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3 Simple Steps To a Better Relationship

Updated on August 29, 2015

Want a better relationship?

Having a better relationship with the one you love is hard work, but there are 3 simple steps.

This does not happen overnight, just because you have the steps to follow.

But knowledge can get you pointed in the right direction.

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Better Relationships - It all starts with you first.

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Step # 1


Listen, yes that is right, listen.

It is something we all should do more of. If you don't stop and listen to what is really being said you might miss a very key factor in building a lasting, happier relationship.

Unfortunately, we sometimes say what we don't mean. If someone says it is okay, but if you really listen they might really be saying I sound insecure if I say no.

If you remain in tune to the one you love there will be signs that it is different than what they say. This may seem confusing if you are accustomed to not really listening.

Now is the time to ask, if you ever hear any hesitation in a reply. Don't always assume you know the answer. Listening can improve the relationship needs for both of you. Sometimes it is both people who are not listening to the hidden messages.


Another factor in taking the time to listen, you can pick up on a lot of clues that you can use later to enhance the relationship. Like favorite color, food, hobby, etc.

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Tip on Listening

Did you know that if you listen to others they might actually think you are a great conversationalist?

All the more reason to listen!

Step # 2

Care...Yes Really Care!

Caring about the other person beyond family and friends. This should be a

'no brainer' but it appears not to be the case.

You want to be with the friends or co-workers instead of your lover this can lead to problems later.

Yes, you need time apart and this is not a bad thing, but you need to be genuine about how your relationship matters.

If you are selfish about your wants and do not care about how left out your lover may feel, then you can end up in a fight later. This will lead to resentment between you both.

Come to an understanding by caring and then you can have time apart without repercussions, bitterness and much relationship conflict.

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Tip on Caring

Always care about the feelings of the people that you love the most.

They are there for you through thick and thin, so their feelings matter.

Step # 3

Surprise your lover in simple ways!

With your knowledge gathered by step one you are now capable of making a big difference in your relationship.

It is the little insignificant things that will make your relationship soar.

Giving or doing something special for no reason can change the way someone feels about you.

Especially if it costs little or even nothing, it is that something that no one else would do. You can because you have been listening and paying attention to those little things.

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Tip on Surprises

Never under estimate the little things you can do.

It will hold a lot of meaning if it comes from the heart.

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One Personal Tip

To have a better relationship with someone else, you need to have a good relationship with yourself. It may seem simple but so many people beat themselves up over the past. How can you possibly expect anyone to forgive you when you can't even forgive yourself?

Forgive yourself :

for what you did or didn't do,

for what you said or didn't say

and how things could have been different.

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Great Relationships - Relationships take work but why just settle for average, when you can have a better loving and more meaningful one.

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This book addresses this all important fact. If you try to find intimacy with another person before achieving a sense of identity on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself.


Comments are Welcome - Great relationships take work.

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    • Mary Stephenson profile imageAUTHOR

      Mary Stephenson 

      5 years ago from California

      @HappyTom LM: I am glad you liked it and your comment is appreciated.

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      Tom Christen 

      5 years ago from Switzerland/Ecuador

      Thank you for this great lens...

    • Mary Stephenson profile imageAUTHOR

      Mary Stephenson 

      5 years ago from California

      @SavioC: So glad you liked the lens. I think we all go through times of not working on our relationships correctly. Unfortunately it takes two to make the difference and when one is thoughtless both people suffer. Wisdom usually comes after the damage is done. But it is always the knowledge we take with us that can improve our relationships in the future. Thank you for your comment, it is very much appreciated.

    • SavioC profile image


      5 years ago

      Hi. I really liked your lens & I am sure this has helped many people for I surely benefited from this. I am a firm advocate of forgiving oneself and loving oneself, only then can we truly love others. I learnt it the hard way. God Bless for putting up this wonderful lens. Thank You .

    • Mary Stephenson profile imageAUTHOR

      Mary Stephenson 

      5 years ago from California

      @SteveKaye: Thank you for your comment.

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      5 years ago

      So true, it's a lifetime of little things that grow into a loving relationship.


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