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Beautiful and Confident Women Should Not Be Intimidating

Updated on November 13, 2020
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Claudette Carter specializes in conducting free home Bible lessons where she teaches others how to love God and your fellow man like Jesus.

Beautiful and Confident Women That Continues to Rock the World

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Beautiful women that l know personally that are confident, spiritual, great mothers, friends and professionals.The living room of Debra's beautiful home which she welcomed our family in.The elegantly decorated dinning room of Debra's home.Debra's cozy kitchen.
Beautiful women that l know personally that are confident, spiritual, great mothers, friends and professionals.
Beautiful women that l know personally that are confident, spiritual, great mothers, friends and professionals.
The living room of Debra's beautiful home which she welcomed our family in.
The living room of Debra's beautiful home which she welcomed our family in.
The elegantly decorated dinning room of Debra's home.
The elegantly decorated dinning room of Debra's home.
Debra's cozy kitchen.
Debra's cozy kitchen.
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I admire my daughter Wanisha who is beautiful and extremely talented with cake baker and decorator. She is well known for creating cakes that look like individuals. This is a cake for my nephew’s graduation.This is a cake Wanisha created for my nephew Jahua after his graduation. She designs cakes that look like houses, Bibles, people, flowers or whatever your request is. Back in the seventies and eighties l was confident and strong enough to start my own television production company which won numerous awards. Pastry chef Wanisha Bey is not only beautiful, spiritually strong and very talented.Jaleesa is on the right of this photo with her sister Wanisha on the left. Jaleesa is spiritually strong, wise, confident and beautiful. She is the dancer in the family who has performed in Lip Synk competitions and on stage for local affairs.
I admire my daughter Wanisha who is beautiful and extremely talented with cake baker and decorator. She is well known for creating cakes that look like individuals. This is a cake for my nephew’s graduation.
I admire my daughter Wanisha who is beautiful and extremely talented with cake baker and decorator. She is well known for creating cakes that look like individuals. This is a cake for my nephew’s graduation.
This is a cake Wanisha created for my nephew Jahua after his graduation. She designs cakes that look like houses, Bibles, people, flowers or whatever your request is.
This is a cake Wanisha created for my nephew Jahua after his graduation. She designs cakes that look like houses, Bibles, people, flowers or whatever your request is.
Back in the seventies and eighties l was confident and strong enough to start my own television production company which won numerous awards.
Back in the seventies and eighties l was confident and strong enough to start my own television production company which won numerous awards.
Pastry chef Wanisha Bey is not only beautiful, spiritually strong and very talented.
Pastry chef Wanisha Bey is not only beautiful, spiritually strong and very talented.
Jaleesa is on the right of this photo with her sister Wanisha on the left. Jaleesa is spiritually strong, wise, confident and beautiful. She is the dancer in the family who has performed in Lip Synk competitions and on stage for local affairs.
Jaleesa is on the right of this photo with her sister Wanisha on the left. Jaleesa is spiritually strong, wise, confident and beautiful. She is the dancer in the family who has performed in Lip Synk competitions and on stage for local affairs.

Should Others Be Intimidated By Successful Women?

Today we see an abundance of women that are strong, determined and considerate. Women such as vice president-elect #Kamala Harris, news anchor Gayle King, cake designer Wanisha Bey, Dory Bork, who writes friends in Russia that have been falsely imprisoned and numerous other strong, immensely talented and fabulous women. Beautiful, confident, determined and despised. These are words that Debra Simmon, of Hampton, Virginia is confronted with daily. During a recent interview by my twin sister Paulette, it was obvious that Debra, not only has the looks but has prevailed in the highest levels of her field. Debra's immaculately decorated, single home is filled with top designer shoes, clothing, and fancy vehicles. This woman has accomplished, everything materially and spiritually.

Debra, has tremendous faith in God, is well educated, exudes wisdom and is simply a down home, down to earth, #hardworking woman. Her love and concern for others are quite apparent. Should we view this type of successful woman as a threat or be intimidated by her success? Unanimously, many would agree that we should not be intimidated or threatened by these types of beautiful, #successful women. Yet, the majority of women in Debra's category, clearly express how they are singled out by others and treated with contempt because of exterior appearance, as well as their determination to achieve their goals. How sad this statement is because within the majority of these scenarios, women like Debra, just happen to be beautiful but they have worked hard to accomplish their goals.

#Beauty Should Not Be the Source Of Our Conversation

Beautiful, confident women were looked upon favorably by our Creator Jehovah God. God inspired men such as Solomon to write, “A poetic book of the Hebrew Scriptures that tells of the unswerving love of a Shulammite girl for a shepherd boy and King Solomon’s unsuccessful attempt to capture her love...lt is but one song and not a collection of songs.” These loving, powerful words at Song of Solomon 1:15 states, “Look! You are beautiful, my beloved. Look! You are beautiful. Your eyes are those of doves.” These alluring decriptive words prove that our Heavenly Father appreciated beauty as well. He inspired and used these Bible writers to acknowledge the significance of words such as beautiful.

The daunting discussion of beautiful, confident women, has been viewed very negatively recently. An article entitled, Do We Hate Confident Women? features the detrimental information concerning Samantha Brick, where she wrote about how, “pretty” she is, and “how it leads to constant spontaneous gift-giving by men around her." Samantha went on to describe that, "There are downsides to being pretty, the main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks." This type of repulsive, #egotism may cause some people to view all beautiful, confident women as a source of intimidation or a threat. Consider, #Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary's definition of egotism, "Excessive use of the first person singular personal pronoun; the practice of talking about oneself too much; an exaggerated sense of self-importance; conceit." This type of individual can be a negative influence around others because a person like Samantha, can be defined as pretty and thinks she’s better than others.

Negative behaviors can evolve such as verbal abuse, bullying toward others or excessive pride. There is nothing wrong with a woman who not only has good looks but is confident in her abilities. #Steve Harvey's book and previous movie, #Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man, establishes that point for all women. We can be strong, confident and beautiful yet, demure and submissive to our man without acting like one. The Bible warns us that we should never be, "doing nothing out of contentiousness or out of egotism, but with lowliness of mind considering that the others are superior to you." (Phillippians 2:3) #New World Translation of the Holy Scriptures. Hopefully, Samantha Brick is not really egotistical. Our outward appearance should never be the source of conversation because we can be deprived of beauty, in an instant due to "unforeseen occurrences."

Outward Appearance Should Never Be the Focus

A major story in the headlines previously was the horrific accident of Lauren Scruggs. Radar Online.com, interviewed her mother in an article entitled, #Disfigured Model Lauren Scruggs Bravely Reveals Amputated Limb, "After bravely enduring surgeries, physical therapy after losing her left hand and eye in a tragic plane propeller accident, Lauren Scruggs is on the mend, staying positive and getting used to the 'new norm.“ This type of catastrophe reminds us how unexpected events can occur in our lives where that sense of physical beauty is torn away instantly. Never would we want to focus on our outward appearance which can be so fickle and insignificant.

Appreciate the Inner Person to Avoid Being Intimidated By Others

#Beautiful and confident women should never be a threat when we are in their presence. Intimidation should definitely not exist, especially when these women radiate with love and concern for others. Our family, unfortunately, experienced the death of a dear relative recently. The majority of us had never met Debra Simmon, but she offered that all of us could stay at her home which consisted of more than twelve people. What a loving gesture. Debra really made us feel at home during the time of our loss. This was a demonstration of inner beauty. During the interview, Debra acknowledged something that she taught her daughter Selina, "to have a heart for people." In the end, it is truly not only what is on the outside but what is dwelling on the inside and how we extend that to others. What a beautiful example we can all apply in our lives as an inner extension of love, rather than being concerned about our outward appearance.


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Things We Can Do as Confident and Beautiful Women

“There are downsides to being pretty, the main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks.”

— Samantha Brick author of the article, “Do We Hate Confident Women?”

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2012 Claudette Coleman Carter

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    • Angelladywriter profile imageAUTHOR

      Claudette Coleman Carter 

      8 years ago from Media, Pennsylvania

      Your comments were both interesting and inspirational. Thanks for sharing your opinions.

    • Levertis Steele profile image

      Levertis Steele 

      8 years ago from Southern Clime

      What interesing points you have shared! This is my favorite: "Appreciate the Inner Person to Avoid Being Intimidated By Others."

      I also love these shots taken of Debra's living room, dining room, and kitchen.

      Thanks for sharing your hub.

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      Levertis Steele 

      8 years ago from Southern Clime

      As pretty as a perfect rose may be, does it last forever? It lives but a little while before it withers, dies, and is cast out. Physical beauty is vanity. It is here today and gone tomorrow. I was watching the Miss America Beaty Pageant many years ago when a reflection of the formal Miss Americas was profiled. Although still elegant ladies, they had lost the youthful beauty that they once posessed, but their inner beauty was still there. That made them shine brightly.

      Do you ever wonder why some vain men dump their once beautiful wives for younger women when the wrinkles start appearing? This is their effort to continue the fantasy of keeping outward beauty forever.

      Some beautiful, successful women intimidate others and may not realize it. They are not always innocent. Some handle beauty well, and some do not. If they would ask trusted friends or relatives their honest opinions of their characters, they could be surprised at the answers.

      It is also true that some people in the work places despise pretty women because they feel that they get advantages because of their beauty. Some people despise pretty women because of their own low self-esteem or plain looks. Unfortunately, these behaviors are common among women almost anywhere.

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      1spiritualexhort 

      9 years ago

      Thank you for presenting this type of interview with an individual that is focused and secure in being a strong positive example to her daughter and to other women.

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