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10 Ways To Know If He's Just Not That Into You

Updated on May 10, 2013
If he Ignores you this is not a good sign.
If he Ignores you this is not a good sign.

He's Just Not That Into You

Ok ladies, I'm no Carrie Bradshaw, but i have ultimately experienced the inevitable;You know, the feeling that every female will experience at some point in her life; the one where you get that lump in the back of your throat, or the sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. Humiliation is the feeling that sums it up; this occurs when you've finally come to the realization that, He's Just Not That Into You. Ladies, this is not just the name of Matthew McCounauhey's latest movie, but is perhaps one of the worst feeling's in the world. I am,for the most part not dillusional or crazy but I have learned that, first and foremost,  I have to be honest with my self. The best way to counteract a situation, whether it be good or bad is to first, admit to yourself that there actually is one. Ladies, we need to be as honest with ourselves as possible especially in the so called dating game. We must realize that we are all human and learning through the process of trial an error; with that being said I will attempt to shed light on this situation. I know that we have all wondered; what's wrong with me?, why isn't he head over heels by now?, am I not pretty enough,? am I not permiscuious enough,? did I sleep with him too fast,? am I too boring for him?, is he too fast for me?, why doesn't he like me? Ladies, I'm here to tell you, that If you have had any one of the thoughts or questions previously listed, your not alone. What you may be is, too concerned! I know your probably thinking by now; how is that so?. Reason being; because men, or people in general like who they like for whatever reason it is that they like that person. It may sound strange ,but in actuality it really, isn't . Ladies, how many times have you fell head over heels for a guy, who wasn't the perfect gentleman. I know you have probably ran out of finger's and toes counting by now, but there was just something about him, that just drew you in. Here's a perfect scenario, how many of you, dated Mr. Right, but was about as attracted to him as you probably were to Frankenstein. I know it's wrong to say that but, hey it's true. This situation itself is no fun because, here is where you may have to play the bad girl and just let him go, no chemistry, no love, sorry ladies. Men, experience the same things in relationships as women, so just keep that in mind the next time you become so wrapped up in a guy who is perhaps showing some signs that He's Just Not That Into You. If you are not sure about what some of those signs are, I will be more than happy to assist you in this area. Here they are the 10 Ways To Know That He's Just Not That Into You.


10th Sign: He Doesn't Call

According to another hub of mines, that is entitled, "10-Ways-to-Know-if-a-guy-likes-you", I listed one to know if he likes you is if he is calls you; So what better way to display that he is really not into you, can he express; if he doesn't call ,then he is probably not concerned with what you're doing, and is basically too busy to be bothered with you. I.E. your not apart of his plan ,at least not for the time being. I know this is harsh but it's true. Sorry ladies. You may need to call up the girls and have a girls night out. You may need to find a new interest because, obviously your not his.

9th Sign: He Never Invites You to Anything

 This sign is a dead give away. If he never includes you in any of his plans, then he's really not thinking of being in a real relationship with you. When a man likes you, he usually expresses it through dating , and spending time with u. which brings me to the next sign.

8th Sign: He Doesn't Spend Time With You

Ok ladies, if he is always too busy for you; that is just that. He's too busy,translation my life doesn't have room for you, nice knowing you. Please feel free to stop calling or pursuing me because i'm not even pursuing you. I maybe spending time with someone else, after all I'm always too busy for you.

7th Sign: He Never Pays You Any Compliments

If he doesn't pay you any compliments then, I hate to tell you but, he is just not that into you. Everybody knows that flattering a female gets you everywhere. If the flattering stops then so has his heart or feelings where you're concerned.

6th Sign: He Finds Fault In Everything You Do

 Ladies beware, that every man is not man enough to just tell you that he's no longer interested. But If he acts as if he can't stand the sight of you, then nine times out of ten he probably can't. So now he creates an argument as an excuse, to do just that excuse himself from the presence of you.

5th Sign: He Doesn't Answer Your Phone Calls

 If he doesn't call you, and when you attempt to call him, he doesn't answer, then nine times out of ten he doesn't want to be bothered with you. This one is a dead give away that you should move on.

4th Sign: He Lies to You

 If he lies to you, then he's probably no longer concerned with what you think. He just need to tell you anything, so that he can move about his life with the disturbance of you. So ladies stop questioning an obvious liar, the fact that he lied to you should be enough to say, next.

3rd Sign: He Tells You That He's Just Not That Into You

 While this one sounds a bit harsh, this is the one that I'm most appreciative of. I would much rather be told than to be strung along.  As much as I despise a player, I despise a liar much more. So please ladies if a man tells you that he's no longer fund of you, believe him and remain a lady and gracefully move on.

2nd Sign: He No Longer Makes A Physical Advance Towards You

 If he is no longer physically advances, i.e. attempting to touch, hold, kiss, or even talk to you, then chances are there are no more chances. Men like to express themselves more physical than any other way; an if physical expression has ceased then so has the relationship ladies.

1st Sign: He Openly Ignores You

 If he is no longer interested in you or what you have to say then he will begin to ignore you. If he ignores what your saying, then it's clear that he no longer cares or possess interest in what your doing. So please ladies don't continue to burden him with your conversation or nagging. Keep your dignity, and self respect and move on.


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      6 years ago

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      6 years ago

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      6 years ago

      Hello Kelly I just would say that do some of the things he likes to do and let him see you doing them and you could ask one of his friends what he wants in a girl and see if you are any of those things he wants and just maybe he might start to like you. GOOD LUCK!!!!

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      6 years ago

      Hi I'm 12 and I just started yr 7 there's this really hot it nf I'm in his tech class n whenever he laughs I smile but I asked him out n he said no how do I get him to like me? I'm really depressed so cud I Plc get back 2 me ASAP?

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      6 years ago

      You said "ladies beware, that every man is not man enough to just tell you that he's no longer interested". What if he doesn't want to hurt your feelings? Or is a considerate man just "not man enough" for you?

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      7 years ago from United States

      This is great ..Thanks a lot

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      7 years ago

      Great hub.

      Great tips to know your friend.

      Keep it up

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      7 years ago from Michigan

      Biggest Best Tip: Don't worry anymore rather he's into you or not.. someone will be soon enough.. Have fun, relax, chill and to heck with him, maybe your too much a women for him, not the opposite way around, never take em too personally as life is too short... Now go put on something sexy and dance around.

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      7 years ago

      these are great insights , thank you for sharing

    • SueShepard profile image


      7 years ago from USA

      You are on point with each of these! The "Ignoring" is a real big sign! Too many girls don't get that.

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      7 years ago from New Jersey

      yea, we're always making excuses like, "oh, he's not calling because he's SOOO busy at work!" and stuff like that. Really,our intuition is telling us the TRUTH the whole time - but we choose not to listen!!!

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      7 years ago from Alabama

      @dotty 1 great analysis

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      7 years ago from In my world

      Aw Shaekelly you and I both :) ...however you are sounding wise and so they must been of use hehehe

    • shaekelly profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Alabama

      @dotty 1 thanks for viewing this hub, and for commenting. As for men coming with a manual good luck. Maybe if I make enough mistakes I can compile more hubs and from them an ebook lol. P.S feel free to make as many comments u like.

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      7 years ago from In my world

      hello I have commented before but have returned again to reaffirm these facts to myself!!!!!...eeek why dont men come with a mannual? and why do us girls not ever see what is staring us in the face? xxx

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      should i text him 

      7 years ago

      Hey Really nice hub share.. I like this..

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      7 years ago from The Bahamas

      I never had a boyfriend before but it looks like its hard. I think you give some real good pointer, one clue you should put is that he does not introduce you to his friends or tell them that you're his girlfriend.

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      7 years ago from Alabama

      @ doty1 thanks for reading my hub. Neither will I.

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      7 years ago from In my world

      brilliant hub sooo interesting ...I will so never get these creatures hehe

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      7 years ago

      I think the same exact list could be named "What will happen once you get married!"

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      7 years ago

      All true!

      Although sometimes with #4 it's just the opposite. If he is "Brutally honest" without making any effort to be tactful or show any concern for how she may handle his's a sure sign he is not into her.

      Bascially he takes her for granted and could care less if she walked out of his life.


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