub !

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      Lita C. Malicdem 7 years ago from Philippines

      There you are, kabayan! At last my thoughts about you which I dared not ask but always wanted to know are in this hub. Now I seem to almost know you better. You're a model Filipina for all to emulate. Good work! Keep it up!

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      techno-hub 7 years ago

      Nice thoughts

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      hey Rope, thanks for reading this one and for your nice compliments, Maita

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      The Rope 8 years ago from SE US

      As always your heart comes through in your writings. Thank you for sharing so much with the rest of us.

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      hi ehern, thanks so much for dropping by, I really appreciate you reading my hubs and I always look up to you and your writings are always a source of inspiration to me too, Maita

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      ehern33 8 years ago

      Wow, great tips and a good way of positively looking at your life. You are one special lady Maita and glad to know a little more of what is in your heart.

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      thanks for reading this hub kirsten, and I wish you are near here so I can be at least talk to you, it is a stage actually everybody feels that way at times, I wish it will pass soon< I will include you in my prayers, Maita

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      kirstenblog 8 years ago from London UK

      The wheel of life turns, I'm at the bottom just now but I can contradict myself and be happy that I have no reason to feel unhappy! Self Pity Partys do tend to be the ones I arrive to early and leave late and am usually the only part guest! At least I know that tomorrow is a new day and how I feel now will not last through sleep :)

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      to nextstopjupiter: I hope and wish many people could read it, thanks for reading and I hope I inspired you too, just keep on travelling...and less you everyday..

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      nextstopjupiter 8 years ago from here, there and everywhere

      good hub, full of positive advises. More people should read it.

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      to prasadjain, thank you for reading my hub article...I will take your advise and will look for dale carnegies book, I wish to inspire people also...

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      Dr.S.P.PADMA PRASAD 8 years ago from Tumkur

      Your tips are really worthy and they really work. Let the people make use of it.

      I suggest worrying people to read DAle Carnegie's famous book-"How to stop worrying and start living' and that definetely changes their mind.

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      to maven101 ;thank you for that advise and for reading my hubs, Now I could add to my list people I met who gave inspirations and insights, who genuinely are a soul who wites and touches the emotion.....

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

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      maven101 8 years ago from Northern Arizona

      You must be a wonderful mother; grounded, confident, and loving....Great advise for staying positive in the face of life's challenges... I would add that you should always try to associate yourself with like-minded, positive people...stay away from the negative folks that always complain about the rigors of life...Carpe Diem, Larry