4 Warning Signs of Marital Trouble - Is Your Marriage in Trouble?
While statistics show that both marriage and divorce rates have dropped in the last few years, according to DivorceMag.com, about 10% of the American population is divorced. Divorce happens for a reason, and it rarely happens overnight. It is a slow and steady process that builds and builds over time. There are often many signs and warnings that a marriage is heading for trouble. The problem is that too many spouses ignore or choose not to see these warning signs.
Remember Your Vows
Warning Sign #1: No Communication
Communication is essential to a healthy relationship with your spouse. Turning a deaf ear to the needs or desires of your significant other will cause great distress in your marriage. Communication involves talking, but more importantly, it involves listening.
Warning Sign #2: Dishonesty
Lying is never a good thing in any relationship. A marriage must be built on trust, and trust only comes with pure honesty. Hiding little things, like a new pair of shoes or a new golf club, will lead to hiding bigger things, like bank accounts. Once these deceptions slowly come to light, your spouse will not trust you. Once trust is wounded, it is very difficult to gain it back.
Warning Sign #3: Disrespect
Respect is key and a necessity in marriage. You must each respect one another. If not, your marriage could be doomed from the beginning. What often happens is after the first year or so of marriage, you begin to grow more comfortable with each other and slowly the walls start coming down. If you aren’t careful, you start nit-picking at each other for the little flaws that you once thought were cute. This disrespect will grow over time, until it creates a violent and angry relationship in your marriage.
Warning Sign #4: No Time For Each Other
An important thing to remember is that, in any marriage, you have to make special time to spend together. You built your relationship through dating and getting to know one another. That has to continue on throughout your married life. Don’t let the busyness of life and your careers cause you to neglect your spouse.
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© 2008 Hope Wilbanks