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A Beginner's Guide For Relationships

Updated on August 14, 2012
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For the Young, the Old, and the Inbetweens

While your watching your next show or movie, always remember that this is not reality, only just a scripted projection of what you might want your relationship to be like. The televised programs that are shown are of finding true love, sex, lies,etc. Yes, some of these shows may show real life situations or relationship problems but mostly are not dealt with accurately, as far as the way a problem is solved,, attitudes, or the way the person may or may not feel.

THE DO'S

1.) Always remember to communicate with your partner. Communication is key to a healthy and long lasting relationship. Remain expressive, attentive, and compassionate, while communicating with your significant other.

2.) Continue to be honest. Honesty leads to more trust and love in a relationship. The feelings become deeper and the love grows stronger.

3.) Start off the beginning of the relationship slow. Learn about each others' habits, likes, and dislikes.

4.) Show respect, when given respect. Try to compromise and listen at all times to what that special some has to say.

5.) Use your insincts. Voice your opinion and feelings, when your happy or sad.

THE DON'TS

1.) Never accept abuse of any form, whether it is physical, mental, or verbal. No one deserves to be be belittled and treated anything other than a human being.

2.) Cheating should not be a norm in your relationship. Leave the relationship alone if this is the case.

3.) Rushing your feelings for the person you are in a relationship with. Slow down and re-evaluate yourself and the situation at hand.

4.) Making assumptions that your spouse is lying. Always ask, look for clues, and signs that your spouse is being unfaithful and/or lying.

5.) Having sex right away with your partner. It takes away the mental and emotional stage of the relationship, therefore, your relationship could be only based upon sex instead of something more. Build your way up to that special moment.

SLOWING THE RELATIONSHIP DOWN

There comes a time in any relationship, where feelings, thoughts, and ideas seem to be rushed and decided upon way too fast. The best way to express your concern to your partner is to listen. Listen to him/her about the way the relationship is going so far and how they feel. Communicate that your spending too much time together and that you would like to have some space to clear your mind and to re-think matters over. He/She should believe that the relationship will work out in the end and will continue to press forward into the future. Show that you care about the person by giving a massage, talking, taking him/her out to eat, planning a special day for just the two of you.

TAKING THE RELATIONSHIP FURTHER AND BEYOND

As you become more comfortable with your significant other, the words "marriage", "kids", and "house" might come into play. Never become discouraged or frightened by these words. If any nervousness or uncertainty comes to mind, communicate with your love your feelings and what you think. If not, start on the road to a life with your love. Discuss looking for a house for the two of you. Talk about the idea of kids and marriage, whenever you are ready. The whole point of a relationship is to hopefully find someone to spend the rest of your life with. When you feel you have met that person, use your instincts, remain honest, loyal, and true to yourself. 




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    • torrilynn profile imageAUTHOR

      torrilynn 

      4 years ago

      @GailMeyers thanks for liking my advice and sharing with others !

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      Gail Meyers 

      5 years ago from Kansas City - United States

      I think this is some pretty good relationship advice, Torri. Thanks for sharing it. Voted up and useful.

    • torrilynn profile imageAUTHOR

      torrilynn 

      5 years ago

      @Janellegems I'm glad you like the advice that I have given and how sometimes as humans we tend to relate our lives to movies and shows even though we know the movies aren't real.

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      Janellegems 

      5 years ago from United States

      Wonderful advice and insights and I love reading the do's and don'ts.. I do agree that some television shows and movies can be misleading when it comes to love and relationships. Great hub.

    • torrilynn profile imageAUTHOR

      torrilynn 

      5 years ago

      @sweetie1 I'm glad you liked the tips that I included and yeah i agree with what your friend has says. Hopefully before you were in a relationship, your significant other were once friends, but once that friendship is gone; there is no relationship. Perfectly understandable.

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      sweetie1 

      5 years ago from India

      Very useful tips. My friend once said that in failed relationships, love never dies, its friendship which dies and hence relationship breaks.

    • torrilynn profile imageAUTHOR

      torrilynn 

      6 years ago

      your welcome and thank you for reading.

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      honeybee2u 

      6 years ago from PNG

      Hi Torri, thank you for these great advice. Voted up.

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