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Are Long Lasting Friendships Possible?

Updated on September 6, 2019
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Am I a bad friend? This question haunts me. The number of people I call friends has reduced over the years. I remember having quite a lot of friends in high school and even in college.

I used to make the effort to go out whether it was to a party or to eat with some of my friends, but now it’s just me, my boyfriend and my bff.

Granted, I know a lot of people I could text right now and set up a date to hang out with them, but, we’re not close anymore. They are not the first people I think of when I’m going through any hardships and need help, and most certainly I don’t confide in them my innermost fears.

I’ve always been a somewhat reserved individual, maybe it's the way my parents raised me; I never liked to discuss "private matters with my then friends.

The only exception is my best friend, I confide in her almost anything, it was not always that way, and it certainly took a long time for me to trust her with my secrets, insecurities and deepest thoughts.

I still have a hard time expressing myself and letting her know what’s going on, especially now that I’ve moved countries.

Friendships As Rleationships Take Effort

And it is here that my predicament lies; the times we talk now are far and few between, sure I text her almost every day, but we rarely have any meaningful exchange, I know what’s going on in her life, but not how she feels about it.

I have to wonder at this point, is this how friendships evolve? Is it normal to drift away? Am I a bad friend for not keeping in touch as much as I would like to?

Since I’m in a new country and I can reinvent myself wherever way I see fit, I have decided that my early New Year’s resolution is making time for my friends and to reconnect with the ones I’ve lost contact with.

There are, of course, some individuals that I never want to be in touch with again, like most of the people I went to high school with. They have tried to go get me to go to high school reunions, but honestly, there's no point, except for a few of them, I don't like them

In the end, I know friendships as with any relationship are hard and you have to put of lot effort if you want them to last. And it is about damn time I started putting in the effort and not just taking my friendships for granted.

© 2019 Marcela Briceno

Have you gone through a similar situation? I want to know.

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    • Benjamin fritsch profile image

      Benjamin fritsch 

      6 months ago

      Friendship is the best relationship you can have, when your partner is your best friends you both don't get tired of each other i just need a good friendship am Benjamin if you are interested you text me, or send me your email address

    • Teszra profile image

      Tess 

      7 months ago from Hawaii

      Relationships are all about an equal balance of give and take. Each person must work towards maintaining that friendship which provides value for both parties. Without that sense of value, it's a one way street. Long lasting relationships are possible but as with any relationship, they don't go without their ups and downs.

      Interesting article here.

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