11 Reasons Why Good Men Won't Cheat
Cheating in a relationship is, of course, not monopolized by either gender. Men cheat, women cheat, and according to studies, they have different reasons for doing so. Each individual and scenario brings about a reason or reasons of its own. Stories are frequently told of men who can’t keep it in their pants’ and of irresponsible dads who disappear after siring a child. Bad men always have excuses for why men cheat – it was a momentary lapse of judgment, she started it, it meant nothing, or it was purely physical. But good men don’t give frail excuses like these; they are men of honor, they have integrity, and they do the right thing, no matter what the temptation they are faced with, they have solid reasons for being faithful. A good man is a man of his word and his word of honor is very crucial. After doing all the work of getting a woman to trust him and convincing her that he is what he says he is a good man, he would never damage his honor by betraying her. Does that mean they are never tempted? No it doesn't. They are all tempted from time to time. But when they are, they walk away from it or run, as far as necessary. There are plenty of reasons why a good man won’t cheat. Here are some of them:
He's happy with what he's got
A good man appreciates what he has. Once a good man have settled down with a woman he cares about, the last thing he wants to do is go searching for more women. Cheating just isn't an option. The more he appreciates you, the more valuable, the less he’ll be willing to risk losing you or hurting you. When a good man truly loves and appreciates the woman in his life, he would never act in ways that put his relationship with her in jeopardy.
He is not impulsive
Monogamy is a choice. It is a pledge to the person you love to commit yourself to them, and only them. A good man has the ability to resist his basic urges for the sake of a more important choice he has made for himself. What kind of man would have a one night stand with a woman he just met in a bar? We usually hear about women having trouble controlling their emotions. Truth be told, men are much worse, especially with sexual urge. Emotional stability only comes to those mature enough to discuss their feelings and deal with them in an appropriate way. A proper outlet might be sports, martial arts, or painting but definitely not the girl next door. Most cases of cheating begin with that one moment of weakness or impulse and this is the main reason why a good man won’t cheat, he is emotionally stable.
He's not only interested in sex
When he is in a loving, committed relationship with someone, there are far more layers of fulfillment than just sex. His main aim in your relationship is to make you happy and be happy within himself. Sex is great, but it's not the most important thing about you two being together anymore. It's the added bonus, but he cares about you enough to not let the relationship solely be about sex. A relationship based solely on sexual attraction is a flimsy one that could fall apart at the first challenge; but when two people genuinely love and respect each other, they can weather any storm.
A good man has a conscience.
Any man, who cheats, realizes soon after or almost immediately that he has done something wrong. The constant guilt associated with cheating on a woman he loves and then having to pretend everything is great when he is around her; is impossibly difficult. A good man will have respect for himself and a conscience. . He understands the consequences of such an action and realizes that he can’t handle the ensuing guilt or breakup of the relationship. The guilt would eat him alive from the inside out.
He respects the woman in his life
A good man is respectful. Cheating is seriously disrespectful. When he cheats, he needs to lie, and it is breaking the trust of his partner, and those are not things a man does to someone he respects. When he breaks her trust and he will never really get her back. Unlike men for whom women are objects to be misused, a good man sees his woman as his partner, and a person deserving of his trust, respect, and loyalty. A wife is not just a lover but also a friend and, most importantly, a human being. A good man would show her the respect she deserves.
He has willpower
A good man has enough willpower to keep it in his pants. Keeping it in his pants is a fundamental precept of growing up. While sexual desires and urges are completely natural, a good man knows when to keep his fantasy life inside his own head. He is not hormonal teenager who is ready to jump the next thing in a skirt. If he really wants sex that badly then he’ll sleep with the woman who loves him. Exhibiting the willpower necessary to do this is a skill that any good man will cultivate within himself.
He doesn't need to add notches to his bedpost
You may have heard of men who think of the women they’ve bedded as ‘notches’ on their bedpost, which then they brag about. Sexual encounters just to have sexual encounters are one thing, but good men don’t indulge in sex simply to tell the story after. Women are not objects; and a good man knows that he shouldn’t be treated as such. A good man treats this act with the respect that it deserves. A man who is secure and confident in himself no longer has a need to validate his manhood or self-worth by proving he can ‘get the girl. Men who are insecure often times need to continue achieving conquests in order to feel like men. At one stage in his life, he probably did keep an eye on how many women he was bringing back to his house each week. However, he's got a wife now and is very happy to keep that bedpost just how it is.
He thinks long term
A good man who is serious about his relationships isn’t interested in a string of flings, none of which end anywhere. He’d prefer a long term relationship and the stability of a family rather than flitting from woman to another, or worse, one night stand to one night stand. Since he understands what’s at stake, he’s not interested in risking what he has for any kind of temptation and would rather focus his gaze on his wife.
A good man respects himself.
A good man values principles and he holds himself to high standards. He holds a certain standard for the way he lives his life and the character he has worked so hard to build and maintain. He considers himself to be above the Casanovas and Lotharios and womanizers, and he respects himself too much to put himself in such a despicable position. He's worked hard to be, who and where he is, and doesn't need to disrespect himself or his wife. Some men stop themselves from cheating simply because they are afraid of getting caught – but a good man would stay faithful even if it were guaranteed that nobody would find out if he wasn’t. He expects complete loyalty from his partner and is willing to give the same in return. He also cares about his reputation as an honorable man, which he is not ready to lose if he cheated.
Real men communicate
If a good man’s sex life is lacking or unfulfilled in some way, a real man understands how to appropriately communicate that with his partner so that he gets what he needs while maintaining his current relationship.
A good man doesn’t take the easy way out.
Breakups happen every day and for all different reasons – but a good man will understand that and take it in stride. Cheating is the easy way out. It is a way to avoid facing your problems rather than standing up and dealing with them like a grown adult. It’s the easy way out of a bad relationship. If he's a good man, he'll realize that every relationship has difficult stages. A good man won't leave you when times get tough.
He is fully invested
A common reason why men cheat is because they care too little about their current partner or her feelings. A good man doesn’t have this problem because he doesn’t rush into relationships. A good man wouldn’t get involved with a woman that he doesn’t love. When you’re in a relationship with a good man, rest assured that he has given it enough thought before committing himself to you. He believes that anything worth doing is worth doing well, and this applies to his relationships. As I’ve said earlier, he isn’t impulsive, so he takes his time to commit and once in, he’ll give his all to make it work.
A good man values his reputation.
A good man isn’t good without reason; he has a strong character, built upon his core values and principles. Irrespective of the situation, a good man will possess strength of character. He won't want his reputation to be tarnished. He cares for his honor and doesn't want to be the sort of person who breaks his given word or deceives. Being labeled as a cheater is not just about romantic life; it permeates his entire character and makes people look at him differently. If he would turn your back and betray the person he claims he loves; how are people with lesser connections with him supposed to take your word for anything?
A good man doesn’t hurt women
A good man would never hurt the woman he loves. Cheating is a selfish act that shows you putting yourself before someone you supposedly love. He loves and cares for her as well as those who are closest to her. A good man doesn’t abuse women; and cheating amounts to emotional abuse. He certainly will be devastated to see the distress in his partner’s eyes once she finds out the man she trusted to have her back, was a cheater. He understands that while it’s important to maintain himself and keep himself happy, it’s doubly important to make those around him happier still. Hurting her would be hurting himself – and that is something no good man would choose to do.
A good man will never turn his back on a friend.
In a happy, healthy relationship – you are not only lovers, but friends. Best friends. You are each other’s support systems, teammates, and confidants. A good man will never sacrifice a friendship, especially with his best friend. A good man will never betray a friend, let alone a best friend.
A good man doesn’t even have time to cheat.
A good man stays faithful. A healthy, productive man generally has a full life, with work, home, friends, and hobbies that leave behind no time to cheat. If he's living his life properly, he should be a pretty busy man. An idle mind is a devil’s workshop, which explains why men cheat when they don’t have much to do. But this isn’t a problem with a good man, and his mind is too occupied with positive thoughts to stray into the darker side. If he was less busy or had more time he would be using that time to find new ways to love the woman he already has. The woman he sees as an extension of himself. That’s why a good man doesn’t have the time to cheat, because the time he does have is dedicated to the woman he loves. Any time that he does have spare, should be spent with you or trying to do things to make himself a better man, not a worse one.
He accepts responsibility
Well, real men understand that these are just that – excuses, and not reasons to validate an act like cheating. He is a man who is used to taking responsibility for his actions at home and work, and he knows that should he cheat, it would be completely his fault and no one else’s.
Cheating is not an accident. It requires the same process that any seduction would – an initial meeting, flirting, maybe some exchanging of information, an invitation, an acceptance of said invitation, and then finally the act itself. There are countless chances for a man to say “sorry, I’m in a relationship,” which is exactly what a good man who is truly committed to you will do. If you look through the list again, you’ll see that these reasons aren’t temporary personality quirks; they are based on deep rooted value systems that aren’t going to change in a hurry. A good man won't cheat because he values integrity, trust, loyalty and commitment. To cheat on someone is to betray them, and disrespect them in a very profound way.