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3 Types of Toxic Friends to Avoid

Updated on June 28, 2016

1. Overly Needy

Being overly needy means that this toxic friend wants you to help her with her own problem every time she has one. You always wake up with a text or call confiding her problems to you. It would definitely be rewarding on your part to help a friend in need. We all have problems and there are really times we get overwhelmed with them, thus; we ask for a friend’s help. However, before we ask for help, we must first evaluate if we can handle it on our own. It’s the first step in becoming independent –that we learn to figure things out on our own. If you realize that the problem is beyond your capacity, then you should definitely ask for help. But, if you ask for help too often, then you lack self-trust, that you can make wise decisions on your own. A really supportive friend would not tolerate this. A real friend will also teach her friend how to be strong and independent.

The solution is to not reply to the petty problems of your toxic friend. You should gauge whether she can handle it on her own or it’s truly overwhelming on her part. You could also reply much later to allow her to think through it and solve it on her own. You’d be surprise to receive a message from her saying that, “No, need to reply. I was able to solve it.”

2. Meddlesome/Nosy

Say you are looking for a job, here comes your toxic friend who wants to help but turned out to be meddling too much with your life. She wants you to apply to this and that company even if you do not like. She makes you feel like she has control over your own decisions. This is a real problem in friendship when you fail to recognize that your friend has her own mind. A real supportive friend will just give advice and then allow her friend to figure things out on her own.

Other kinds of meddlesome/nosy friends I’ve met:

- She tells you that what you’re wearing does not look good on you and she insists that you should tag her along when you are buying clothes.

- She suddenly tells you that she’s going to sleep over at your house but you just meet her in school for a few months that you are still figuring out if she can be trusted.

- She makes you feel that her ideas should be included in your research paper, acting as if she’s an expert in that field, when you just asked for an opinion.

You simply must be honest with your friend but you have to know how to say it politely. Tell her that as much as you want to follow or adopt her suggestions, you would like to decide on your own. If you keep silent about it, you would feel uneasy with her as she continues to insist her wants to you. For you to have peace, learn to be honest with yourself and to her.

3. Selfish

Signs of Selfish, Toxic Friends

- Borrows money from you but does not pay back. then, you hear that she went to the salon, bought shoes, etc.

- You are the only one who treats her. She does not treat you back and always complains that she does not have money.

- When you ask for help, she gives a little or conceals the information that you need. For example, your friend works in the company you are also interested in. You ask her of the working environment inside but she only told you that you should ask the employers and not her. Another example is when you ask your friend of her experiences in processing papers for studying abroad. But, she only told limited information which is not really useful.

- She does not remember the problems you confided to her but you remember every struggle she went through.


You should not fall into a victim of these types of toxic friends. At first, you will try to forgive them. But, if you see that the bad behavior or attitude is repeating, then you should distance yourself from them. Slowly lose communication and spend time on those who will know how to respect you and give you a helping hand when needed.

Which among the three kinds of friends have you encountered?

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    • lyndapringle profile image

      Lynda Pringle 

      3 years ago from Austin, Texas

      I agree with that last comment. It is better to be friends with those you have had years of experience with. Not even 10 years can be enough! I have retained a great friendship with a woman for whom I've known for almost 40 years. We met in middle school and are polar opposites but the years between us have allowed us to adjust to one another and to appreciate the goodness and love between us rather than the differences. She is probably the only best friend I have but I am lucky to have her as I know she will always be in my life.

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      3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Brighter.....I can definitely agree with your 3 choices of people to avoid in terms of "friendships." You're being very frugal.

      Perhaps it's my age or years of experience with human beings and "behavior"....but I must tell you, I could list at least a dozen more "kinds of people to avoid." the plague!

      Granted, this may seem like a lot, but considering there are hundreds & hundreds of various types of individuals, it's really not an overstatement.

      I associate with people whom I've known for many years through all kinds of weather (as the song goes)....friendships are quite special to me and I am selective, for everyone's sake. Better to have just a very few really good, faithful, trustworthy friends than a boatload of pains in the butt!!..........UP+++

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      Ralph Deeds 

      3 years ago from Birmingham, Michigan

      Here's a friend from hell! Sylvia Majewska.

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      Mahaveer Sanglikar 

      3 years ago from Pune, India

      You are right. I knowingly insult such friend to get rid of them.

    • Thuli Modisane profile image


      3 years ago from South Africa, Pretoria

      This is informative. For me though, I personally believe that we need to learn how to encourage each other to be independent individuals, without opposing negative energy. Thank you

    • PurvisBobbi44 profile image


      3 years ago from Florida


      It seems everyone has a set of these friends, however, it does not take me long to rid myself of them. And, it is even worse when you have relatives who are needy, selfish and nosy.

      Thanks for sharing and have a great week.

      Bobbi Purvis

    • lyndapringle profile image

      Lynda Pringle 

      3 years ago from Austin, Texas

      This is a good article on how to avoid the takers in life. And the examples of people you mentioned in your article are just the tip of the iceberg of the real psychopaths out there. I should write a blog about the toxic people who I have allowed to enter in my life such as the friend who used my credit card to buy Christmas gifts for her son. I knew she was guilty because the credit card and my driver's license was placed back in my wallet two days after the purchases. AMEX had sent me receipts of the purchases along with my faked signature. I recognized the signature as my friend's. However, I never confronted her because she was having such a hard time financially that I figured she must have been desperate to have done such a thing to me but I never brought my credit cards to work anymore. I have even worse stories.

      However, yes, it is good to distance yourself from needy people who consistently need advice but never follow up on it or who have no time for your problems. Generally, I make excuses to not hang around with those people and make sure I keep an emotional distance from them and their problems. It is hard to find decent friends as sometimes our judgment of character is not so great.


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