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10 Terrific Reasons to Date a Writer

Updated on October 31, 2012

Have you ever dated a writer? A lot of times people speak negatively about the experience. That’s because there are definitely some quirky things that you have to put up with when you date someone who makes writing their job or serious hobby. These people often want to be left alone, they tend to turn everything into a bigger story than it is and admittedly writers can be a little bit weird. Nevertheless, dating a writer can be a really terrific experience. There are just so many little benefits to dating a writer that make the negatives worth their trouble.

Here is a look at ten great reasons to date a writer:

1. Writers will take the time to romance you with language. One of the best perks of dating a writer is that this person will take the time to write to you. You’ll get cards and letters for no reason. They’ll be filled withpoetic language or detailed memories. They’ll make you smile. Dating a writer means that you will receive love letters or that silly little notes will turn up in your pockets. Flowery descriptions of everything great about you will be shared on special occasions and you’ll get to bask in what that feels like. See one of my posts with suggestions on things to write someone for Valentine’s Day for an idea of what you may receive when dating a writer. These things are part of the package when you date a writer and you’ll enjoy them.

2. Your ego will be stoked. That’s because a writer often writes about the people that he or she is dating. Date a blog writer and you will notice little references to yourself in the posts. Date a poet and you will see yourself reflected back in some of the lines of poetry that the person recites at open mic nights or poetry readings. Date a novelist and see yourself turned into a full-fledged book character. Your narcissistic tendencies will be happily fed when you date a writer. Of course, the drawback here is that dating a writer means that personal details about you may turn up in written form and the writer may write much less flattering things about you if you break up. But this negative side doesn’t take away from the fun and joy of the positive side of being written about.

3. Writers will thank you in their dedications. Writers are big on acknowledging those who have helped them. Almost every book at the bookstore has a page for dedications and / or acknowledgments. Song writers and poets frequently include a dedication on their work. Date a writer and the world will know that you’ve supported someone in the arts. That’s a big deal. It’s even better than seeing yourself turned into a character in the book. It will make you feel truly appreciated.

4. Writers will drag you to interesting events. Most writers are curious people. We like to go to lots of different types of things so that we can broaden the boundaries of our life experience and therefore give a wider scope to our writing. When you date a writer, you can expect to be invited to everything from GoKart tracks to circus performances to horse racing. You’ll have fun doing things that you might not have thought about doing on your own.

5. Writers will remind you that money doesn’t matter so much. People who write for a living don’t do it to get rich. They know that money may matter but it’s not the most important thing in life. Sure, they’ll have their meltdown moments when the bills aren’t getting paid but they’ll always say it’s worth it to be doing something that they love to do. They place creativity above the rest of life. Dating a writer will help to remind you that it’s important to pursue your passions. It may get frustrating at times but it makes your life far more passionate and interesting.

6. Writers are really passionate. Writers use all of their senses. They are passionate about their work and passionate about their lives. Any relationship that is filled with passion is a relationship that is worth trying on!

7. Writers will offer you an interesting perspective on things. There is a writing quote about how writers taste life twice - once in the living and once in the re-telling of the experience as they write it down. Writers pay attention to all of the interesting (and even the not-so-interesting) details in life so that they can recapture their experiences in their writing. When you date a writer you will be privy to all of their insights about life’s events and experiences - and you may find that you get to see things in a whole new light. That makes dating this person fun.

8. Writers are smart. The majority of writers are intelligent people. They are usually well-read and well-educated which means they can hold their own in many types of conversations. Dating someone dumb just isn’t fun for long; dating someone smart is always an interesting challenge. Writers always have something to say.

9. Writers can think through their feelings. A writer might be just as likely as anyone else to snap at you. However writers also are quick to take back what they said when they are angry and to correct it with what they really mean. Words matter to writers and they want to make sure that they use the right ones to make it possible for you to truly understand what they’re saying and where they are coming from. This is a big asset in any long-term relationships.

10. Writers really enjoy their solitude. Unless you’re in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, you probably want at least some time to yourself and time to spend with your friends and family. Writers want time to be alone to write and think which means that you’ll get your own much-needed space as well. It can be frustrating to have a writer shut you out to work but it can give you the space that you need to do your own thing and grow your own creative self.

Now don’t you want to date a writer?!


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    6 years ago

    So that's why my friend separated and loves me more than her husband.

    At least now, I have ten points to direct her to.

    Before I read this, it was a confusing state of affairs. No pun intended.

    You described me rather well.

    I have very few friends, but the ones I do...

    They get stories all the time.

    Jen is calling down today.

    I'm showing this to her.

    When she sits next to me later on, she might understand my distance from society.

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    Rouillie Wilkerson 

    7 years ago

    The intro snatched me right up! I could so relate to this great read. :D

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    Larry Ray Palmer 

    8 years ago from Macon, Missouri

    Great points... My wife is so lucky to be married to me.... lol

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    Sandy Mertens 

    8 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

    Great info. I wonder if my husband would mind if I date a writer.

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    Vernon Bradley 

    8 years ago from Yucaipa, California

    I don't know, well, I guess I could be positive and say, Hey, my wife will read this and have a change of heart!!

    Good stuff. Good stuff for me to think about. I've given up in some ways. My wife is terribly jealous of my writing and for some reason feels in competition. Drives me crazy. Reminds me of my Dad and triggers a lot of old Dad "stuff." BUT hey, thanks for the cool blog. I'll print out a copy and leave it around! Or maybe just gently and sweetly give it to her. "Hey, sweets, here's something interesting to read!"

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    Audrey Kirchner 

    8 years ago from Washington

    Writers are the most interesting people in the world, right? I know I am...har har - and other people that write, right there with me~! We all are the most lovable people in the world - who knew? Go writers! Audrey

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    Jersey Jess 

    8 years ago from USA

    I love this Hub! Congrats, keep up the great work! I agree with Anna Marie, I'm definitely sending this to my boyfriend! :D

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    Anna Marie Bowman 

    8 years ago from Florida

    I have to send this to my boyfriend!!!! He will love it! Maybe it will give him some perspective on why I do what I do, and why he is so lucky to be with me! LOL

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    8 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

    What a great idea for a hub, Kathryn! I can't argue with any of the points that you made, but I would like to add just one more: Writers are eccentric! Okay, so it's in the subtext, but here it is in black and white :D

    Thanks for sharing this one. Happy New Year!



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