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Advice for Healing a Relationship After Cheating

Updated on October 26, 2016

Most people will never want to be cheated, especially by their lover or spouse because being cheated by someone you love probably is the most painful things according to every person who has experienced it. Being cheated make your feeling down very deeply, it feels hurt and make you stress. You need strength to be able to move on and organize your life back. After knowing that you have been cheated, usually, you begin to believe that you are not good enough. This can lead to a level of stress and anxiety in which can trigger a depression. You may lose focus and couldn't do any regular activities and other things you usually do in your life. The situation can change all the aspects of your life. It can be a difficult time of your life, therefore, try to seek some help if you need to cure your pain from being cheated and don't reject any help if people wants to help you. It is better if you can get supports from anyone to help you revived after being cheated.

Whether you will move on and leave your spouse behind to get another relationship with someone new or wants to stick with your current spouse who already cheated on you, to recover your painful it does not depend on how other people treat you and not depends on who you suppose to love but it is all on you. You must have the ability to be independent towards your situations. If you can through it and even become stronger than before, you might look at the situation with thoughtful, understanding and even stronger than ever. Now, to train you to become stronger and tough, there are some important things you should do when you have to rise up to heal your feelings that are already hurt.

Learn To Control Your Emotions

The first thing to do after being cheated is learning to control your emotions. You feel hurt, angry, humiliated, sad, disappointed and every negative thoughts and feeling that mixed in you. Take a deep breath and release it and try to do it over and over. Don’t do anything first to make you calm. Sit in a comfortable place and try to calm down. Negative feelings and thoughts usually always come up all the time especially if you just experience on being cheated and it’s like attacking your soul non-stop. So you have to stop it. Conquer your negative feelings and thoughts and try to think of something else that ever made you happy without someone who has cheated on you such as your favorite things, your best friends, remember or do something that can make you laugh, on so on.

Get support from others

Even if you try to resolve your problem by yourself, it is better if you are accompanied by others especially by people who are closest to you such as relatives and best friends. Accept any form of support from them and ask for support and share your burden with others so that you will not sink and dissolve with your problems. However, do not be discouraged if others can let you down, but try to remain enthusiastic and optimistic. Take the positive wisdom of the advice or recommendation of each person you meet. Undoubtedly, it will lead you to become a successful person to find the meaning of true love in your life.


You cannot continue to deny that the person you love has betrayed you. Accept the fact that the person you love has betrayed you and tries to contemplate toward yourself. It is best to set yourself ahead. It depends on your choice how to address the situation. You can forgive someone you love who already cheated on you or not or maybe prefer to leave them and seeking a new love adventure or else, but that is not the point. The point is if you can be able to become stronger, tough, independent, caring, lovable person after through it. But the first thing to do is to accept the fact that it does happen to you and your experience shape you to be a better person.

Learn to Be Independent

If you can be independent as a person, you would not have to rely on someone you love who ever give you a bad experience, and if similar situation happens in the future, you can prepare yourself and contemplate at it, think that it is not a major obstacle to the success of your life because you have become tough, stronger, beautiful, independent, caring and lovable person. Being independent means you can live even without someone you love who have been cheated on you.

Try New Things

Try new things to keep you busy and can be soon to forget the incident. It will never be easy and you must keep trying to seek other things that make you happy in your life. You could try a new hobby, favored and collect new things, you could try anything that makes you can revive again. Keep trying until you get what you are looking for and be happy with it.

Grow Your Social Life

Growing your social life is important so that you can compare your life with the surrounding people, but look at the bright side and draw positive conclusions. Grow social life that makes you be a better person. Growing your good social life helps you to be independent, strong, tough, caring and lovable.


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    • ryanjhoe profile image

      ryanjhoe 5 years ago from Somewhere over the rainbow

      @Au fait Thanks and yes, every person has their own way of dealing with this issue and I hope their experience can make them be more stronger and better. :)

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      C E Clark 5 years ago from North Texas

      Interesting perspective. Everyone has their own way of dealing with this issue.

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      ryanjhoe 5 years ago from Somewhere over the rainbow

      @travel_man1971 Thanks for stopping by and read my hub :) I edited the pics and drew a bit of it :)

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      Ireno Alcala 5 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      I think I was under a similar situation decades ago. It healed somehow and I know better next time I enter into a serious relationship again.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts. BTW, nice photos, too, or you edited or drew it?

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      Moderndayslave 5 years ago

      You need to live for yourself. Your partner cheating on you shows you how much this person really cares about you. Have the strength to say "Next". Someones trash is another persons treasure.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 5 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Very nice tips to those, who unfortunately have been cheated by someone. Though it is easier said than done, it is very important to find new ways to restart again. Thanks for sharing the useful advice.