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10 reasons not to be single
Are you single?
There are hundreds of thousands of mature single people in the world, by single I mean divorced, not married, not in a relationship, just by themselves, single, which is really sad.
Being a single man or woman is not fun, loneliness can cause a depression, and the worst outcome is a suicide.
For some people being single is normal, it's their lifestyle they feel comfortable not having any commitments, when for other being single is a total nightmare, I know some women who just can't be single, they suffer so much of it.
There are so many benefits of not being single in your 40s, mature dating is full of happiness, enjoyment and fun.
According to a survey conducted at one of the top dating sites for mature singles LoveAgain.com on the subject "What are the reason not to be single in your 40s?", here is a list of 10 the most common reasons.
- You will have someone special to think of, to love, to care about, who will support you whenever you need it.
- You will always be happy and excited because you are in love. You'll have a lot of energy to enjoy life, and explore new things and places.
- You will have someone special around you, who will make you feel happy and cared about. You two will express love for each other, make sweet things like candlelight dinner, little surprises, gifts.
- You will have a more diverse time, going out to movies, restaurants, picnics, visiting each other family and friends, will bring back sense to your life.
- You will make new friends, who maybe will share same interest as you have or involve you in something new, that you've never have tried by yourself.
- You'll have double income which means you'll have more freedom to buy things, to travel to spend money for pleasure.
- Intimacy is also one of the key factors to have a relationship. Kissing and touching will bring endorphins the hormones of happiness and pleasure.
- People who are married live longer this is a scientific fact. You'll lengthen your life having an amorous relationship.
- Feeling love and care of your significant one will fill your life with joy and happiness.
- You'll have great memories of your life, of things you did together, of places you have been to together.
What can not stand different signs of the Zodiac
Sign of the Zodiac
| What can not stand
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|---|---|
Aries
| Obtrusiveness, Disorganization, Histrionics, Monotony, Memories of the past
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Taurus
| Strange Pressure, Restlessness, Lack of Style, Fussiness, Expression of Feelings
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Gemini
| Disrespect, Folly, Other People's Stories, Secretiveness, the Truth about Themselves
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Cancer
| Ostentation, Poorly Maintained House, Quick Solutions, Irresponsibleness
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Leo
| No Sense of Humor, Complaints about Life, Greed, Jealousy, Discourtesy
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Virgo
| Carelessness, Inhospitality, Curiosity, People Treated Them with Cheap Food
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Libra
| Indifference, Discourtesy, Disputes, Unkempt and Unfashionable Clothes, Cheap Gifts
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Scorpio
| Discipline, Futility, Hypocrisy, Criticism, Spinelessness, Dreaminess
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Sagittarius
| Other People's Advice, Unfulfilled Promises, Boredom, Inutility
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Capricorn
| The Low Social Status, The Imposition of Priorities, Unpredictability, Wordiness, Laziness
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Aquarius
| Coercion, Betrayal, Restricting the Freedom of Action and Choice, Routine, A Reminder of the Shortcomings
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Pisces
| Irresponsibility, Ingratitude, Lack of Knowledge, "a One-Way Street" Case, Drunkenness
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Comments
HI Amanda! Funny, but I wrote a hub on 10 (or so) reasons to be single! LOL! I don't think it's sad at all to be single, but just the opposite to be stuck in a marriage that is often unhappy. I don't think that there is someone for everyone, necessarily. Some people can make it work, but many cannot. Some people find a sort of "soul mate," someone they are super compatible with, but others don't. It's complicated. That's why over 50% of marriages fail. I was in a relationship 12 years, and am much more fulfilled now alone and living my own life! I have zero desire for another long-term relationship. Not all people in relationships give joy and support. But to each his or her own. I think it depends on the people , their experiences, and situation. Your hub does give us something to think about!
Interesting article, however, it's better to be single than settle for less than you deserve, even if you'll be single for a long time, it's still worth it. There are consequences for that as you have mentioned above, but believe me, when we are talking about long-term plans, it's better that way or else you'll come to do something which you'll come to regret for a very long time....interesting article, voted up/ useful....great job...
10 reasons not to be single great thoughts here but the many single people are so clued up with their lives that don't look further than what they have and know. Interesting hub.
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Hi Cat thanks for your comment. I 100% agree with you saying that there is someone meant for everyone, to share life together and for those who is happy being single, well it's their personal choice.
AmandaJon,
This is a really interesting article, especially considering how it seems more common to hear how it's 'okay to be single' or 'embrace being single' or the 'benefits to being single' :D ... you get my point. I have to say that after a really long and equally bad relationship, sometimes single is refreshing! However, I am aware that there are some people who can entertain themselves and be content without a partner easier than others. I also couldn't help but notice how many people voted in the pole said they were single and 'happy' (and you did not have a choice of 'In an Unhappy relationship', which I fear would've been a popular choice :D )
There are some people that are so afraid to be alone or just don't know how to be alone that they will take any kind of relationship and settle for less than they deserve. To me alone doesn't necessarily have to mean being lonely. With all of that said, I think that we are all meant to have a special one to share the best days of our lives with. I think that is the ultimate life. Someone to be there through the rough times and someone to share the high times with. Sometimes its takes bad relationships and being single to lead to that 'ideal' relationship where it will be truly appreciated.
Very interesting article... and loved the astrology graph... I laughed out loud at my Gemini!
Up and others ~ Sharing too!
Cat
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Thank you so much for your comment, I appreciate it a lot. Your opinion is very interesting really, if my list can help couples in relationship I'm double happy.
Thanks again for read my hub, maybe you would be interested in reading them all.
AmandaJon - Your list of reasons why not to be single is very meaningful. But more importantly, I found that it is also very useful for people who are in a relationship. You list provides ideas of important things to share in a relationship. Sometimes we forget and take it for granted. So your list is a great resource for those who want to add meaning to -- and appreciation for -- an existing relationship. Well done!
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Thanks a lot James W. Nelson, I'll check your site, feel free to read my hubs and follow me.
Hi AmandaJon, what a pretty name! Thank you for the follow. I was surprised, as I haven't posted anything on HubPages for months. The reason, well, I have started a new blog/website and thought I would share my postings on both places, and found out I couldn't do that. I get many, many, more hits on my blog/website so have gone there exclusively. Should you want to look the address is morninginapril.weebly.com, and don't forget the http:// at the beginning of the URL. I didn't put it in, hoping not to get in trouble with HubPages. I looked at all your hubs, quite an interesting lineup and I plan to read one more. I see I'm down to a level 3 commenter, probably because of no hubs. I stay onboard just to comment on a few favorite friends' hubs.
Again, thank you for the follow, and I'm glad you have found someone to love,
James W. Nelson
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Hope you'll find your perfect man, and will be very happy together, we all deserve it.
Lovely read, Amanda - but it's just finding the right person.
I hope Cupid is reading my post. :-)
Thanks
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Thank you so much, Healthmom. I agree better to be single than with the wrong person, but the best is to be happy with your perfect match.
Good luck! Be happy.
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Hi Sueswan, thank you for your comment, I really appreciate that you read my hub. Too bad you're single, but I hope it was your own decision and I'm sure you can change it, if you want it.
It is lonely being single, but worse than lonely with the wrong person! Glad to hear you found a wonderful match online! Welcome to hub-pages as well.
Hi Amanda,
Your reasons are true if you are with the right person. If two people compliment and bring out the best in each other and support each other that is great. Single and happy
Voted up and interesting.
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Hi Billy, sure there is nothing good in being single and lonely, glad you enjoy it.
Good luck!
Great reasons for sure. I know my number one reason: I don't have to spend so much time with me. LOL
interesting hub, I absolutely agree being single is suck. Cool reasons you've wrote about.
Voted up.
dashing, I don't share my beliefs. I share my experiences, and have have chosen to not date jerks. It's that simple. And yes, AmandaJon, relocation has been in serious consideration for a long time. It's my only option. When my child is grown, in 7 more years, I will be free to leave the bedroom state of CT.
heatherdos, Do you really believe that (all) the married women in (your part of the world) are married to men who are jerks? or All the "good ones" are taken?
You make it sound like finding a kind and decent man is similar to winning the lottery! And yet each year 2 million weddings take place in America.
The irony here is there are lots of men probably in (your part of the world) who are saying the same thing about women!
Most likely both men and women have come across people who had the "important" traits required to have a great relationship/marriage but for whatever reason they chose to pass on them.
Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. There is no getting around that. If we are unhappy with (our) choices we have to examine what our criteria has been in the past and why we (chose) those particular people in th first place. You can only learn from your mistkaes.
When we change our circumstances change.
“Love isn’t finding a perfect person. It’s seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” – Sam Keen
Best of luck!
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Ok i hear you, then I have another idea maybe you should move to another place, somewhere where you will definitely find your perfect date, not the worst choice I guess.
I date more men than anyone I know. I get dates like you wouldn't believe. I date all right, that's the problem. I have no expectations or criteria, that's a problem too, because when you have no pre-judgments or criteria, you end up dating all the wrong people or dating down. Honestly, I've learned to be more judgmental as to not waste my time. For a long time I gave guys the benefit of the doubt only to have to bar them from my life. I'm telling you Amanda, there just aren't very many nice men out there, you happened to get lucky. It's really not easy at all for high quality people to meet other high quality people.
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I know what do you mean by " It's really not as simple as it sounds.", but I don't agree that there are not nice men out there where you live, nice people are everywhere, have you tried to look beyond your expectations and not to judge a man according your criteria but just enjoy communication. You said you've created a peaceful life, how do you know maybe your life would become much more exciting and fun if you date someone.
I never intended to be single at 40. however, I'm really not finding anyone nice. I'm single in order to protect the peaceful life I've created. There just aren't nice men out there, at least not here in this part of the world. If I found someone who treated me kindly and respectfully, I would not be single. It's really not as simple as it sounds.
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Thanks for your opinion. Sure both statuses have its pros and cons, some people stay single by their own choice, but for those who is not willing to be single there are a large number of reasons not be single. Life can be so wonderful with the right approach.
Very interesting especially with the astrology angle. :-)
I really enjoyed being single and I enjoy being in relationships. As the old saying states: "Wherever you go there you are."
You are responsible for your own happiness.
If you are a positive happy person in general who is comfortable in your skin odds are you're probably single by choice. People are drawn to people who emit positive vibes.
There are perks to both relationship statuses (single or attached). However when it is all said and done if (you) aren't happy it won't matter.
On any given day there is a large segment of married people who secretly wish they were single again and there are lots of single people who clamor for the stability that comes with a committed relationship. For some people the grass is always greener on the other side! :-)
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