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Four Inexpensive Things Every Man Can Do to Spice up a Boring Marriage

Updated on May 26, 2020
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Ian has experience in relationship and marriage counselling.

Most women want a man who is well-groomed, confident, and (obviously) one with some money. These things will get her to notice you, and possibly earn you a date.

But that attraction can diminish over time for several reasons. The initial chemistry dwindles as you learn to live with each other's weaknesses. Responsibilities like children, make self-care less of a priority and the relationship starts to get boring.

If you're the kind of man who wants to get the romance back into your marriage, here are four simple things you can do to bring the spark back into it.

1. Take her on a date and sing for her

You probably don't remember the last time you went on a date with your wife and that's fine, because you're not alone. Whatever you did on that date, chances are high she's had it before.

While taking her out on a date (after so many years) is a romantic gesture in itself, spicing it up with a surprise music performance by your self will make the evening even brighter. Choose a night out when your favorite band will be performing. Talk to them in advance and let them know that you want to make a special night for your wife with a special performance. Unless you're such an unlikable character, they shouldn't refuse. In fact, they will back you up.

Music is food for the soul and we all love it, but singing for her on a night out is more than romantic. It will demonstrate that you still got it in you and that you care about her. She is definitely not going to forget this gesture.

Now, singing is not a gift most people can proudly show off, but you don’t have to sound like Elton John or Phillip Collins to pull this off. Your ragged husky masculine voice is one of the best things nature has blessed you with. You shouldn't be shy about using it, especially for that lucky woman in your love life.

However don’t forget to put some effort into it. Try not to sound like a lawn machine laboring in the backyard. If it comes to the worst, at least have a rhythm so that your back-up band can play along.

Surprise her with a song
Surprise her with a song | Source

2. Take her for a picnic

The world is moving so fast these days that personal time is so hard to come by. But work without play will turn you into a dull, boring, man and this will spill into your marriage.

Whatever your job, take some time off and go for a picnic with your lady if you want to rekindle the love. Taking a lady for a picnic is a gesture of selflessness and selflessness is romantic and attractive in the eyes of women. A picnic in a nice place is a great way to spend quality time with the person you care about, away from the children. It also allows the opportunity to express the playful side of you. Being too serious and work-oriented can sometimes be boring and boredom kills marriages.

Take your wife to a nice quiet place like a park away from your busy schedule and simply relax. While there, please be present. Don’t act like you were coerced into the idea.

Sometimes it’s the little things like sitting quietly with her in the woods that women crave for in a relationship. So why not be the man of her dreams and go with her for a picnic? If quiet isn't your idea of fun, you can take her to the beach.

Go for a picnic
Go for a picnic

3. Apologize and talk about it

How does this bring the fun back?! As difficult as it is to believe, apologizing for the boredom in the relationship means two things;

1. You acknowledge that there is a problem that should be fixed

2. You know it's not her fault alone.

Apologizing shouldn't be embarrassing even if you know the fault is shared. If you take the first step and apologize for the boredom, you are bringing the problem up for discussion. This is an important step towards finding a solution. It is an opportunity for the two of you to talk about what has killed the chemistry and to explore possible remedies. Listen to each other objectively with a positive mindset free of blame. Listen to her suggestions of fun ideas, as you present your own. This will give you plenty of options to choose from.

Apologize for the boredom
Apologize for the boredom

4. Ask her to marry you again

Again?! sounds crazy, right? But it works. You just need to do it right. If you have successfully taken her out on a romantic date or picnic, why not top it up with a romantic re-marriage proposal. Pull out a fresh red rose (or whatever romantic item you can put your hands on), get down on one knee, and ask her to marry you all over again.

A fresh marriage proposal will make it clear that you want a fresh start with more excitement and romance. It is wise to explain this to her as you propose so that she doesn't treat it as another playful gesture.

It will demonstrate to her that you still value her and your relationship and that you're working to bring the chemistry back into the marriage.

There you have it, these are simple inexpensive, yet completely effective. You don’t need to rob a bank or get a loan to purchase gigantic gifts just to make an impression. Remember its the simple things that count most. Make a move now.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2017 Ian Batanda

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