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Are You Gentleman? Check This Out!

Updated on February 20, 2010

As a man I really admire woman. I was born in the beautiful word cause a woman. of course she is my mom. Sometimes I can't thought with a man action who waste the woman. I realize that many of man have a big ego. And the other side woman want to be loved and woman liked the romantic situation, How to keep the warm relationship if there's no understanding between man and woman. As a man I want to give the best for my couple. And this is naturally as a man. With one condition, we must put aside our selfish sense.

To create those situation we have to act as a gentleman. If you are a gentleman, you certainly will work hard in order to make your partner feel protected and safe at your side. There is a tips for you how to act gentleman in front of a woman. By these action help you to indicate that you are a perfect gentlemen. 

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Let her sit first

While you're eating with your partner or candle light dinner. A man will be expected to attract the chair first for the couple. Sometimes this action considered too formal. But I think there's no wrong if you let her to sit down first. Standing a little longer to make her feel more respected, though perhaps she didn't realize it. Don't be too clearly pointed this out, because often she felt embarrassed. If this action successful, you will show that you want her feel more comfortable first.

Watch Your Language

One important point often missed. When we use the language that is sometimes too harsh. A man should be proud to be able to demonstrate the expression without using harsh language. Not only it will show your intelligence, but also shows a high standard for yourself and the people around you. Of course, smart doesn't mean using complicated words. The important thing is don't be rude!

Offer your seat!

A gentleman will never forget to standing and giving his seat on public transport for older people or pregnant women. Especially for your couple, don't ever forget to give your seat on the bus or other public transportation. This shows that you are more concerned her existence. Stand before offering your seat, this is an extra to show your sincerity.

Introducing her

This thing you can do at the time were at a party or while attending your friend's wedding invitation, or family party. This is the best time to introduce your partner or your wife to your friend, public or your family. A woman feel more appreciated when we want her to get involve. This would make her doesn't feel alone and isolated. Make sure that your partner always feel comfortable beside you and make her feel very important to you.

Turn off the phone when dating

Sometimes you look very busy. Until the dating moment your phone never stop ringing. And you are busy to receive that calls. This is very rough, either at the time of dating or other appointment, Try to make her as the most important person in the world in dating. Jut remembering when you receive the calls or you calls someone, you make her uncomfortable and as an silent object. Make sure you make a phone calls or receive the calls after the dating over.

Bring an umbrella for her

Another gentleman action is to bring an umbrella, make sure that she was still dry, this is the best way to show a good attitude. A gentleman would always be ready for the weather the simple tools for this condition is an umbrella. When the rain come show your attention that you are more interested in her with carrying an umbrella and protect her from rain. There is nothing wrong if you're wet, because these actions indicate that you want to protecting her.

Give your jacket

Sometimes when dating moment, she wasn't wore thick clothes to keep out the cold air or air conditioning. If you feel that tonight is cold enough, offer her your jacket immediately . He may refuse your offer, but if he's starting feel cold, don't hesitate to offer again. You felt cold too? just hold on for a while! don't forget she's your main priority.

Take her home

This is a very important action for a gentleman. Make sure she gets home safely. This is your main priority. She would feel safe if she knows that you accompany him to the front door. If she stops and doesn't get in, probably means she wants you to kiss, but if she doesn't want it, don't force it!

Open the door

90% of women felt that this action is the main action of a Gentleman. This simple action will make a woman feel appreciated. It looks simple, but I want to remind you again. From the simple things we can get the bigger things. When you held it open until the person behind you pass that door. These actions show that you also respect others.

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    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Your welcome, stars439. Thanks for your attention to this information. I do agree with you that manner is still important. God bless you too. Have a nice weekend :-)


    • stars439 profile image


      6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      A wonderful hub that should remind all men to conduct themselves with the professionalism of fine manners in appropriate times. God Bless You. Thank You.

    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks Walkin for stopping by, I am glad you liked this hub.

    • walkin profile image


      8 years ago from India

      Interesting Tips !!

      Nice Hub.

    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks fastfreta and mulberry1 for giving your time to visit this hub. I really appreciate read your comment. I'm flattered with your word. Actually this is simple attitude, but we have to pay attention more. And good for tradition, don't be shame with your polite behavior. I hope other people beside us want to follow our good attitude...amen

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      Christine Mulberry 

      8 years ago

      I think it's true, the little things mean a lot. It's true for everyone though, going out of your way to do nice, polite things for someone is good whether you're a man or woman.

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      Alfreta Sailor 

      8 years ago from Southern California

      I see chivalry is not dead, it's alive and living in you, please don't let it die. Such a nice young man you are, and what good advice, from such a wonderful gentleman. One rate up and two thumbs up!

    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Thanks for everyone who come to this hub and give your opinion about this topic. I know not all the man will act like gentleman. And most of them doing this act depend on the situation. And it will better if we could appreciate woman.

      I get nice input from Pete. That we were equal. I agree with you. If I am in the public transportation, I'll give my seat to sick man than strong healthy woman. That's we call it social life.

      But in this hub the strong point is how to be a gentleman in relationship between man and woman. And I have wonderful feedback from you all. I really impressed. Thanks.....

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      Audrey Kirchner 

      8 years ago from Washington

      Great points! and I especially like introducing her or giving your jacket....that is so sweet when someone does those things and shows me right away what great manners they have! In a society where manners are somehow lacking most of the time it seems, it is refreshing for you to point them out!

    • yenajeon profile image


      8 years ago from California

      Fantastic! Glad to see that chivalry is not dead. Love it!

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      Holle Abee 

      8 years ago from Georgia

      Glad to see there are still a few gentlemen left!

    • JannyC profile image


      8 years ago

      Ok where are these men cause they are not on this planet. Now a days your not so special your equal just like them. So when someone is nice to me like that it is a shocker. It also is kind of nice and I like it cause its such a fight out there in the world to survive.

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      Angela Blair 

      8 years ago from Central Texas

      Great Hub -- a reminder to all of us to give our best to everyone we meet and you're right. Women do appreciate the courteous things men do for them -- if they're smart! Best, Sis

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      Pete Maida 

      8 years ago

      I thought we were equal. I thought there should be no difference in treatment between men and women; isn't that what the women's movement has been fighting for all of these years.

      Or is it like everything else; it's not equality but advantage. I want everything you have and more.

      If women are no longer the weaker sex why would it be harder from them to stand on a bus than a man? If the sexes are equal what does it matter who sits first?

      Do women want to be equal or do they want to be special?

      I think things depends on the person. I'll give up my seat to a man who looks sick or overly tired for giving it to a strong healtyh woman. I hold the door for everyone.

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      Priscilla Chan 

      8 years ago from Normal, Illinois

      Great hub,Prasetio! Only if we can find men like those, LOL.

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      Hello, hello, 

      8 years ago from London, UK

      In our days these advices needed to be said and I am glad you wrote this hub. I only wish that people would take note of it. A woderful hub and thank you.

    • Ghost Whisper 77 profile image

      The IGNITER vs Corrupted Governments 

      8 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

      Such a great hub suggestion to the males seeking female mates! So true-many of these that you explained are very important to me. I will not give them away--because you never know who you will meet :) I don't want someone 'doing' them because they think that is what I want or desire. I want a really great guy to act in these ways because it is "who he is" deep down.

      Good Hub!! You have the sweetest hubs prasetigo30 :)

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      8 years ago from United States

      Wonderful hub with great advice! Thank you for writing this.

    • H P Roychoudhury profile image

      H P Roychoudhury 

      8 years ago from Guwahati, India

      Realization of a woman is a great art and sobriety of a man.

    • prasetio30 profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      thanks michiganman, Darlene, my brother Mystique1957, and BkCreative for supporting this hub. I can be a gentleman without woman. So I give my big appreciation for all woman in the world and for many Hubbers also.

      My Brother Mystique1957, you are right and you put your wonderful comment in the right side. It so nasty when a man wasting a woman. There's no silly word in appreciate woman. You are a really gentleman my brother I never doubt about that.

      And I agree that to be a gentleman is to be a gentle man.

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      8 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

      All these niceties show real class and kindness in a man. And so true what Mystique1957 says - to be a gentleman is to be a gentle man.

      Thanks for this hub!

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      8 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

      My man Prasetio...

      You are a gentleman, I can tell you that! This is very nice. "Gentlemanlikeness" has been lost through the years. No point in feeling silly or not man enough! Gentleness is the main trait of a gentle-man! That is its connotation: A man who is gentle. For those men who disagree with it, just show sheer savagery!

      Great hub!

      Thumbs up!

      warm regards and blessings, my good friend,


    • Darlene Sabella profile image

      Darlene Sabella 

      8 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

      Wonderful hub, and yes all your wise advise is perfect. Thank you for sharing.

    • michiganman567 profile image


      8 years ago from Michigan

      Great Job! Good information, good formatting, and good pictures.


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