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19 Reasons Why Young Women Date Older Men

Updated on January 8, 2018

Why women prefer Older men

The idea of younger women dating and even marrying older men is a timeless concept. Why do younger women like dating older men, and why has this convention been practiced for so long? This is a question that has been pondered by many professionals and in talk shows. Many women are attracted to much older men than them because older guys are more stable, and many older men are looking to marry unlike most young men who are out for fun. Some women celebrities and socialites have successfully gotten into relationships with men many years their senior with condemnation believing they are gold-diggers. A lot of people find these relationships immoral even when they don’t know the motivation behind them. Women who prefer to date from a much older pool get unfairly lumped with the young women that like older men simply for their money. Some of these younger women often enjoy the company of older man for a variety of reasons. Below are some of them:

More stable

Older men are more confident, more emotional stable than their younger counterparts. Women marrying older men believe that they’d been through enough challenges in their lives that they were going to be willing to make our marriage work. Older men are stable when it comes to having lasting relationships, being able to manage finances accurately, they are more forgiving, and they tend to be more mentally stable too.

More decisive

Women don’t like men who are fickle when making decision. Some young men are indecisive. An indecisive man is unnerving. He’d spend at least half an hour trying to decide what to do for the evening. if young man wants to take you out for a date, he could be unsure where to take you to. But an older man will be more decisive, where to go and have the money to spend. He never did. He will end messing up what was supposed to be a good outing.

Has a career

Although dating a younger guy can be fun and exciting, but older men tend to be more steadfast and generally more established and settled in their chosen careers than are younger men. They typically have a house, have a great career and have money in savings. Older men have had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which make them a more viable partner for a long-term relationship.The security that comes from being financially viable and well-established is one of the things that tend to draw younger women to older men in droves. An older man is no longer in college or struggling away at a low paying job but is secure and generally doing well at his profession. Older guys are more likely to have succeeded in his business ventures and enterprises.Women who date older, financially stable men become more financially independent than the women who date within their age group.

Ready for commitment

Young men like to sow their wild oats. They have their whole lives ahead of them, so they're only looking to have fun for now. Meanwhile, older men are usually ready to commit to serious relationship. You won't have to convince them to buy you an engagement and wedding rings, because marriage will already be on their mind. Many older guys have already had time to experiment and play the field. Now, they are looking to settle down and commit to a long-term relationship or even to marriage, they are more willing to defer to their women rather than develop a misunderstanding. Women who are ready to marry and have children find that much older men may be the perfect fit for them. An older man goes the extra mile to ensure that his woman is happy and satisfied. If you are looking for a man who pulls out chairs and holds doors open for you, your best bet is an older guy.

No attempt to change his partner

One of the things that destroy relationships is the attempt of a partner to change the other. It is generally believed that young men will want to change their women to something they want, like telling her what to wear. When you're dating older men, they'll appreciate more the woman that you've grown to become.

More sexually experienced

When it comes to sex, an older male is perceived as knowing how to satisfy the craving of a woman. Older men are more experienced sexually and many women find that the lovemaking with an older man is completely fulfilling to them. Not only are older men typically extremely sexually experienced, they really listen to their partner on how they want to be treated because by the time guys reach middle age, they know a thing or two about how to treat a woman just the way she wants to be treated in bed. Older men often view pleasure in a different light than younger men and are more concerned with the woman’s pleasure as opposed to their own. “What’s more attractive to you? Is it an eager, younger man, who’s selfish in bed and who has nothing but hope to cling to, or an older, wiser, outgoing, more mature man with a great job, who also happens to be experienced and selfless in bed?” Joan asked.

More confidence

It’s frustrating to date a guy who keeps making mistakes over and over again and never learns how to handle things in a different way. But after life has kicked a man around for a few decades he’d have been whipped into shape. Older men have made their mistakes, done their time pondering how to correct their mistakes, and learned from the entire experience. Older men also are more apt to strike up a conversation with a woman of any age. They appear to be past the point in their life where fear or intimidation stopped them in their tracks. Some women, and in particular those who have an absent father, look to an older man as a type of father figure or mentor. This is often a mutually beneficial arrangement for both parties involved. A woman will receive guidance and gain more life experience from being with an older man while the older man gets to feel that he is powerful and is looked up to by the woman.


A very common reason that many women turn to older men is that these men are more mature than the men their own age. Women mature faster than men and therefore want to be with a man who is closer to them in maturity level. An older man has a better sense of himself. Women do not want to date a man who would rather play football than spend time with her or making inappropriate jokes that will cause a fight. He doesn't engage in late-night drinking binges with his friends. Instead, a much older man has reached a more settled point of his life. He doesn't want to pick up a variety of women; instead, he is often looking to establish a serious relationship with just one woman.

Better communicator

If you are looking for stimulating conversation, typically the older men are better; that is why women are drawn to older men because they are better communicators. Older men have been in plenty of relationships before, so they know how to communicate. They have learned from their mistakes and will try not to repeat these actions as they work on a new relationship. They know that communication and compromise are important if you're going to succeed as a couple, so they won't screw things up in a stupid way like most young men do. He will be ready to work at making the relationship succeed.

Attraction of opposites

It is said that opposite attract. So if you grew up in different decades, which means you know different circumstances, he can teach you all about the trends that were popular when he was young, and you can do the same. Another advantage of dating an older man is he is full of knowledge. You can talk to him about any issue you are dealing with. And chances are, he will have had experience with it and can give sound advice. It is great when your partner can use his experiences to guide you. He can be a mentor as well as lover. It's a learning experience.


Some women like that older look, because he appears distinguished and sophisticated, which is pretty damn hot. But a successful, happy, and fruitful relationship must be founded on principles that are permanent, and temporary, forged from things that last, not fade away. Physical attractiveness won’t do it. External beauty fades over time. if you have built your relationship on physical attraction, what will you do when the physical attributes that initially drew you together disappear?

More chivalrous

When you're out on a date, you may find that the young man that you are with has no manners at all. Does the guy pull your chair out? The older a man is, the more chivalrous he'll be. I’m not just talking about being polite, but holding the car door open, waiting by the door and allowing a woman to enter the room first, or anything regarded as being chivalrous. Women like the chivalry that older men often show and they like the fact that older men tend to have more respect for them and they are polite and have manners. If you want someone to hold open doors for you and pull out your chair, your best bet is to date an older man.


Most women want to be with men who are responsible and can stand on their own two feet and are able to support themselves and take care of themselves and their families without being tied to their mother’s string. Most women do not want a man who is supported his parents. That is why many younger women seek out the company of an older man who has achieved independence. If the guy that you're currently dating still lives with roommates or even with his parents, this will limit your freedom. Older men generally have their own house which will ensure your freedom from unnecessary parental interventions in your relationship.

Make the woman feel younger

When the woman is around an older man, she feels younger in comparison. If your confidence is low, then dating an older man is sure to boost it. You'll never feel more beautiful and alive than when you are with him.

Pampering of the older men

When a younger woman dates an older man, most people assume she's only interested in his money. For some, that's the truth. Many younger women prefer older men, and, lucky for them, there are a lot of affluent older men who are more than happy to shower these women with the finer things. If a woman wants to receive fancy jewelry and never wants to pay for a date, then an older man with a good job is exactly what she needs.

Sense of adventure

There are a lot of people that stare when they see a young woman with an older man, and some find the idea of annoying the public incredibly sexy. Dating an older man could be adventurous. Adventure means stepping out, doing something different, do something a little bit on the edge, and not always doing what is conventional. It's not all that hard to land a date with a man your own age. But if you want an older man who is out of your age bracket, it takes a bit of effort.


Women feel safer with an older man than with a younger man. Wife abusers are mostly young men. You'll be reassured by his wisdom and assume that he'll be able to save you from whatever hardship occurs. He's your knight in shining armor.


If you've been dating men your own age for your entire life, you might want to have a change. Dating the same types of people over and over again can get boring. An older man can give you the change you've been waiting for.


We can't help who we fall in love with. Some women end up in serious relationships with older men without actually trying to land someone more mature. They couldn't help it.


Consenting adults can date and marry for different reasons. The biggest issue in these relationships will likely be the recurring need to explain to others that your relationship is actually based on love and admiration, because it is not common to see beautiful young women dating poor older men with limited financial means. Sometimes, like wine the older the better. With age comes experience, which is why many younger women will always want to date older men.

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