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Addicted to Sex Part Two
The effects of Sex Addiction on any given person can differ. I was asked to name the effects of sex on the human body as with any other addiction and was a bit confused with the question, but do love a challenge so I hope I go about this the right way.
As far as sex goes let’s just say when in a committed relationship it can be rewarding, exhilarating, overwhelming and passionate. However, when a person focuses on nothing more than the desire of another sexual conquest, porn, and/or paying for sex it becomes a problem in its own right.
The person you love becomes a victim to your rampage and if left in the dark, and have no clue the person they committed themselves to has a problem, it can be downright humiliating. Many people, be it a man or a woman find out the hard way that their mate is doing unscrupulous things they could never imagine with someone else.
The trust is then lost and the shame takes over. One couple I read about had been married for twenty four years and the husband was a pastor. When they met everything was going well. They got married , had children and it wasn’t until their twenty fourth wedding anniversary that he decided to be honest and tell her he was paying to have sex with prostitutes, and couldn’t get the fantasies out of his head.
When he realized his problem was affecting his life, both emotionally and financially for he was now stealing from his congregation to pay for his addiction he realized he had to do the right thing, quit his job, tell his wife and seek help. After months of separation and him seeking counseling this couple found their way back and have since then renewed their vows. Happily, I can say they made it through an obstacle that seemed overbearing, but with true love, perseverance and hope they managed.
It isn’t easy for most to admit their deceptive ways, and their need to fulfill each fantasy that pops into mind just gets worse and worse. Sex is supposed to be shared with someone you love, be it due to marriage or a committed relationship. It is a pleasure to want to share that kind of closeness with someone you adore and hope to share the rest of your life with.
There are many reasons that may bring one to live a life outside of the marriage, but it still needs to be addressed if you really want to save your relationship. To spend a lot of money on porn, prostitutes or even massages just to get a fix on your sexual desires is wrong. Not only to you but your family if you happen to have one.