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A Forever with Blinders on
When it really becomes our choice.
Many years I have often wondered, why many people let family, friends and even coworkers affect the choice of whom they feel is right and correct for them. At the very least what they think couldn't possibly be of more importance than what you feel.
Have you ever noticed what a mom or dad or sibling will pick for you is not what all your friends would. Then do you even say to them, "why and how would you think they would float my boat "? The question now remains, "why do we think they could choose at all"? Could it be that we have not chosen wisely for ourselves in the past? Do we feel depleted of thought on what we really want and need for ourselves? The answer must lie somewhere in between the one we want and ourselves.
Opposites attract. How importantly true is this fair statement. However what I have found is that what we like in the opposite person is what we are not able to be ourselves. We tend to respect that much. The problem may be is that we ourselves need to be respected for who we are and they will need that as well. Not a small portion of it, but a vast majority of all of who we are, what we do, where we go and whom we choose to go it with.
If two people agree on money, politics. religion and how it is dealt with...well thats a fine start. Two that have passion and compassion will allow the other to talk openly and agree to disagree if needed. Morals are one of the biggest topics to agree on, and very well should be completely agreed upon.
Forever is a very long time...............unless the two are happy. Happy together, happy apart. Making room for all types of love, children, friends, family and coworkers too. All in all , when two become one................it should be the largest filled heart, with lots of room to grow and become flexible with time.
The only approval I need for my love and me .....is Gods loving grace and his light shining down upon our face. My last relationship did not work out. I spent much time trying to understand why. My illness contributed I feel sure, My personality I know for certain.
My wish for everyone is that we all find that special someone that accepts us where we are in life, and who we have become over the years. Unconditional love may not be what most humans are use to, may not be what most can give, but I fully realize that if one can love as God does, even most parents..... that even when the honeymoon stage is over , that we will find new ways to show them that we care. We will see them in a new light daily and appreciate that even when in strife, pain, anger and just love the one we chose with a passion. We will make it our promise to ourself to find the best in them and help when the best is not able to surface that day.
My parents have been together for over 50 years. That in itself is incredible. Knowing that many stay together for other reasons than love.... that isn't my parents situation. They truly love one another and put no one above or in front of the others wants or needs. They also chose each other, against both of their familes thoughts. All of their siblings have been divorced many times or a few. They think still that they beat odds.... I dare to disagree. They picked someone with their moral values, how each other valued money, religion and politics. They never let others thoughts keep them from who made them feel best in love , life and the storms we need shelter from.
Today I ask everyone to take a grande look at who you are, what you want and deserve. I know we all deserve to be happy. Make it happen , starting with choosing your better half based on your own heart and deep wants and needs. They say there is someone out there for everyone. That has to be true. However if we ourselves have no idea what we want......probably is because we don't know ourselves well enough to pick.... yet. Take this time to analyze why you feel they ways that you do. Why some things are so vital to get our point across, why it matters that we feel so understood. When those are answered , I have a feeling one can set out and find that soulmate we all so desire.
Just my clear thought today
Happy love hunting