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Winning a My 12 Year Battle for Child Support and Not Getting a Dime.
A Year in Court
I have spent the last year of my life fighting a legal battle for child support. My son’s biological Father has refused to pay a dime of child support for the past 12 years. Actually he refused he sued me for custody, child support and paternity when I was in my last trimester forcing me to attend court hearings when I was medically ordered to stay on bed rest. I can’t say for certain this caused my son to be born premature but I will never forgive the guy. I spent 28 days in a NICU unit with my son making certain he survived. When I got him home I attempted to get a restraining order against my son’s father as he had threatened to kill both the child and myself and he was more then capable. And still more court with a new born baby that had health problems. And still yet this guy skipped out on his responsibilities even after swearing in court documents he was the biological father of my child.
My son’s health problems were considerable, we were receiving death threats and I had to take care of my child. Therefore I dropped the restraining order so my son’s idiot Father could keep his pistol. Secretly, I prayed for the accident in which the Father shot himself and my son collected his social security. I only secretly hoped it a few times.
Several years later, I heard from my son’s biological Father gloating he had bedded an attorney. And they would make harassing calls to my home as well. I guess the only thing that could put spice in their sex life was to abuse my son. Make no mistake about it my son has had to be brought up in childhood poverty because his biological father and his girlfriend get off on being emotionally and verbally abusive to me and my child. The biological father has already told me she is a dog which he can’t stand to have sex with but can only get aroused after they make their sick telephone calls to my home. And this continued for years until I moved and changed my number to an unlisted an unlisted number.
Bethune Cookman University
I finally filed with the Department of Revenue to sue my son’s biological father for child support even though I feared for our lives. I could not afford an attorney as I had to be concerned with paying for my son’s medicines, food and clothing as well as being the sole provider of shelter.
And sure enough this sick sexually dysfunctional pair respond but the girlfriend is no longer a capable of practicing law as she is under the sole contract of Bethune Cookman University as a librarian. And still yet she breaks her contract with Bethune Cookman University and makes all kinds of motions and deals with the Department of Revenue in the state of Florida for postponements even when they have the DNA tests results. And this is spun out into a year long process in which the Bethune Cookman University employee, acting as an agent of Bethune Cookman University, abusing the privileged and power entrusted to her and represents her dead beat boyfriend enabling him to yet again skip out ion his financial responsibilities to my child. What is even more amazing is she is screwing the taxpayers in the state of Florida, Bethune Cookman University and has a definitive conflict of interest which she fails to disclose to the court or opposing counsel and she gets away with it.
It is amazing how this woman is driven by her genitals. She should be ashamed of herself. And she didn’t even appear but appeared by telephone for her client/ boyfriend.
I offered a copy of the lawsuit which my son’s biological father brought against me when I was pregnant claiming custody of my fetus, and asking for child support. Despite this genital driven lawyer, it was entered into evidence. I was only allowed 3 years of back child support by statute.
My son’s biological father claims to be disabled although no physician has found him to be so and he can’t obtain social security disability. This man has three degrees and attended graduate school and is in his 50(s) living off his Father’s retirement. The judge was so kind to my son’s biological father and only required him to get a minimum wage job which he had to pay only a small fraction of his salary for child support. I might add my credit is horrible as I have had to pay for everything because of this dead beat. And the dead beat’s great is sterling. He could readily borrow the back child support owed and pay me in full. I should also mention that he is only required to pay $45 a month in back child support. I am not a bank and I would not choose to finance a dead beat’s back child support. He was court ordered to make his child support payment February 1, 2012. I would also like to state that had the girlfriend/lawyer not obtained so many continuances then he would have been required to pay long before this date. The court has completely over indulged the dead beat father in Florida and at the expense of my son, myself and the taxpayer.
February 1, 2012
February 1, 2012 has come and gone and the dead beat didn’t pay one red cent. He didn’t pay anything and the state of Florida, in its infinite wisdom, has claimed that since I have back child support due and child support due I have an increase in income which means I no longer can receive AFDIC or TANF. Even though the Department of Revenue is well aware that the dead beat didn’t pay a dime of the court order monies. As a very sad matter of fact, the Department of revenue will not even issue a letter until 15 days after the payment is delinquent and then there is a process by which he is allowed to have one hearing after another defending his right not to pay child support all while my son’s benefits have been cut off. I in fact have health concerns myself now and I need medical attention and I have been placed on cost share which means the state of Florida wants to charge me $20 a month for Medicaid even though I have no income.
Quite literally a man who has fathered a child can get out of paying child support and receive no consequences even if the child is medically complex and has autism. The court system and the state of Florida doesn’t care. To be disabled or sick in Florida or to care for someone who is, is to be invisible and inconsequential.
For those of you kind hearted folks who wish to help. We have no pro bono lawyers in this area. And our legal aid lost their funding to represent women in my situation. It is amazing to me that the court system would appoint an attorney for someone accused of a crime so they get a just hearing but can’t see the infinite wisdom in balancing out the scales of justice for women who care for children with medical complexities and autism. The white man in Florida can do anything and never be held accountable.
I feel like my son and I are Lacy Peterson and her baby before she was murdered. And because I had the sense to get away from this guy that I and my son will forever be paying for his exceptionally criminal behavior. I have long since given up on the delusion that he would ever come around and be a decent person to his son. As a matter of fact thinking like that is to let my guard down and to endanger my son. The only thing this dead beat criminal could do it pay the court ordered child support which he decided not to February 1, 2012.
My son wasn’t planned but he is the best thing that ever happened to me. I absolutely adore him even when he is not on his best behavior. I couldn’t imagine not being all in as a parent and wanting to support and care for my child. I don’t know how this dead beat could do and be so maliciously criminal to his child. And he clearly has the credit to have borrow the fractional monies required of him to make the first child support payment in over 12 years and he chose not to.
The tacky ugly agent of Bethune Cookman University could have also clearly made the court ordered child support payment as she apparently moonlight’s on all of her employers and yet she choose not to as well. I bet the IRS will have a few grievances with her before it is all over,. As I understand it this attorney/librarian is no longer employed at Bethune Cookman University but was during the course of this trial. I would feel sorry for this woman as she is clearly a very desperate individual to do such bidding but for the fact she has attacked my medically fragile child who has autism for her dead beat boyfriend. How pathetic? I would never do that to get a man or to keep one. My response would have been…”Your child, pay your child support!”.
In the interim, I am looking at being charged for neither healthcare which I can’t afford nor access. We are having all our benefits cut off because I won a certain amount in a child support case but never received a dime. And the dead beat continues to collect both food stamps. Medicaid and TANF claiming to be disabled, milking the system for all it is worth and claiming to be disabled.
I spent a year in child support court to win a case to not get paid a cent.
I want white men to be forced to pay their child support or go to jail. Forget the license bit just put them in work programs in jail. That might be change I can believe in. They can work night and day until they pay every last cent of their child support. There is not justifiable excuse for children to be brought up in poverty in this country. A child in Africa stands a better chance at getting a computer then a child in Florida stands of getting his Father to support him.
What is next?
Well I definitely can't afford an attorney as we aren't even getting AFDIC anymore and we are onthe verge of being homeless because this person has refused to pay a court ordered child support payment. The Department of Revenue will only talk to me about how many cases they have and not about my individual case. DCFS doesn't care of my child goes without food stamps or TANF. They told me the court order took us off welfare. I answered even though we didn't get paid. They hung up on me.
I don't even know how i will find the funding to survive this month. But I thought i would share with everyone so they know if they receive a court order for child support it is basically unenforceable in the state of Florida. And that you can not ever receive income and it be counted as income and your food stamps and welfare can be cut off.
My son is medically complex and I take care of him full time without a break. I have been doing it for 24/7 and the state of Florida hasn't been able to find the funding to put him on the Med-waiver despite the fact I have been working for so many years without any assistance or a break. I should also mention that two of those years I was doing end stage cancer care for my Mother who died last January. My son also has autism for which I do not have a break from either and when he gets sick he requires hospitalization that we just returned from this week. As the sole provider for my son I would happily, if I could move on, but his dead beat Dad owes and he has to pay. Except the Department of Revenue is so easy on dead beat Dad's it is practically and institution in the state of Florida and they love to blame the woman.