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5 Reasons Why You Should Try A Long Distance Relationship
You have found yourself wondering if an LDR is worth all the hassle. You've finally found an amazing person and wondering if this is really the path you want to go on. Isn't it true that LDR's have a very high break-up rate? Why would you settle for an LDR if it's so difficult? Well, a lot of times taking a leap of faith ends up paying off- those who take the brave road find out LDRs are pretty incredible.
You get to know one another very well.
You will find if you jump down this rabbit hole, you will know your SO inside and out. LDR couples discuss this all the time. What's the deal? Well, the gist of it is that when your physical self is removed from the equation- and all that entails - what's left is a deep focus on understanding and learning mental and emotional sides of your partner. Late night talks through Skype or phones will take up the space that other activities could/would have taken place. This builds an incredibly strong foundation of knowing who a person is quite deeply in an emotional and mental level- and doing so very quickly. This is in part why so many LDR's fail. Learning who your partner is on a deep level will open up dealbreakers quite quickly. While some non-LDR couples will find these same issues- it may take them years to touch upon them, whereas with an LDR it can be brought to the surface in a couple months. This is an amazingly useful thing as you will find who fits you quite well. If you are lucky and work well with an LDR it's very likely you will stay together through marriage.
You learn how to trust each other.
Not to say you don't trust in a non-LDR relationship! However, trusting each other has to happen much faster then in normal relationships. Its not easy to keep your imagination in check when your partner hasn't responded to you in hours and you are a country/half a world away. Trusting one another that they are not up to no good and prioritizing you as their partner builds an amazing foundation for any relationship. Building that trust and discussing your insecurities (AKA being vulnerable) leads to a very strong foundation of respect, love, and trust for one another: something that is priceless in a good relationship.
You learn to communicate and solve problems together
We all have arguments in any relationship. We all have difficult sides to us and different opinions. Being in an LDR means those things are amplified. Being able to communicate - the single most important aspect of an LDR - builds an incredible support system for when you do have conflict in your relationship. Instead of storming off, you both will be able to discuss your feelings and be vulnerable and open to compromise. You already have to compromise- who gets up early or stays up late for time zone differences, who calls who first, when to text or Skype and dealings ith if it's not enough or too much for a partner in the relationship. You also communicate all day every day. Solving the conflict while having these 2 valuable skills under your belt means conflict is handled in a mature, understanding way.
You both develop independence.
Maybe you are the clingy type or have at least seen it: the couple out every weekend who drifts from their former friend circles in order to be with one another. The woman or man who drops everything and comes running when their SO calls them. You will not be able to do these things in your relationship. It forces you to both live independent lives. At first, this can seem awful- but over time you will find that building yourself up as your own person and having your own space is much healthier then falling into the stages of rearranging your entire life for one person - especially in the early stages of a relationship. Building on who you are as a person and placing yourself first is a valuable lesson for many couples, and you will be ahead of the game. Independence also can help with confidence in a relationship. Upset your BF is hanging out with the guys? Guess what- you lead your own life too! Go out and draw, be with your group of friends, and do what makes you happy too!
You commit- whole heartedly.
It's not easy. It has never, for any LDR couple, been easy to maintain their relationship. But the grit and guts of looking life in the eye and saying "I choose them over convenience because they mean something to me and I am not letting go!" is absolutely incredible. The hard work and commitment you give to one another, the attention to little things- these are all very important skills for marriage or a very long committed relationship. Working hard and proving you can beat the odds makes you formidable apart, and incredible when you finally fill the gap. You will have one of the strongest, most vulnerable, open, healthy and independent relationship foundations you could possibly have. All of these things lead to an incredible partnership between you and your SO. If you can make it through an LDR, you can make it through anything - and I mean ANYTHING. It's a great test, but if you can overcome it you are set together for life.
It is worth every step of this difficult journey. To know you worked so hard for this person and they in return did the same speaks VOLUMES. There are really no words for how incredible it is. So take the leap- test the waters- and enjoy the experience. May your journey lead to much joy!