4 Proven Strategies On How to Get the Truth from a Chronic Liar
Hi, you could liken this to being on the set of pretty little liars TV show
A liar will always be a liar, but do you know that you can make even the worst of all liars sing? I mean tell you the exact tale of all his exploits? Well join me as I treat you to an expose on four proven strategies that even top detectives in the CIA, KGB, MI5 etc and ordinary people like you and I employ to get the truth from die hard criminals, who are hell bent to keep the truth to avoid the full weight of the law: and other chronic liars who will rather keep a lie than tell the truth;
1) Don’t Accuse Your Suspect: If you start by accusing the person of wrong doing it gives the liar the leverage to be more defensive and stick to the lie, making your job to get the truth from him much difficult. For example don’t begin on an accusatory note by asking the lair questions like “why weren’t you there…?” “Did you cheat on me…? Etc Rather it will be more decent to begin with questions like “What time did you get home”? “Who did you say you were with again?” this kind of questioning makes the liar oblivious of the impending danger and also cuts the liar’s defense: since he is cut unawares, you get a straight and truthful answer from him
2) Get Your Body Language Right: one killer strategy that real live heroes and fictional
characters like the legendary 007 James Bond makes use of always to get the truth from their
assailants is looking directly into their eyes. It has been proven overtime that the eye is
the best detective. It not only stays on the conscious, but transcends the sub-conscious by
going deep to search the person’s inner thoughts (please I am not a psychic, and this in not
meta-physics) by laying bare the person’s intentions, actions and in-actions interpreted
through the liar’s own body language: note this, a person guilty naturally will avoid direct
eye contact. Now, this is time to appear relaxed, don’t use threatening body languages like
crossing your arm or standing akimbo, rather make use of non-threatening ones like sitting
relaxed with your head dropped on one side, make use of open gestures, pretend to lean
towards the liar as this makes him believe you are with him and ultimately encourages this
chronic-never-tell-the-truth liar spit out the true facts like it is hot!
3) Ask For a Repeat: saying one thing repeatedly distorts the whole story, making it more
accessible for you to pick the holes and flaws, look I’ve told you this before…” this is how
the typical liar sounds, but subject him to more scrutiny by making him repeat himself over
and over again; ask him if he could spell it out exactly because you’ll like to hear it
again, creating the imbalance in his story needed to nail him. Note this: there is nothing
behind a lie, and it takes someone really good in the art to have concocted a story to go
with it. So expect this liar to furnish you with a set of new information different from the
one he said earlier. To make matters worse for him say something like “…but you said it
was…?” as he tries to cover up he wont know when the truth starts coming out setting a very
dangerous precedence for this chronic liar. This is one strategy I used on my ex-cheating
girl friend to expose her of all her shady dealings.
4) Give this Liar one Last Chance: if the story this liar narrated earlier is what he
decides to stick with, and from all indications you know he is not being truthful, you still
sense dishonesty in his story: this is time to ignore all his shortcomings, begin by saying
some thing like “okay, what shall we do to make sure this doesn’t happen again?” Note: you
are giving this liar the chance to make amends; making him feel more inclined to own up and
accept all mistakes or lies in this case. It also makes the person if he is so used to
telling lies to always tell you the truth, since you’ve won this liar’s confidence; he is
also sure that you will always give him the room to correct his shortcomings and every other
wrong doing.
There are a thousand and one ways to make a liar confess, you can achieve this by torture,
beating, maiming or any other violent way, but making use of this four basic strategies
remains the best way to get the truth from the worst of all liars, get a clue!