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10 Wrong Reasons to Get Married - Part I
In today's world where marriage is dying, it is vitally important for those who do marry, marry for the right reasons. When we marry, it is suppose to be for the rest of our lives. "Until death do us part" is dying (no pun intended). One way to avoid marrying for the wrong reason is to really self-assess your motives when considering tying the knot and seek God's guidance. Let's take a look at the first 5 wrong reasons to marry.
Pressure from Family or Friends
There may be a certain person your family/friends really like. They may pressure you to grab him when you can. Keep in mind that you are the one whose marrying the person. Sound counsel is good and the Bible instructs us to listen to sound counsel. Ultimately, though, you are the one marrying this person and will have to live with him. If you have second thoughts, be prayerful and make sure it is God-ordained. If it isn't, please don't make the mistake. Maybe he is the one, but more time is needed to be sure. Don't rush into anything.
Your Biological Clock is Ticking
Tick, tick, tick....I've heard the biological clock loud and clear myself. Marrying the wrong person just because you feel you're out of time is a recipe to future unhappines. My clock stopped before I married. However, I have gained 3 daughters and 2 grandsons. Adoption is always an option as well. There are so many children who need good homes. Don't let the drive to have a child drive you to a hasty decision. Building a family these days takes preparation and patience. More importantly, it takes two people who are together for the right reason to raise a family successfully.
You may be in a divine delay period. This may be a season when God has other blessings prepared for you now before you move on to the next season of your life.
Loneliness is a beast. Before you know it, it will eat you alive. Loneliness will steal your purpose, joy and self-worth. It is a trick the enemy will use to defeat.
Strive to be complete and whole within yourself. When you reach wholeness within, loneliness will disappear. You realize you are never alone and those times when lonelines does rear its' head, you will know how to kill it.
If you are experiencing loneliness, read this.
You're Tired of Being a Third Wheel
This world is built to cater to couples. Let's face it, God created marriage--He ordained it. That means the couples world was created by Him. When you are single, it is never more clear than when you are a third wheel with another couple- especially if they are married. But don't let your drive and desire to marry, push you into a marriage with the wrong person. This, too, will pass.
Someone Loves You and/or Needs You
I've heard people say that it is better to marry someone who loves you than to marry someone you love. I do understand the logic behind that statement. If someone loves you, he will always look out for your best interest and cater to your needs. But do you really want a one-sided relationship like that just for the sake of being married? Married love should be mutual- not one-sided. Don't cave into affection that's not returned.