Are Drive-bys With Your Ex A Help or Hinderance?

Just about everyone goes through a breakup at one point or another. Breakups are never pretty. They usually come about because of some sort of pain, heartbreak or disappointment. Everyone always says exes are exes for a reason and unless there are kids involved, there is no reason to ever look back. But what about when that pain subsides and you don't necessarily want to go back, but you don't want to be alone?

Dating itself can be an extremely daunting task. It takes so much time and energy that you may not be able to fit into your life at that moment. With that being said, an occasional drive-by by the ex doesn't seem like such a terrible idea. You are comfortable with that person and while you may or may not trust him, he knows you and vice versa.

When you become singles, you don't want to bed hop with every Tom, Dick and Harry that comes along. You want to be sure it's the right time (even if it's not the person you'll be with for the rest of your life).

Now, while the stroke, feeling and climax is familiar, the activity may be blocking whomever is really supposed to be filling that space (no pun intended). Continuing to smash an ex may have a person inadvertently holding on to something that may have been toxic in the first place.

Also, while you (or I in the past) are still getting together with an ex, it makes it harder to get over and past them because the connection is on-going. When it's finally over and done with, you would need that much longer to get over the relationship, in whatever form it existed in- a grieving period. Again, this may create an issue for who is waiting to enter your life.

I have always been one who says "everything happens for a reason," and I still believe that, but I also think that people need to get out of their own way. People have to realize when they are blocking their own blessing or interrupting a process and make decisions accordingly.

I don't really have any solid advice on this one folks. It's a hard one. People are driven by emotions, feelings and familiarity. no one enjoys just 'being out there' in a new strange world alone. Sometimes though, getting out of your comfort zone may be the best thing that's ever happened to you. give it a try.