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6 Ways to Have a Strong Relationship with Your Girlfriend

Updated on May 23, 2020
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Lauren Richards is an avid relationship and dating enthusiast, an observer and writer of relationship articles.

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Today's young generation are struggling in relationships and breakup is becoming order of the day. It’s really shocking when people commit suicide due to stress and depression in relationship. There comes a time in your relationship where you hit the rock. To maintain a strong bond with your partner, here are 6 ways to have a strong relationship with your girlfriend:

Number 1 - Give Her Freedom

Nothing will make a girl tired of you faster than being needy, controlling and jealous. If she tells you she is going out with her friends and there are going to be guys, let her go out. If she tells you she is busy and can’t come over to your place, let her stay home.

Relationships should be built on trust. Just let her do her thing and trust her that she will make the right decisions. If she can’t do this, you just leave her and find someone else, because she clearly isn’t ready for a relationship. You also can’t expect her to spend 100% of her time with you.

People have lives and actually need to do stuffs. If you expect this from her, you should really reflect on where your life is heading, because you clearly don’t have stuffs to do, if you want to waste every day with your girl.

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Number 2 - Show Gratitude

If you have a girl who cooks for you, cleans for you or helps you in any way, you should not take it for granted and you should actually show her how grateful you are.

You do this by telling her that you appreciate her, doing something for her in return or taking her somewhere nice. The point is, if a girl goes out of her way to make your life easier and better and she doesn’t feel like you value it, she will stop doing all of those things and eventually lose interest.

Besides, this is just common human decency. If a girl, friend, or even your mom does a lot of things for you, then you should tell them that you appreciate them and show gratitude. This is an integral part of any healthy relationship.

Number 3 - Don’t Do Anything You Don’t Want To Do

Seriously, I mean that. If a girl asks you to do something that you don’t want to do, just don’t do it. I was recently with a friend of mine and he told me that when dating a girl or even considering hanging out with a girl, he doesn’t do anything he wouldn’t do normally on his own.

If a girl asks you to go hiking and you don’t like hiking, you could just say, “I am not really into that but I would be totally down to do something else that we both like to do and suggest something else”.

When you start doing things you don’t want to do, then there is an expectation for the other person to start doing something for you that they don’t want to do and then it becomes this 1 for 1 bullshit. That is literally just made up of you guys each doing something you don’t want to do in the first place.

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Number 4 - Get Good in Bed

I really mean this. Relationships aren’t only about sex, but be rest assured that any relationship can fall apart if both people aren’t sexually satisfied. You can be the most amazing guy in the world, but if you can’t satisfy your girl properly, she might just leave you.

Now, I am not saying that if you are bad in bed, you are screwed and won’t ever be able to maintain a relationship. If you are bad in bed, it’s important that you try to improve and show your girl you are trying to fix this issue and learn how to satisfy her.

On the flip side, when you become really good in bed, your girlfriend will tolerate more of your shortcomings because you will be in a position of power because you are a guy who can give her good sex and last longer than most guys.

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When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

— Harry, from When Harry Met Sally

Number 5 - Have Fun Stuff You Guys Regularly Do Together

This goes back to what I was saying before about not doing things you don’t like. If your friends are going to a club you hate going to, you just wouldn’t go. Similarly, if a girl is suggesting something you don’t like doing, just don’t do it.

It will make your relationship much better if you guys only do what you both enjoy doing together, instead of what one person likes to do. To balance this, you guys should find a few really fun things that you love doing together and do those things regularly.

For example, if you guys have a favorite restaurant that you both love, then hit that place up on a regular basis because doing something you both like doing will enhance the activity and more importantly, make your relationship stronger and more enjoyable.

Find at least 3 to 5 things you guys like doing together, this way, you will always have plenty of fun things to do together and are both happy, instead of having some sort of transactional relationship wherein you are both doing things you don’t like for the other person.

It can be simple thing like watching a TV show together, going to a yoga class or going to get ice cream. Literally anything you both like to do counts and will benefit your relationship.

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Love is totally nonsensical. But we have to keep doing it or else we're lost and love is dead, and humanity should just pack it in. Because love is the best thing we do.

— Ted (Josh Radnor), from How I Met Your Mother

Number 6 - If You Don’t Like Something, Just Bring It Up

It’s much better to bring up your grievances as soon as they happen so you can solve them right then and there, instead of just ignoring it and then letting it build up until you explode and have a huge argument over a little thing that has bothered you for months.

It’s so much easier to just bring up whatever issue you have in a calm and collected manner from the start, instead of waiting till it get out of hands and has now grown into something much bigger. Every time you don’t like something and you don’t say anything about it, you are basically allowing it to continue to happen and this signals to your partner that it’s acceptable.

So, when you prolong it and let it become a regular occurrence, it’s much harder for the other person to change and then you will always get annoyed every time it happens. See what I mean? If something bothers you, bring it up as soon as it happens, so that you don’t set a bad precedent.

Planning your future together can be a great feeling, in which the two of you will forever share the bond you have. If the two of you really care about one another and see a future, do not let them go. A relationship can be difficult at times, but I hope these 6 ways to have a strong relationship with your girlfriend help.

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© 2020 Lauren Richards


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