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37 Ways You Can Tell Your Boyfriend Doesn't Love You Anymore
Signs Your Boyfriend Doesn't Love Anymore
This hub discusses some of the everyday signs that show that your boyfriend isn’t interested in you or the relationship any longer. Falling in love is a pleasant experience. Occasionally during the life of the relationship, if you observe undesirable characteristics in him, don’t allow the thrill of being in love prompt the false assumption that marriage is a miraculous procedure by which all undesirable traits will be eliminated. After marriage you might find things quite different from what you had hoped. This hub is very important because you will enable you to do something to improve the development or quit the relationship. These are signs that your boyfriend doesn’t love you anymore:
1. He doesn’t remember the little details (your birthday, favorite color, etc.)
Convention requires that dating partners know about themselves. If he doesn’t care about your background and details about you, he is not in love with you because it is this information that enable him decide whether you are suitable as a life partner. If your boyfriend can’t remember your birthday, favorite color, or some other details about you, he may not really be in love with you.
2. Your boyfriend has stopped saying "I Love You"
A guy and a girl usually start saying "I love you" to each other once they move past the first phase of dating. If your relationship developed into the "I love you" stage a long time ago, there is no reason why your boyfriend should suddenly feel averse to saying these words to you. If he stops saying them, it is a strong sign that that he isn't as interested in you as he was before.
3. Petty fights are picked without concern for what they’ll do to your relationship as a whole
When partners are in love, they try to avoid unpleasant circumstances, make unfavorable impressions, and they are on their good behavior. If he picks up fights frequently without giving a damn, then you better watch it.
4. He buys you things that you don’t like
The idea behind buying you a gift is to make you happy so he is supposed to find out what you like and not buy anything he likes.
5. He tries to change you into someone he wants you to be
Has your boyfriend recently started pointing out some of your habits recently, claiming that they annoy him endlessly? Ask yourself these questions if he suddenly feels that some of your habits are driving him crazy. If you have had those habits since the beginning of your relationship, then why is your boyfriend suddenly becoming averse to them? This is the moment when you must realize that the love in your relationship has been taken down a notch.
6. He doesn’t give you compliments anymore
Flirting speaks volumes about the chemistry a couple shares. No matter how long you have been in the same relationship, your boyfriend should typically be flirting with you by giving you compliments when you wear something nice, staring at you and looking into your eyes when you are both alone, and telling you how attractive you are etc. Thinking about these things will immediately give you a fair idea of whether your boyfriend is still totally into you or has gotten bored in the relationship.
7. He doesn’t call you regularly, or keep in touch at all
If your boyfriend stops replying calls or cute texts or takes a long time to reply; it’s a sign that he doesn't love me anymore. One of the first signs that your boyfriend is really beginning to lose his feelings for you is when he stops replying to your texts. In the beginning, he will have all sorts of excuses for taking such a long time. But after a point, he will simply get irritated and lose his temper every time you ask him why he took so long.
8. His parents doesn’t know about you
If you have dated him so a long time, upward of one year and he has not bothered to introduce you to his parents, he might not be really in love with you.
9. The spark of physical intimacy fizzles out in your relationship
Do you still share those long hugs, kisses, and cuddling that you used to when you started dating him? Snuggling and physical contact is normal in a relationship. If you find yourselves maintaining your distance from one another, that's a sign something is wrong. When a guy starts falling out of love, it will reflect in his hugs, kisses, and cuddles.
10. He gets irritated when you call him pet names
Calling of pet names are a playful part of a couple's love life. Your guy's annoyance may be justified if you overdo it by calling him pet names all day long. But an overall aversion to anything lovey-dovey can be a sign that he is no longer interested in the relationship.
11. Your boyfriend digs up regrettable incidents from your past
Painful past should not be broke up if all is well. Forgiveness is more than an act of the will; it’s an attitude of the heart. It’s not just a one-time event; it’s a continual act. Everyone knows how painful it feels when someone reminds you of memories that have scarred you emotional and psychologically. It takes a person many years to forget someone, let go of bitter memories, and move on from the regret of doing stupid things. Your boyfriend has no reason to dig up painful memories from your past and fling them at you when you have an argument. For a relationship to grow, partners must stay in a mode of continual forgiveness. If your guy has recently started slinging your past regrets at you with a hurtful intent, his feelings for you may have already bottomed out.
12. He starts comparing you to other girls
A guy should never say something to a girl that makes her feel less beautiful, less talented, or less of a woman than someone else. The slightest hints of comparisons made between you and any other girl should be a warning sign.
13. He very clearly don’t trust you
Trust is very important between partners. If your boyfriend don’t trust you, you’ll never be happy in that relationship. Of course, there are lots of reasons why he may not trust you. Maybe you have a track record of being untrustworthy. Maybe he has hunches. Maybe you don’t tell the truth about some small things and he wonders what else you weren’t honest about. Well then, you have no relationship, and you will never have any until he trust you. Deep down, I think you know why he distrusts you and you need to be honest with yourself about where the problem is coming from. And if it is you behind the problem, find some way to sort it out.
14. You can’t talk to him about things that are important to you
If you cannot talk to him about things that are important to you because he has nothing positive to say then he doesn’t love you.
15. You can’t talk to him about issues in the relationship without it turning into a huge fight
No matter how upbeat a conversation may begin, almost immediately he starts complaining or badmouthing or expressing anger and bitterness of any other kind. A person who walks around with bitterness in his heart cannot be a good lover.
16. He doesn’t show commitment to the relationship
Commitment is a form of glue that holds a relationship together. Often people say that love is the glue; but it’s our commitment to one another and our dedication to the relationship that actually seal the affair. Though, you cannot have commitment without love.
17. All he cares about is his routine, his studies, his work, and his friends
He doesn’t include you in his routine. He doesn't acknowledge his self-centered behavior even after you have pointed it out to him.
18. He insults you in public, even if it seems like a joke
He puts you down in front of people, belittle you, and make you feel small. You wonder why he is doing this to you. He derives some pleasure from humiliating you. This is not the way to behave to someone you love. Under absolutely no circumstances is it acceptable to tell jokes at your expense. Certain words should never be added to your verbal vocabularies.
19. Or they put you down, ever
If you are behaving impeccably and have done nothing wrong, you’re as honest as you can be, and still he treats you cavalierly; this is a proof he doesn’t love you. So if your boyfriend takes joy in putting you down, have it out with him and if you can’t get him to stop it, get out of the relationship while you can. This is one boundary that partners must not cross, because it can be very damaging to someone's confidence.
20. He fights dirty
Not every argument is worth the fight. I have seen partners throw away good relationships and cause themselves great damage by fighting dirty. If he starts saying things that hurt, even if you had genuinely fallen head over heels in love with him, you just have to get out of the relationship before you badly hurt.
21. He implies that you need to lose weight or change your appearance somehow
I hope your boyfriend fancy you at the beginning? And I presume you are still well groomed and attractive as when you first met him. You should never stop trying to be attractive for your boyfriend. When you first met him, you often make sure your look is perfect. If you have not relented on this and all of sudden he starts to ask to lose weight or your appearance, something has gone wrong.
22. Sex is a one-way traffic
The chemistry of physical intimacy that you share with your guy says a lot about your relationship. When you love someone, sex with him is all about expressing that love. Sexual affair shouldn’t be only to get the urges out of his system but the primary intent should be to express his love for you in the most intimate, personal manner. So when he starts becoming extremely selfish in bed, he doesn’t love you anymore.
23. He starts becoming extremely selfish in the relationship
They aren’t willing to reciprocate what you do for them. When a guy starts losing interest in his relationship, his behavior will likely take a very selfish turn. He will become more inconsiderate and self-centered in his interactions with you.
24. He keeps your relationship a secret
If he keeps the affair between you a secret to his friends and family, he obviously doesn’t love you.
25. Your boyfriend starts spending most of his time with his friends
Everyday relationship problems, fights, and arguments often drive a couple apart to the point where they stop hanging out with each other. But usually this distance is temporary, lasting only until the silly arguments have been sorted out. If your boyfriend has cut down on the time he spends with you and increased the amount of time he hangs out with his buddies, something is wrong.
26. He gets angry and loses his cool without any reason
People lose their tempers for several reasons, including having rough times at work, or going through family problems. If your boyfriend seems to be edgy all the time and loses his temper at non-issues, try to find out the reason for his anger. If you can't seem to pin-point any specific causes, his random flare-ups could simply mean that he is irritated by you and the relationship.
27. He doesn’t care to apologize when he is wrong
True love doesn’t mean having relationship of ease; it means making the continual choice to love and forgive. But when he does something wrong and refuses to apologize, he is no longer committed to your relationship.
28. He thinks you are always the one wrong
When he subscribes to the notion that he is the only perfect person in the relationship, there will be no need remaining in the relationship. Certainly, you want a partner who exhibits the character qualities and values that you want in a lifelong partner.
29. He acts like your pal more than your lover
You can’t expect the passion and the excitement in your relationship to last if he abandons romance. That’s the bit that stokes the fires, so you need to find some way to keep it going. Flowers and romantic dinners for two in glamorous restaurants are no longer possible when he becomes nonchalant about the relationship.
30. Conversations take work
Social contacts need the diversion and the light atmosphere of a communication that offers comfort and safety as main purpose. People frequently are frustrated when it is impossible to discuss. The essence of conversation is gathering information about your partner and evaluating your relationship. So if he not ready to converse with you he doesn’t love you.
31. You can see in his eyes that he isn’t innately crazy about you
We live and act based on what we think. Indeed, our thoughts interpret our perceptions. Therefore if you take time to watch your partner, you can be able to read his thoughts about you even in his eyes.
32. He isn’t faithful
Some faithful women have worked hard for their relationship to work but no matter how hard they tried, their unfaithful boyfriends are going to have an affair because of their own deficiencies. Other reasons for infidelity are typically symptomatic of an unhealthy, and often, failing relationship. There are things like the lack of affection between the partners, the sexual addiction of one or both partners, the feeling of sexual entitlement based on gender and status, and the means of exiting from an unhappy relationship.
33. He doesn't bother to comfort you, even when you are sad
If he doesn't comfort you when you're feeling blue, he's not reacting as a boyfriend should. A man who is in love will always recognize when his loved one is sad or in distress, and will do whatever it takes to bring a smile back to her face. This is true regardless of how much a couple fights or argues. If your guy doesn't do any of that and turns a blind eye even when you are feeling sad, it can be a sign that he doesn't love you with the same intensity that he did before.
34. He is disrespectful toward your family or friends
A man who loves you will have respect for your loved one, especially family members and close friends. If he no longer has respect for these people close to you he doesn’t love you as before.
35. He makes fun of things that are very important to you
A neglected aspect of communication has to do with our intentions. Our hopes and wants are only spelled out once in a while. We spend much time wishing for things yet never express our wishes. Good communication includes delivering our intentions to others. The willingness to share is a mark of trust in the relationship and an important contribution toward his clear understanding of who you are. Therefore it is lack of love for him to make fun of what is important to you.
36. He makes fun of you, and not in the playful flirtatious way
Respect is denoted by kindness, and reverence we show toward another person. It means we hold someone in high esteem. So if your boyfriend makes fun of you and not in the playful flirtatious way, he has no respect for you and obviously does not hold you in high esteem.
37. Your boyfriend suddenly starts demanding space in the relationship
After a few months or years, couples can settle down into a ‘couple personality’ which is greater than the sum of its parts. You do things together, you socialize together, you find shared interests to follow together. Your boyfriend really shouldn't be asking for more space in your relationship if there have not been any changes in the way either of you behave. His demands to be left alone could be because he doesn't enjoy being with you the same way that he did before.