9 Signs Your Relationship is Marriage Bound
Perhaps, you are with someone who show you so much love and you reciprocate the love but when the question of getting married comes up, you are somehow afraid because you believe that marriage has a lot to do with great commitment of a lifetime.
If you have choices at the moment, you may be tempted to do a thorough assessment of the relationship to confirm whether you are with the right person or not. Perhaps, it is time you stopped stressing yourself, enter into the flow and finally commit to the relationship. In this article, I will be sharing with you 9 signs your relationship is marriage bound:
Number 1. You both have effective communication
Effective communication is paramount for any relationship to work if your partner allows you to talk freely with him/her about anything and not feel judged.
If you don't have to think about how you want to say something but just go ahead to say it partly because you know that they will understand and you can trust them to work through anything together, then it's a sign you are in a healthy relationship that can lead to marriage.
When you don't feel the need to compose your lines before airing it, neither do you bother about how you need to say what you want to say (what details you want out or in), then your relationship might be on the road to marriage.
Number 2. Your partner is a listener
Your relationship is likely going to lead to marriage when you have a partner that listens to you with genuine interest and remembers what you say because they love you.
Elinor Greenberg, psychologist and author of "The Pursuit of Love, Admiration, and Safety" says, "One of the signs that your date is likely to make a good mate is that he or she shows genuine interest in your life and listens attentively when you are speaking.
They also remember things that you have told them about yourself. Conversely, if the person that you are dating nearly always monopolizes the conversation, does not ask you about yourself or your day.
They may even tunes you out when you start speaking, these are clear signals that your date is not really very interested in you as a person except as an audience for them. If they are not interested now at the beginning of the relationship, they are likely to be even less interested later on.
To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.— Criss Jami
Number 3. Your partner is happy when you are happy
The right person, without thinking about it knows that his/her happiness comes from yours and this means that they are not only happy when you are happy, but they also make efforts to ensure that you are happy most of the time.
Laura VanderDrift, associate professor of psychology at Syracuse University's College of Arts and Sciences and director of the Close Relationships Lab at Syracuse University says, "It certainly helps if you are dating someone that you want to make happy and who wants to make you happy in return’’.
Couples who each truly place the needs and wants of their partners with or above their own seem to handle a lifetime of compromising, juggling priorities and collaborating better than couples who individually pursue their own best interests.
Do you think your relationship will lead to marriage?
Number 4. Your partner is your biggest fan
When you are in a relationship that is going to lead to marriage, you empower each other's individual development and offer help to the quest for one another's fantasies and professional yearnings. On the off chance that one of you succeeds, you both win, and that degree of solidarity after some time can be a telling sign that commitment is not too far off.
Number 5. You both give each other personal space
Trust is of utmost importance in every relationship and one of the ways of showing that you trust your partner is giving them some personal space to enjoy his/her hobbies or time out with friends and the likes.
Number 6. You resolve your issues in a healthy way
Conflicts are part of relationships but working things out in a constructive manner while loving each other still is a sign of a healthy relationship which is marriage bound.
Perpetua Neo, psychologist, an expert in toxic relationships and creator of the Detox Your Heart program says, "When we are unhappy and we don't say anything, our resentment builds up and boils over”.
Some women prefer the man to take charge. Some want the man to be more passive. So, you have got to think about your values. In healthy relationships, growth in the same direction is very important. So, you need to be able to have arguments, conflicts and points of disagreements without killing each other.
Rather, it's an opportunity to say, ‘’hey, this is how your brain works, this is how I feel, and can we actually learn from each other in this point in time, and grow in the same general direction, with our own wisdom and our own failures."
We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness–and call it love–true love.— Robert Fulgham
Number 7. You give respect a priority
When you love and respect the person you are with, you don't gossip about their personal faults, instead you only refer to them with respect and kindness and your pride is evident. Also, you do not use the absence of your partner to stray or cheat.
Number 8. Your partner accept you for who you are
A good sign that your relationship will lead to marriage is if you are with a partner that loves you and is not in any way trying to change you. When you feel good that your partner is patient and true, treats you the same in public as he/she does at home, then you are on the right path.
Number 9. You share everything together
Regardless of what type of news you get, the first person you want to share it with is your partner because you know they are always there for you, then it is a sign that your relationship will lead to marriage.
You are not concerned about sharing only things that display your strength and heroism but also things that expose your weaknesses and fears with your partner.
What is the reaction of your partner when you bring up marriage topics?
In summary, if you feel that any of the above stated points is lacking in your relationship, that is not a verdict that things are not going well, it may just be a sign to improve your relationship.
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