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21st Century Tips to Surviving a Long Distance Relationship

Updated on August 29, 2013

Long distance relationships have long been considered difficult to almost impossible to maintain. In movies, the romantic comedy genre is plagued with story after story of lovers torn apart by distance.

Books and plays also dedicate hundreds upon thousands of words encapsulating the actions and emotions of star-crossed lovers and the feats they attempt to keep their love strong. As the Beatles sang, “All you need is love”… but at what point is it time to move on? When thinking of long distance relationships, two key phrases come to mind:

These phrases represent both perspectives of the LDR and, since you are reading this article, it may mean you are part of the “distance makes the heart grow fonder” crowd. We live in the 21st century where letters do not need to sail across seas to get to our loved ones in foreign countries. We don’t need to wait weeks and months for a postcard to arrive or sit by the telephone eagerly, hoping our love will call. Computers, smart phones and the internet have made living life with our soul mate thousands of miles away much more doable and much less painful.

You might not be able to hold or kiss your soul mate, but you will be able to connect with them and grow as friends. Keep reading for some great tips on how to survive your long distance relationship and be the exception to the rule; the couple that survived the distance.


We are not re-inventing the relationship wheel here. Sometimes a simple telephone call is all that’s needed. Cellphones are so convenient, so there’s no need to wait by the landline while you can be out living life and just pull your phone out of your pocket for a quick chat. Remember to buy international calling cards or make sure you are signed up for an international calling plan before you start dialing the digits. Be economically safe so you don’t rack up charges but also stay connected to your loved one.

LDR tip: Get familiar with the difference in time zones between you and your significant other. That way you are not interrupting their sleep by messaging them at 2am and they are not bugging you to chat on your drive to work. Find a schedule of the best times to communicate so you can keep your relationship growing rather than fading away.


Whether you log on via your computer or phone, Skype is probably the greatest asset to keeping your relationship alive and pumping. Make weekly Skype appointments with your significant other and take the time to doll up before instead of logging on looking like a hot mess. Video chats will be the only time they see you in live action so it’s good to look presentable.

LDR tip: For their birthday buy a cake and a candle and sing to them via Skype. Spice things up by small surprises and making an effort even when you’re worlds apart. You may also want to consider visual gifts as well, namely, ‘a feast for their eyes’. Wink, wink.


This smart phone application has saved many relationships since its relatively recent launch. WhatsApp allows you to send text messages, voice notes, pictures, videos and locations, making it the ultimate application to keep you connected to your loved with the swipe of your finger. Send pictures of things that make you laugh and videos of moments you wish they were with you for.

LDR tip: Get in the habit of sending brief messages to them to say good morning or good night. You might not be able to see them day in and day out but you will be able to stay in contact on a daily basis by touching base in the smallest way.


With Instagram and InstaVideo you can share pictures and snippets of daily life with loved ones all over the world. This picture and video app has great filters to dress up your post. One of the beauties of having a long distance relationship is sharing random moments from your day and Instagram does that is a more spectacular way. It allows the girlfriend or boyfriend to have a sneak peek into the moments you experience and creates conversation topics for that next Skype session.

At the end of the day, a couple that can withstand the test, trials and pain of a long distance relationship can really withstand anything. Grow in knowledge and respect of each other and be there on an emotional level. The world we live in allows us to be connected much easier because we have the internet in our hands. Stay connected and you’ll survive your long distance relationship.


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    • Jetstream profile imageAUTHOR

      The Jetstream 

      5 years ago from South Africa

      Wow! That takes some serious love to only communicate via snail mail, hats off to you! Luckily we now have all these tech tools to keep the love flowing but it can be done. One of our writers has gone the distance with the help of these tools. Thanks for the comment and votes!

    • ChitrangadaSharan profile image

      Chitrangada Sharan 

      5 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Interesting hub and I can relate to it.

      My husband has to go abroad for long durations, due to the nature of his job. Even when there was no Skype, WhatsApp. or Instagram he had to go. We remained connected through letters then. It all depends on how much mutual trust and understanding a couple has for each other.

      Things can be very difficult sometimes, especially if it involves children, but it has to be managed and it can be managed.

      Thanks for sharing this interesting hub! Voted up as interesting!


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