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10 Tips for Women: Improving Relationships

Updated on February 29, 2020

We see it all over in the media and the fantasies of our own minds: that perfect relationship where nothing ever goes wrong, nobody is ever sad or hurt, and the Princess and her Knight in Shining Armor go riding off into the sunset to live happily ever after. Sadly, reality tells us that this is hardly the case, relationships are like anything, they take real work and effort as well as compromise, honesty, trust and a little bit of tears.

The responsibility for cultivating a real and lasting relationship lies on both parties, typically defined in "male" and "female" roles. These roles have very little to do with gender, most often, and settle more into stereotypes based on societal norms developed over thousands of years. For the sake of the reader, however, I will examine the way a relationship can be improved from the heterosexual stereotypes - and try and inject some of my own personal humor along the way.


Ladies, you've got a difficult task in front of you. How do you fix all the things you vent about to your friends? In some cases, do you really want to? If you know that the partner you have is one you want to keep, then let's look at a few ways to improve on some of the things YOU do, but don't admit to doing.

  1. First off, start admitting your part in difficulties. By taking responsibility for the things you make difficult, the fights you start, the little signs you give that you're unhappy about something, you can separate yourself from a purely emotional position and begin to analyze solutions to your problems.
  2. Second, express yourself vocally more often. Did something upset you enough that you won't be 'over it' in an hour or so? Talk about it! Sometimes your man does things that he just doesn't realize hurt you. Don't worry, you do the same thing to him!
  3. Third, maybe it IS time to wear that outfit that you think is just awful but really gets his eyes twinkling. I don't care if it is two sizes too small, trashy, or makes your least favorite feature pop into the limelight. You're not wearing it for yourself.
  4. Fourth, let him do what he wants to do more often! As hard as it may be to believe, you CAN be totally in love with someone and want some alone time or to do something the other doesn't like at all. Variety is the spice of life, but it's no good on your omelettes.
  5. Fifth, and this one is a doozy - warn him about your mood swings when you feel them coming on. You want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, right? If you don't then what the heck are you doing with him? (Unless he's in his senior years and filthy stinking rich, then we all know why you're with him. Keep humping sandpaper, Mrs. Digger.)
  6. Sixth, just shut up sometimes. No really, don't even say anything. You're witty, you're pretty, he loves you, but if you say what you're thinking but really don't mean then you could start a pattern of meaningless arguments.
  7. Seventh, giving him the cold shoulder will not always work, so don't do it to spite him - do it to give yourself the time to chew through your emotions and get to a more reasonable mental condition.
  8. Eighth, don't ask questions you don't want the honest answer to - and don't ask loaded questions, he'll just get them wrong and you'll be mad. It won't matter that it's YOUR fault you're mad, you'll project that blame on him and cry about how awful he is to you later.
  9. Ninth, please don't rush him. More often than not he's willing to do what you ask of him, but the more you push him, the less he'll want to do it.
  10. Tenth, if you want to unload and vent about your day but just want him to hear you out and then move on, tell him that! When you talk about things that upset you, his natural reaction will be to go back to the stone age and club/spear/slingshot your enemies to keep his woman safe. Most men don't understand that you'll need to get things off your chest then move on with life.

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    • danny-rose profile image

      danny-rose 

      10 years ago

      Thanks, but it works with people who are willing to work things out. I have been in relationship for twenty-five years doing everything to make him happy, but it does not work. The blame is always on me for everything. His mother injected so much poison in our marriage it is impossible to be fixed.

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      Merle Ann Johnson 

      11 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      Sounds good to me...Now I need to find a man again...and I will do all these things..LOL hee hee..Good job..G-Ma :o) Hugs & Peace...

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      Julianna 

      11 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      I am certainly looking forward to that as they as well need tips to creative an even balance in the relationship, I am glad you answered the request.:)

    • gamergirl profile imageAUTHOR

      Kiz Robinson 

      11 years ago from New Orleans, Louisiana

      Thanks, AEvans, your request made me think a lot. Watch out for part two where I give ten tips for guys! :)

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      Julianna 

      11 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      This is a wonderful article, you hit them all right on the nose!!! I hope that others will take the advice as so many times, we as women do not pay attention:)

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