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Are You in a Love Triangle

Updated on August 16, 2017
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Relationships can go Bad with a Third Person

The third person in a relationship is bad news
The third person in a relationship is bad news | Source
The third person  can cause many issues
The third person can cause many issues | Source
A triangle is not an option
A triangle is not an option | Source

The Third Person is the Last one in the Relationship

Most Married couples often find themselves in a love triangle.

No matter the happiness in marriages there is often a third person to cause a a confusion.

He is handsome with striking blue eyes and a charming man!

There is something different about this man in comparison to a married partner, and not everyone could get over these emotions.

  • It is like you have mixed emotions.

You are in love with another, and feel confused about certain issues in your life. Everything is fine in your relationship. The third person is at your side too.

  • A mistake for sure!

The third leg is the awkward one, the leg that has to be removed to balance out that table with two legs.

The heart is open to one person, and the third person becomes the painful one. Hearts break, and there are no lies about that. Remember, you can't have that third person.

Before the third one came along, everything felt right, in your relationship. Things are gradually changing because of that third person.

You are committed and can't fix the problem easily.

Your current partner doesn't fulfill your every need, and the third person fulfills that void your partner fails to fill in for you.

You find pleasure in the third person's company.

It makes you feel great while your spouse is happy with you,

The situation becomes problematic, and in time can destroy the relationship. Usually, it is two women and a man involved. To cope with the third person that can be mind-blowing.

She can't wait to see the third person in the relationship. However, the husband tries to avoid this person it is not possible to not see him.

The third person still comes by as the ''so-called friend.''

The two happily married people and in different ways. She won't leave her husband for the other man, though enjoys the company of the other man.

  • Would you allow the other man as a friend to spend time with your wife?

Sometimes, it could be right to you when making such decisions the problem can worsen.

  • Will he or she become closer?

People grow and change all the time, and accepting these changes in a marriage could be difficult and uncalled for in many ways.

Disappointed marriages could make these faults. Married women, or men want to have different partners.

Having your wife, or husband to go through these changes could have many effects in a marriage.

  • Would you tolerate these changes?

There are three of you, the husband, the wife, and the other person who disturbs your marriage. The problem is to the third person, who is often left out of the triangle.

Issues arise, the third person is not going to find the love he wants in a relationship.

He is just wasting his time, and would only dream of something he can't have with this woman.

Loving another man's wife, is an experience he may never have again. He has over come the fear of meeting someone with these little moments.

The third person in my opinion shouldn't get involved in a couple's relationship.

It is painful, fearful, and not fair to the couple.

Something one can only dream of, and won't get further than that.

One person has to move out of this relationship, and that is the person who got in last the third one.

The husband trusts his wife, and he knows she won't cheat on him with the third person. When he sees the changes in his wife he feels a bit insecure about certain behaviors noticed.

If he knows she is cheating he could try to look away from the problem.

Instead, he loves her more, and still put her on a pedestal.

Not every man would see the situation in the same way.

Accepting such issues can be more of a problem to deal with than an acceptance.

Recommit may, or may not work in a love triangle, whereby, in certain circumstances the husband agrees for the wife to be with another.

  • She may be not be the perfect one, but then who is the perfect one?

If you think about it she can be worth fighting for in his life!

You marry someone who you know is the one, and you want to spend the rest of your life with that person.

The third person is someone you want to share certain stuff with, as in the lonely moments you have each day..

The married man can sometimes feel out of place when with the third person.

Emotionally, a love like this won't work out.

  • What do you think of a single man loving another man's wife?

  • Can single guys be into married women?

  • Married or single, and you still wonder if another is really into you.

It is not always easy to tell if he is into her.

She is married, and he is single and lives next door.

He has never been in a relationship, or even close to someone.

To put it bluntly, he is shy and inexperienced.

When it comes to forming close relationships he has no clue of how to go about it.

One fine day he comes along for a cool drink while her husband was outside, and the woman stood by the door, and watched as the neighbor talked to her husband.

She greeted him with a friendly smile like every other time.

To her surprise not only did the guy greet the woman started licking his lips while talking to her. He licked his lips a few times while looking at her in a conversation.

  • When a man licks his lips while talking to a woman does this mean he is into her?

Since that day he got closer to her in the following ways:

  • What does it mean if he comes to visit with a bottle of wine for her?

He wears cologne, and is happy to be around her.

In conversation, he often asks of her opinion.

He has no intention of meeting anyone else.

When in conversation with the woman he is full of smiles.

Sometimes he touches her hand.

When her husband and her are invited to his place, he treats her to anything special.

He looks forward to having her at his place for a meal or for a glass of wine.

A lonely man who speaks out for himself, and enjoys her company.

He has time for the married woman, and wants to be with this married woman, and knows he can't be that close because she is married.

He dresses up on certain occasions, and looks at the way she is dressed.

A man who would make any excuse to see her.

Eye contact makes awkward moments, especially when the husband notices.

He could still be into her even though she is married.

How far can one go with such gestures?

What makes this a rare type of relationship. At one point in her life she despised this guy, and now she won't be her happiest unless she sees him.

Only a greeting from him to her makes her day a happy one.

As a married woman she shouldn't be enticing him in any way. Somehow, things are moving along slowly, and much more friendlier too.

He was away for the Christmas holidays, and they had missed each other.

His hugs for her were so true in his eyes after he got back from his holiday.

The actual question, is he really into her?

  • A simple man, single man shows an interest in a married woman. Does this mean he is really into her?

You don't have to be single to know if someone is really into you.

  • Could there be a slight touch of love of these moments?

The little things he does makes her feel good too. Nothing of the above-mentioned is tried or attempted without the presence of her husband.

Marriage with the other person is not possible.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi pepe a friend with benefit well said thank you for coming by.

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      pepe 3 years ago

      It hurt so much if you managed to be in a love traiangle. You have to listen to your cognitive dissonance. Definitely, the's something lacking in the relationship(financial, emotional or material). The third person might be a friend with benefit

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Au fait so right and and true about this topic, thanks for the votes and interesting have a good weekend.

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      C E Clark 3 years ago from North Texas

      As always, lots of issues raised for a person to think about. While I wrote about open marriage because it is becoming more and more prevalent here in the states, it would never work for me. There are also some people who include others in their marriage and some of them actually all live together. I'm afraid there are some things that I am simply not good at sharing and a husband is one of them. Voted up and interesting!

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thanks for the vote up and fro commenting

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      FlourishAnyway 4 years ago from USA

      It's never good to have a third wheel. Someone will get hurt. Ultimately, I think responsibility lies with the two people who made the commitment to one another. The third person is a symptom of larger issues. Interesting hub. Voted up.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks for the votes up and interesting the third person in a marriage is often the bigger problem KoffeeKlatch Gals

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      Susan Haze 4 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Very interesting. Letting a third person into your marriage is a huge mistake. Up and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      So funny hahha! In a love triangle with your two cats, hmmm! I am glad to be your best teacher at least you would look forward to learning more from me. Have a lovely day, Cheers!

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      You always ask the best questions my friend. Yes I am in a love triangle.

      With my two cats. lol. I have to be careful to share my time equally with both Little Miss Tiffy and Mister Gabriel as there is probably jealousy involved and they both have different personalities that have to be catered to.

      Yikes! I don't even want to think about the 'human' equation - I think I will just stick to being a 'one woman man.'

      Thank you again for letting me think and debate - you are my favorite 'teacher' here at the Hub and always letting me learn from you.

      Sending warm wishes from lake erie time ontario canada 7:22am with first cup of coffee

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      You made an excellent point here and gladly agree thanks

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lovedoctor926, glad you would stand your ground and reason as well thanks for the vote up and awesome you are to the point.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Well, in this case it would have to be my husband or partner.. let me clarify. lol

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      "Would you allow the the third person in your relationship to spend time with your wife if you knew you couldn't satisfy some of her needs?"

      Definitely not. I would just remove myself from the picture, but first I would seek marriage counseling and then if that didn't help, then I would just let it go. I agree with all your points. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Voting up awesome my friend!

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thanks have a lovely day

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Love can be most complicating at times Thanks for commenting

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Loving another man's life? Normal! Acting on that love? Inexcusable! Well done; your points are solid indeed.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      DDE, I hope it is not really "most" couples. The bottom line is respect--respect for self, for one's spouse, for marriage. The third person is not a candidate for loyalty. Why let him or her spoil a good thing? You shared important thoughts.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Yes that is true, no room for the third person, I am glad you found this hub interesting, a love triangle is so not the answer. Thanks carol7777

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Okay we all find others attractive but it should end there or eventually the relationship will fail. There is room for two only..Just my opinion. Interesting topic and I enjoyed reading this.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      You are really know your answers at best for such situations I am glad you get the idea of what I mean here thanks for reading and I so agree on your comment have a good day my friend.

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      JUDITH OKECH 4 years ago from NAIROBI - KENYA

      It's dangerous. Practical examples have turned into the woman losing both of them. If your husband discovers you have another man on the side, he might decide to dump you. The third guy in the relationship will also disappear faster than he came. Yes, he loved you as a married woman, not as a divorcee.

      You get 80% from your husband, the other guy gives you the 20% you are lacking that adds up to 100%. But within no time, you might just lose the whole 100%. So what is best? Stick to your husband and love him with his weaknesses. Learn to live with what you cannot change but try to change what you can.