4 common mistakes we make

four common mistakes we make that is very important in our lives.

we often deem these as not important.

you will be amazed as to its relevance in our lives.

# 1, god !! we all know about god, but why is it that he is the last if not least important in our life.

the very breath you take, the health you have is all thanks to god. what is so hard to say "thank you, god".

we remember very minute details about all we have to do, but very little do we ever say thanks!

I am guilty to a lesser extent. but it doesn't mean I don't remember him, I always give praise and thanks when I wake in the morning and at night before I sleep.

we must as parents teach our kids the importance of god in their lives. but how many parents go to church or even acknowledge god.

God should always come first in our lives, many times we bemoan our faith, we wonder why our life is going downhill, why our mind is so confused? we never stop to think that the one person who holds the master control in our life, we have cast aside., forgotten, but he never forgets us.

ever wonder why with all the sever illness you still recover, you will thank the doctors, but you forget that it was God who ordained that you recover.

God is the center of the universe, he controls the way things are if he ordained that such and such should happen no man can prevent it from happening. so when we think we are in control of our life and everything we are wrong, it is god who is in control, nothing will or can happen without him having the final say.

it is very important that when you start the day or anything you god first prise and thanks and seek his blessings to make you successful.

time to analyze yourself, ask yourself where were you, where are you, where do you want to be? these pertinent questions will help you understand the far way you have come and how much you have achieved. it will also help you to understand that you didn't do it alone but there was a higher force guiding you. inspiring you to greater heights.

so always make god the #1 in your life. without him, we are lost...

# 2, our parents!!

how many of us are guilty of the way we mistreat our parents?

one most common, is we don't like our parents to interfere in our personal life especially the youths today. we forget one thing that our parents were once young too,

second, we complain about why we were born to so and so, forgetting yet again that we had no choice.it was god's will.

thirdly we deny our parents their true rights, in many cases, persons are ashamed to let others know who their parents are. if they come from a poor background it is even worse to even tell them (remind) who their parents are.

four, we sometimes become an insult to our parents, we abuse them in harsh words, words that really hurt. we let them down when ignoring their warnings and commit a crime.

children you need to understand that your parents went through similar if not the same situation you are going through. so no harm done in seeking their guidance. not all parents can be fortunate to be rich, but do you think having everything without having to earn them is good, yes !! to a point, but when you earn your own you appreciate and value it more.

children need to ask themselves how do you want to treated as parents?

if the answer is with love and respect then show it first, you can't expect to illtreat your parents and then get the best when you become old.

love is all that it takes. it doesn't cost anything and it makes us happy.

last, we put them in an old home and we forget them.

always remember "paradise lies at thy feet of thy mother".

# 3, another common mistake we make, is when couples decide to get married. in today's society dating is common, couples sometimes court for years, others a few weeks or months. during that time they get to know each other, they interact with each other families, they see the likes and dislikes, most of all they get a taste of the real person, by his / her actions.

in some cases persons live-in together before they tie the knot, so they bond even closer, now during this period, you should have a good idea as to the person's trait, his behavior, things they like to do. if at any point you feel that certain things they are doing you don't like, speak/ say it.

don't wait until after the wedding, or you are in big serious trouble. many marriages failed because of this simple reason, you didn't say anything before why now?

two small words with deep meaning "I do".

yes!! the words "I do", is really "I do take".

so when you say those words it means I do take you in total. so all the faults I accept; that is why it becomes a problem when you try to change their habits or attitude afterward.

never allow simple things like this to ruin your marriage, in a nice say it, before. you might be surprised at how quickly they adapt.

as they say, finding common grounds.

what is "common grounds"?

"common grounds", is a compromise, it finding a neutral path for both, it a way in which both persons can be comfortable. in this way many problems can be solves amicably.

it is never too late to say "sorry".

no one is perfect, but inperctions make life happy. it teaches us to overcome, to understand and to do things together. if life is always perfect we will become bored of the same routine.

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# 4, the big stick method!!

we all have our mood swings. we all want to be perfect, we all want others to think and be like us.

first, you need to remember, that only God is perfect. man is imperfect, we don't know everything, we can't tell what tomorrow will be like, much less the future, only God knows the past, present, and future.

"to err is human". only by mistakes can we overcome and conquer.

in any given situation, one needs a level, calm and collective mood. think before you act or react. ask the relevant questions. don't go by just your instincts.

most of the time when act or react, we tend to use the " big stick method".

the "big stick method". is really a bullying tactic. we feel that by using such tactics we will get what we want. wrong !! those types of attitude will get you nowhere. in fact, it will a bad situation worse.

it happens in offices when persons go to query or get something done. if they don't get in or are told what is not to their liking then you will see the ranting, raving and cuss out. only to be thrown out by security.

persons need to desist from such behavior and be polite, speak softly and clearly have the necessary documents on hand, and have patience.

there is nothing like "patience and perseverance". one only as to look at the prophets and no what they persevere, in the end, they won and religion was establish.

the "big stick method" can only work in the army. where you command...

bullying is now a common feature in schools. but do know that in most cases a person who uses it, used it to hide his own fears, his own inferiority complex, he doesn't want others to view him or her as a coward.

we all want the best, we all crave things (expensive) that our peers and friends have, but because of financial constraints, we have to settle for less expensive things. so we resort to bullying, to get what we want. some turn to crime.

this type of behavior drives fear into the mind of others, it makes them less confident in themselves and many fall by the wayside.

ask those who commit certain crimes, they will tell you that they were forced or bully into doing so, not all of us have the willpower to stand up against bullying.