5 Mistakes to Avoid When Kissing (Men and Women)
Almost everyone has had a bad kiss or two in their dating life. And before you act like Casanova remember you were a bad kisser too at one point. Kissing is a skill that comes with practise. But no matter how many partners you have been with there are mistakes you want to avoid when locking lips at any experience level.
Before we start I want to say keep in mind that there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to romance and the most romantic you can be is understanding what your partner wants. So try to be receptive as much as you can and listen to the person you are dating.
Avoid Bad Breath
This one is pretty universal and should be avoided no matter how long you have been with a person. If you are dating make sure you always carry gum on you wherever you go.You never know what you might end up eating or when the moment will strike. Of course avoid things like onions if you know you are going to be intimate later. When you are in a longer relationship you will have a morning kiss or two with morning breath that you cannot avoid but it is cute at that point so you can get away with it.
Do Not Peck
I will preface this by saying there are some people who like to peck and when it comes to relationships tastes differ so be respectful of your partner's wants and needs.
There is nothing like a long passionate kiss. A peck is too short and quick. I feel like a bird moving my head back and forth when this happens. There is a rhythm with a partner that you will need to feel to fall into but it rarely involves a quick in and out. You do not need to spend hours with your lips locked but give time for the kiss to sink in.
Never Bash Teeth
This hurts. You will laugh but I have done it before and I cannot be the only one. There is a reason you want to pucker your lips before a kiss and that is to avoid teeth making contact. It will kill the mood at best and send you to the hospital at worse. Go in slowly to avoid this crucial mistake and lead with your soft lips.
Now if you or your partner are into having their lip bit that is up to you.
Dry Lips Are A Big No
Just as you should try and carry gum wherever you go you should try to carry lip balm. Yes this applied to men too. I don't care if you don't feel "manly" when you apply it no one wants to kiss those dry desert lips.There are many tasty flavours of lip balm you can get so pretend it is candy... but don't eat it. That is a big no on a date.
Too Much Too Fast
Do not go in tongue first like you are in the Alien movie. You do not want to lick your partner's face or anything. Tongue is another aspect to kissing that needs to feel right with the kiss. If it is a first date you do not know how far your partner wants to go so start slow with a soft kiss if the moment is right. If it goes well see how the second one goes and gauge it from there.
And if the person (man or woman) starts to pull away then STOP. Always be respectful of your date and their comfort level. Even if you think it is getting really heavy and your partner wants to stop for any reason then do not continue. People can change their minds. It is the same if you are unhappy in a situation, do not just go with it but let the person know.
In conclusion if you avoid these five mistakes you can at least look like you know what you are doing.
If it is a first date do not stress. You can start with a bad kiss with a partner and get better at it as you start to get more comfortable with each other. If you are inexperienced you will probably not be the best kisser your partner has had off the bat but you will get better.
