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Are they interested? Clues to know when it's time to throw in the towel

Updated on March 18, 2013

The reality of it all.

In this day of computers,, iPhone texts, and e-mails we think our communication has grown with technology advances. However,It's quite possible it has become strained because of technology. Once a text is sent, what does it have to go threw to get to it's destination? What happens to the ones you send and never make it? What happens to the ones you thought were sent and you know for a fact were sent yet someone tells you. "I didn't receive it" Communication is lost, communication is key and important when trying to get to know someone.. So let's set the scenario and you can make your own rationale about it.

Every day for a month a person of romantic interest has called and text without fail. Nothing wrong with the phone lines now, The infamous:, " I didn't receive that message" hasn't been said. Communication is flowing and you start to feel a strong connection. All of a sudden communication becomes less and less. You notice your good morning texts are no longer there to greet you and help you start your day. You notice your good night texts are no longer there to send you into a peaceful slumber. Hmm, you think to yourself. Well, maybe their just busy so you brush it off. Next, you start to notice that a day has passed with no communication at all. Really? Your confused as to what could be going on. A day has turned into two days, not a word. Seems like such a drastic change from everyday, all day, to not a word all day. What do you do?

Well in order to not assume things you reach out and ask what the problem is. "I've been noticing that our communication is not the same and the vibe is not there like before. Is there something wrong?" The other person who hasn't even noticed at all that there was a problem simply says..." I've been really busy at work,but I hope all is well with you." Hmm, let's dissect this for a minute. First off, the sentence is dry and it doesn't have it's normal babes or sweetie or anything in it to assure that the problem is all in your head. Secondly, a text doesn't take much time to send, so really being busy at work doesn't fly. Especially, if there was communication while the person was at work in the beginning.You found a way to make it work before at work, why not now? Did the person receive a promotion that you don't know about? Probably not. You start to wonder if the person is telling the truth. You may also start to wonder maybe the person is trying to spare your feelings or avoid an argument.

Save yourself the time and stress of trying to figure out another persons reasoning for not communicating. The fact that there was a shift in communication says it all. The fact the the "I was busy" excuse came into play says even more. I mean how many times have you used that excuse yourself to try and avoid a situation? The only thing we really need to know and ever have to remember and really these are words to live by...A person will make time for what they feel is important. That's it,no mystery behind it. We make time for what we want, we do the things that we want. If the interest was strong we would feel it, if the interest has faded we would feel that too. Trust what your intuition says, trust that your not just making a fuss for no reason. Something has changed you have a valid reason for acknowledging that.

Now the only thing to do is to move on, cut your loses. Don't keep trying to fit a round peg into a square hole. Now I know there are some rare cases where the person may actually be busy,however a text only texts a second and that's the truth. If it was feasible at one point then it should be feasible throughout. People come and go in your life,and sometimes people leave without warning or explanation. Don't try and over analysis it, it's like wondering why the seasons change. Yes there is a reason for it,but all we need to know is that they do and we should dress appropriately for them. Best thing to do is to Bundle up because it's a cold world out there.


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    • rainpurplewine profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from ATLANTA,Ga

      Thanks Cherrycrime for commenting,I'm glad it is a topic that most will be able to relate to.

    • rainpurplewine profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from ATLANTA,Ga

      Thanks so much for reading Poshcoffeeco. Also, thanks for the heads up being that I am new I need all the help I can get. It is a cold world out there and you may grow grey hairs trying to figure out the foolery. lol Thanks for the welcome.:)

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      Steve Mitchell 

      5 years ago from Cambridgeshire

      Hey rainpurplewine.

      I like your analysis about communications. You may find some of the things you have written about here actually happening within this community. You will make friends here I know it. Keep in mind many have ulterior motives for being here. Some may think the world owes them a living, will follow you then drop you like a stone if you don't follow right back. See through them and just move on like you say.

      Great start made here, if you need help or advice let me know and I will do my best to help.

      Welcome to Hub Pages and good luck.


      Team Welcome Wagon.

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      January Moon 

      5 years ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

      I think everyone can relate, been there before!

    • rainpurplewine profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from ATLANTA,Ga

      Thanks for reading. I'm glad you found it interesting.

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      Priyanka Estambale 

      5 years ago from United States



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