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10 Daily Activities That Will Save Your Relationships

Updated on October 30, 2012

Relationships require a lot of hard work. They are fun, wonderful, important things but they can also be very difficult to maintain. Trying to make two people’s lives work together at even the most basic level always results in some type of conflict or confusion. When you get into more intimate relationships and intense relationships (like living together and being married) things get even more complicated. Luckily there are some things that you can practice doing every single day that will improve your relationships. When doing these things becomes a habit you will find that all of your relationships go a little bit more smoothly. Sure you’ll still need to work at them but a lot of that work will get easier when you get used to doing these ten things every day.

The ten daily things that should be done to make your relationships better are:

1.     Take plenty of time for yourself. The number one mistake that most people make which ruins their relationships is that they don’t truly put time with themselves at the top of their priority list. You need to be one hundred percent okay with yourself and in touch with yourself if you want to have happy relationships. You need to take time to yourself to be a good wife, husband, parent, child, etc. Learn to take just a little bit of time to get in touch with yourself each day and a lot of the hassles that happen between you and others will naturally just melt away.

2.     Think before you speak. A lot of the problems that we have in relationships are small problems. We get annoyed with the people in our lives. We snap at them. We say things that we don’t mean. We speak from out emotions instead of saying the logical things that we really mean when we think it through. If you stop each day to practice thinking before you say something then your communication will improve and all of your relationships will get better as a result.

3.     Blame yourself for problems. No, you don’t want to beat yourself up about things. However you should definitely make a conscious effort to stop focusing on what other people are doing wrong to you. Stop trying to change anyone. Instead, focus on what you can do differently to make yourself happier. For example, if your husband always comes in and turns on the TV too loudly while you’re reading you could blame him and ask him to stop … or you could move to another room. Don’t move angrily, just move, solve the problem and move on. There will certainly be big things that do need discussion and compromise but a lot of little things will become so much less problematic if you stop playing the blame game and just resolve the issue the best way that you can solve it on your own.

4.     Say nice things. We all want people to say nice things to us. You don’t have to go overboard and compliment people all of the time. However you should be pleasant and nice, point out the great things that you notice about people, send a smile their way in the morning. This makes the connection between you and others a much nicer one for both of you to enjoy.

5.     Listen to what is actually being said. Don’t jump to conclusions about things that you are told. Don’t read between then lines. Don’t try to figure out the real meaning behind someone’s tone. Just listen to what they say. Assess it. Ask questions if you’re not sure about it. Take things at face value and let yourself relax inside of your relationships.

6.     Go for a walk. People are happier and healthier when they get exercise on a daily basis. It may sound like it’s not a lot of fun or it’s something that you don’t have time for. Do it anyway. The better you feel, the better you’ll be in your relationships and the better your relationships will be for you. Walk with people and you may end up connecting to them even more!

7.     Forgive. Don’t hold people up to unrealistic expectations. They’re human. Forgive them when they do something wrong. Don’t keep harping on it. Let it go. Of course you don’t want to let people walk all over you so be aware of your own boundaries but learn to forgive the things that don’t matter or didn’t really harm you or deserve to be forgiven. You’ll be happier with your relationships when you do.

8.     Be easy on yourself. Many people beat themselves up about their own failures in their relationships. They think they should’ve called their friend and are mad at themselves that they didn’t. They know they often flake out on people or snap at them and feel guilty about it. Stop beating yourself up. Let it go. It’s a new day. Be a better friend now and forgive yourself when you’re not. It’s just life!

9.     Do something fun every day with someone else. Take the time to enjoy the little things in life with others. Life is too hard if you’re constantly assessing problems, talking about money, worrying about how to raise the kids, figuring out what your next steps are … make sure to take at least twenty minutes per day to just do something purely fun with someone in your life that you want to be more connected with. A card game, a shared bubble bath, a nice long phone call … these are little things that make a big difference in the happiness level of your relationships.

10. Say thanks. Keep a gratitude journal. At the start or end of each day take five minutes to sit down and list the things that you are thankful for about the people in your life. Your perspective on how great these people are will begin to shift to an increasingly positive view on them and your relationships will blossom before your eyes. Most of what goes on your relationships is actually about how you perceive them!

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    Melanie Chisnall 5 years ago from Cape Town, South Africa

    Awesome article! I especially like your number one point about taking time for yourself and being comfortable with who you are. You're only asking for trouble if you revolve who you are and what you do everyday, around your partner. You need to be ok with who you are and love yourself first. Brilliant tips here, thanks!

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    Manasidas 6 years ago from Kolkata

    hi brilliant advice you have given and it shows that how much you have clear concept about it. problems are parts of our life. you may also like this.

    https://hubpages.com/relationships/Some-Problems-T...

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    Bhawana Salaria 6 years ago from Australia

    You really have clarity of concept in your mind and write very creative and impressive.I liked your ready reading.

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    saintodd 6 years ago from Suffolk, VA

    Voted up and ranked. Thanks for posting this fantastic hub. Really useful nuggets and practical tips.

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    ilovetowrite94 6 years ago

    What fine points brought out! Excellent Hub!

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    Moons 6 years ago

    Good advise! Up! :)

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    yaknowwhat 6 years ago from USA

    perfect , great hub :)

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    kids-toy-box 6 years ago

    Great tips..funny how they are all intertwinded...e.g if we think before we speak then we wouldn't have to be so hard on ourselves after the consequences. Most important of all is self reflection...if we are more aware of oursleves then we will also be aware of the effects of our actions on others too. Thanks for inspiring me to take a walk!.

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    L a d y f a c e 6 years ago from Canada

    Again, great hub. I would love to pick out a few numbers and rattle off why I agree, but I agree with all of them whole heartedly.

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    Solae Dehvine 7 years ago

    I think number 10 may be one of the more important. Saying please and thank you will sky rocket a relationship and improve intimacy. Not sure what it is about those words but it really matters to be nice and acknowledge what he or she does for you.

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    Julie Grimes 7 years ago from Columbia, MO USA

    Saying thank you is extremely important. I agree with all your pointers. Great hub.

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    AlmondJoyful 7 years ago from WA

    Well done! But it will be challenging to the 10 daily activities.. I will try::) I would need my partner to work with me too!!

    Thanks again,

    Joy

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    lilly_dens 7 years ago

    Advices that are worth listening, reading and keeping!

    great hub! :)

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    brandyBachmann 7 years ago

    great advices Kathryn! :D

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    Ex Get Back Together 7 years ago

    Excellent points. I especially like the one about think before you speak. When partners get comfortable with each other this point many times just flies out the window.

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    Dhatri 7 years ago

    Really a very good saying ,advice from you.........

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    De Greek 7 years ago from UK

    Clever girl. Well done :-)

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    Gypsy Willow 7 years ago from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand

    Such soud advice, thanks for the recap!

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    stagnetto 7 years ago

    How true all your comments are. Will bear them all in mind, although I already practice a few of the points. And do to others as you would do to yourself is also another tip that I find works.

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    movearoundus 7 years ago from Miami, FL

    Sensuous creativity. You are a great hubber and i am a great admirer of you, you have depicted very tricky tips, but the first point is a bit confusing to me. After a busy days work, turmoils of daily life, how it is possible to keep your mood fantastic at the end of the day? yes, we need to evaluate ourselves but today's world is very fast and to cope up with it, you have to spend lots of time, so you don't have enough time for self evaluation.

    Can you give me your wise suggestion please?

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    gramsmith 7 years ago

    Thanks for this nice article.You have given great advice........

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    geekchick 7 years ago

    Great advice. These are all things that are very important in relationships. These are all things I try do. I have another one as well, try to do one small thing for someone each day. It can be a sweet e-card, a note on a pillow, or a note hidden somewhere that is sure to be found later after the person leaves your presence, such as in a purse, a lunch bag, coat pocket, book, whatever.

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    aakashlaghari 7 years ago

    so difficult

    but work is so hard

    good

    nice to meet all of

    and kee it up

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    Feline Prophet 7 years ago

    Very timely advice Kathryn...I hope to take it in the New Year! :)

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    Scott Yates 7 years ago from Ohio

    Great advise!

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    s0126phoenix 7 years ago

    I hope you will read one of my hubs titled, "The Importance of Communication Without Words" and let me know what you think.

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    s0126phoenix 7 years ago

    You did a great job with this hub; there's a lot of good points in here. If I could make one suggestion with #3, it seems that you maybe leaving a little too much room for readers to take this as it's ok to let people walk over them, be a door mat. People, especially females, need to know that no matter how much they love someone, they don't have to let people dominate them.

    Other than that, really good article. I'm planning on making one of my friends read this, hoping he'll take the advice. I especially liked #10. I believe that "everyone" should do that one.

    Thank you for a great read.

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    Kathy Rimel 7 years ago

    Even after 40 years of marriage we need to be reminded of all of these things. Life gets in the way and we forget we need to be extra kind and thoughtful to those we live with

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    kescha1 7 years ago from e-mail

    I feel like the information you put out for ous to read was great, but I also feel like this one person can try to work on all these steps, but at the same time I think both partners should go down the list of things that you have typed out and then they both decide on how they both can come up with a plan so it can work for the both of them. Two heads is always better than one and I feel like working together can strengthen the relationship if you work hard enough.

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    S K G Rao. 7 years ago from Bangalore City - INDIA.

    Make it workable condense your points to 3.It is difficult to remember 10.

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    Duchess OBlunt 7 years ago

    Good points here. Most of them are very helpful in other relationships outside of marriage too.

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    lindagoffigan 7 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

    I think that you wrote an excellent article however there was more written about self improvement instead of relating to the other person. Self improvement does improve relationhips but what about the other party? There can not be a one way improvement to make a relationship work. Relationship involves two people and it will take improvement on the part of both people to make it work.

    The numeration of the article make it easier to read and you did a great job.

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    Vernon Bradley 7 years ago from Yucaipa, California

    Hey, Kathryn, good simple "stuff." Not always easy to pull off, but simple and doable!! You come up with those out of your own experience? Sounds like it. Thanks for the info. It's not been a good week for me relationshipwise and I could have made it better by following all those simple guidelines!! Never too late!

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    emievil 7 years ago from Philippines

    Thanks Kathryn for the great tips!

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    Anuj Agarwal 7 years ago from Noida

    Great points Kathryn. If both partners can follow these advices, they will never get into any trouble and live happily forever. Thumbs Up!!!

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    Jersey Jess 7 years ago from USA

    Great Hub and I love the advice! Thanks for posting!

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    jobister 7 years ago from Anaheim, California

    great advice indeed.

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    stacies29 7 years ago from Washington DC

    Great advice!!!

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    Audrey Kirchner 7 years ago from Central Oregon

    Great advice and so true! Audrey