- Gender and Relationships
Dating and Falling in Love
Young Women - Purity
This article is written to young women who long for the kind of love that lasts a lifetime. As I write, please know that my heart is to make a plea for purity ... your purity. It is a plea to inspire you to save yourself for the man you will someday make a vow to love all the days of your life.
God has said, 'Let the older woman teach the younger woman.' As an older woman to many of you, I will endeavor to teach you to respect yourself and to wait for true love. I will earnestly seek to create a desire in your heart to wait on God to lead you to His best choice for you - A man who loves God and who pours that love into your life.
Dear sister, will you give me an opportunity to speak into your life? Will you allow me to share what only years can reveal to a woman? My younger sister, do not think I am old fashioned, I am experienced in life and I have witnessed the ravages of used up, love lost girls and women. I have listened to countless married women share the devastation of sex before marriage.
I Corinthians 13:4-8a
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
What Is Love
First, I'd like to establish a truth many a love lost young person misses. You will never find true love until YOU possess true love within yourself. Now - Stop everything - go back and read that sentence again please! If you are God's kid He will give you the ability to love even as you are loved by Him.
In the blue box at the right I have listed the TRUE definition of love. It is God's definition. As you read His words - ask yourself - Do I know how to love? If the answer is No - STOP looking for a man and start allowing God to develop His love in your heart. A godly man will NOT be attracted to a woman who is self absorbed and seeking her own way.
In order to find the right person - you must first BE the right person. A very simple truth with profound implications.
The Essence of You
God created the essence of you
A gentle and soft beauty
Uniquely formed; it's true
A strong and alluring presence
Known as faithful and true
Preserved for a day when love is new
She waits and she explores a few
Content to trust the Father above
Completely fulfilled in His unabashed love
Susan Jill Ream 2014
Fearfully and Wonderfully Made
Girls, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Your body is delicate, soft and alluring. It is a gift from the one who created you. Guard your body, (dressing tastefully to let your inner beauty shine) keep it pure, choose to save it for the man you will share life with someday. Dressing to draw attention to your face will show the beauty of your person and intrigue a man of character.
A young man who values your person and who fears the God who created you will make a deliberate choice to guard against violating you in any way, shape or form. Yes, sweet little sister, there really are men who value integrity and the gift of a pure, untouched women. Wait for him, he is a rare and precious treasure.
Hormones - Raging
Girls, I am sure you have figured out that the guys you know are going through major hormonal changes, just like you. In their hormonal rage, heading toward manhood, their bodies are screaming out for sex. For many guys the intention of that drive is to uncover you and to expose the sacred nakedness underneath your clothing.
Do you know that even guys who have been taught to respect the opposite sex can lose control during these very vulnerable years. Do you realize that most Christian guys hope you will put up a 'STOP here' boundary up if they try to cross it? Actually you have quite a bit of power when it comes to a guys drive for sex in a relationship.
Understand that a boy who wants you because of your body is after one thing; His selfish desire is to consume you and use you. The boy who says, if you love me you will give me your body, is lying to you. The world, Hollywood and your friends, who have caved to their cravings for sex, are lying to you.
It is not love to ask for something that is intended to be a gift to your husband on your wedding day. It is not love to lust after your innocence. It is not love to violate your body and expect you to enjoy the gift that God intended to be between one woman and one man in the holiest of unions. It is God Himself who has ordained marriage and who blesses the marriage bed.
The Two Shall Become One Flesh
“Have you not read,” says Jesus, “that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?’” Matthew 19:5
A Young Man Who Waits
Girls, I believe, though rare these days, that there are young men out there who, in a very sex-crazed age, have made a decision to remain pure. There are still guys who fear God and want to save sex for the day he takes his beautiful girl to the altar and makes a promise to love her and cherish her all the days of his life.
There are young, brave men who have determined to constrain their primal urges to wait for a woman of character and to respect the beauty of you. Will you wait for a young man who is exceptional, rare, amazing and godly? That is the question.
Wait for A Godly Young Man
Young friend, as you seek God and submit to Him in all your ways, I urge you to develop your God given gifts and be content to be loved by Him. A contented young woman is very attractive.
Wait for a young man who loves you for the person you are inside and not for what pleasure you can bring to his life in compromising ways. Beautiful girl, you are an original made by the creator of all man-kind. As you seek God and grow in Him your gifts, beauty, character qualities and uniqueness will shine.
A young man who is worthy of you will value you and count himself blessed to have found you. He will take a sincere and deeply rooted interest in helping you to become all you were designed to be. He will build you up with encouragement and take pride in you as you become the beautiful woman God had in mind when he created you.
VIDEO - Do Not Marry THIS man
The Video that follows is kind of weird to listen to because the reading is digital. The words are powerful and I wish every young woman in the world would listen to its message.
If you want the possibilities of living a long-life with a faithful man .. Do NOT pass go, listen to the advice given on this video. Take HEED while you may.
10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry
Be Strong and Faithful
We live in a very sin sick world filled with temptations and voices calling to us, luring us to believe that God is holding out on us. My prayer is that your heart has been touched through this writing. For those who have held out on sex I pray that your convictions have been strong, like a rock that cannot be moved. For those who have been led to believe the lies of the enemy, be encouraged God forgives and makes you whiter than snow so that you can begin again.
Would you make a decision today to stay pure and wait for the right man, a godly man, who will give you more love and joy than you could possibly imagine?
Warning: Making a decision in your own strength is sure to be a big fat FAIL. Recognise that apart from Christ we can do nothing. You must also run after a relationship with your Father God and surrender to the Holy Spirit's Strength inside of you. Bask in His word (they are the words of life.)
Seek out an older, wiser woman to give you counsel and to help you build your life on a solid foundation. Allow (submit, trust, give up control) God to direct your path. Be strong in the Lord little sister, be faithful beautiful girl because God has great plans to give you a future and a hope.
What God Says About Sex Before Marriage
"It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit." I Thessalonians 4:3-8
Girls Who Bought The Lie
As I write these words from my heart I am keenly aware many girls have already bought the lie that Eve bought. The lie which the enemy speaks boldly and arrogantly: "God is withholding from you!" That lie has been perpetuated since the very beginning when, in the garden, the creature spoke to Eve, tempting her as he deceived her and engaged her in conversation. Eve allowed the lie of the enemy to convince her that God was withholding a good thing from her.
The enemy did what he does best convincing, persuading and leading her to doubt the boundaries God put around her; Boundaries placed there for Eve’s own good. She believed the enemy, she was mesmerized, captivated and sold. As a result death was born and from that day on the consequences of listening to lies has been passed down to young women everywhere.
Dear deceived sister, though you bought the lie and feel the devastation of the consequences know that you have a God who gave His Son to Restore you. Be comforted to know there is grace in the Fathers heart. Know that God forgives and when we humble ourselves and confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins. He will wash you whiter than snow so you can begin again, pure and clean in His eyes. Let that give you hope!
God brings JOY to those who learn to trust Him and follow in His ways and as I'm pretty sure you know JOY is a rare commodity in today's world. Seek Him, follow in His ways and step aside as you witness the JOY of the Lord filling every need you have.