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5 Things Husbands Do To Drive Their Wives Crazy

Updated on June 7, 2014

5 Reasons Why Husbands Drive Their Wives Crazy

I recently read a great article about the common complaints men have about women. More pointed, husbands have to their wives. The list was typical, less sex, crazy mood swings and basic Varuka Salt behavior. Are we really that bad? Yes, yes we are.

However, and this is a big however, I contend men are just as bad. They are another evil of sorts. I am a happily divorced woman after ten years, so I have a bit of authority on the subject. I will also take into account other relationships I see and have seen. Women like to complain, so there is plenty of material. So here are my five things that husbands do to drive their wives crazy.


Yep, Google it, number one complaint. While women do cheat as well, not sure the stats, we believe you guys are always cheating. Personally, I find that this is so. On many, many occasions, this is so. Now this may be the proposed lack of sex many women have when they become married. If this is the case, try a romantic approach. Ladies, if you don’t want your man to cheat, you at least have to give him the quality and quantity that you did when you were dating. Though sometimes being a freak isn’t enough and men just cheat.


While women may be crazy, we are consistently crazy. I was unfortunate to marry a quite older man and thus I got to experience this wonderful thing we coined “the mid-life crisis”. Heck, I may have been part of it. Men start off normal and then wham, total looney tunes. While women are worried about kids, schools, soccer practice, shopping, cleaning, cooking, and working; men lose their mind and are no help. This will start with younger women, case in point, me. Then comes the unusual purchases, think new truck, boat, house, motorcycle, the very idea of a man cave supports this idea. Men decide they have worked long enough and they are either going to drain the kid’s college fund, or they are going to lasso the family with debt.

Expenses are only the beginning. If a man doesn’t have a younger woman, they will usually cheat. Thus, number one. So to make themselves more suitable for younger women, they will start to change. You know, actually put on cologne, work out, tan, buy a new wardrobe. These are classic signs. It would be great if your husband was doing it for you, though it is more likely for his new young secretary at work.

Dangerous activities falls under this category. Nothing says mid-life crisis like a new motorcycle that he will likely wrap around something. And then the wife will be there to nurse her husband back to health. Happened to me and many other women too. This can be big power tools, fast engines on their boats, just dangerous activity in general.

Mid-life crisis will be different for all men, though it will happen. Then what? Decisions made in this period will end many marriages, talk about a bait and switch.


Men like to control things. Admit it, you know it is true. They like to control the money, yet it makes them feel like ATMs. I married a southern man who wanted to “take care” of me, yet this meant pure control of money where I had to ask like a child. Or worse, many women receive an allowance. What is that about? Best bet is for women to make their own money, to avoid all of that nonsense.

There is also the control of whereabouts. You ever met those women who are constantly answering the phone to, “Where are you or what are you doing or who are you with?” As grown women this is madness, no one should have control over what a person does.

I have seen it all. Control of what a wife wears, eats, goes, talks to. While some women seem to be the same way, it seems to be more prevalent from the men. Once those vows are said, to many, you might as well tag your ear. Because you were just bought and sold like cattle, and you didn’t even realize it.


While women resort to tears, denial of sex and manipulation, men resort to aggression more times than naught. The size of a man is usually bigger than a women, thus naturally this poses a problem. One cannot deny the statistics and the reality. Not all men use force, but many do. Even intimidation is a form of aggression. If they do not get their way, they will demand it. Many men feel that they rule their woman, thus they use aggression to do so.


So I have shown causes like cheating, aggressive behavior, mid-life crisis madness and control, now we will get to thoughtless actions and decisions. Let’s take gifts for an example. I received a gift, or should I say, a series of gifts from my husband that really made me want to screw his head off. He bought me all types of different coffees and the ilk. This sounds lovely right, thought that counts right? Hmm, first off I hate coffee, I don’t even like the smell of it. Now maybe he didn’t know right, I mean we did get married kind of quick. Well guys, this was at least our fifth year of marriage by this time, we didn’t even own a coffee maker in our house. Thoughtless!

Men are known for bad gifts, they are also known for forgetting everything. Kids names and ages, birthdays, holidays, you get the point. Why is this considered okay? Women have to remember what a man likes, dislikes, eats, doesn’t eat, what clothes he prefers, his mother’s birthday, etc. Why is it okay to be completely thoughtless, seemingly all the time and it is actually expected?

So there you have it, there is my list. Do you agree or disagree? Additions?


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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 3 years ago

      Very true! Only a lucky few seem to be able to sustain a lifelong (happy) marriage. It's unrealistic to expect both genders to behave the same way.

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in a relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have.

      Thanks for the shout out! :-)

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      kaiyan717 3 years ago from West Virginia

      I seen the post and I will admit, was my inspiration. I hope you caught the shout out to you in my words. :) The only thing I have learned from our lists and years of marriage is I call bull hookey. The idea that we can live parallel to someone our whole lives happily is stretching it at best. Especially when our two genders seem so very different.

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      dashingscorpio 3 years ago

      Voted up!

      Someone asked me if I planned to write a hub on common complaints women have about husbands and I told her it should be written by a woman.

      I can't disagree with much you've written about (some) husbands! Although I do believe you have mistaken "mid-life awakening" for "mid-life crisis". ha ha

      At some point everyone but especially men will "do the math" and realize they have more years of life (behind) them than they do ahead of them. I suspect it was a (man) under those very circumstances who invented the so called "bucket list". :-)

      The irony about life for most men is the "toys" that are no longer "age appropriate" (weren't affordable) for them when they were younger! Not many guys in their 20s or 30s for instance could afford a $60k fully loaded Corvette or a $440,000 Porsche Carrera GT and yet at age 50 or 60+ when they can finally afford it society tells them they're foolish!:-)

      Some men chase after younger women after they've had some bad menopausal experiences. Not every woman has the same symptoms but some lose (all )desire for sex or their bodies change dramatically and their spouses find them less attractive. It' not a "justification" but more of an "explanation".

      Lastly the goal of any "cheater" is to hold onto all that is (good) in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side. Very few cheaters want to replace one relationship with another one, go through a messy or expensive divorce. Not many men will run down to the courthouse to file for a divorce simply because their wife stopped having sex with them or nags/complains all the time.

      Given a choice of cheating with the hope of never getting caught versus filing for divorce, moving out of the house and into an apartment, becoming a weekend dad, paying child support and possibly alimony... most of these "unhappily married" guys would rather risk cheating and (if) they get caught then they'll deal with it.

      However no cheater believes he/she will get caught!