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Backstabbing People

Updated on April 21, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

People can be ruthless

You meet people and don't know much about them something that happens daily.

Often you would assume they are nice until they turn against you.

Without a second thought, your life can be changed because of that person.

I have listened and learned and would not give away my secrets to anyone who I have met in this different lifestyle.

I learned more about the local people by just observing their different characters.

People are different in many ways the culture keeps people apart and their mentalities.

What you need to understand is that every person will look for your good side.

If they are out to get you and drag you through the mud nothing can stop them from doing so.

I observe and that is my power.

Do you keep attracting the same kind of friends over and over again, especially, backstabbers?
Has your choice of friends let you down?
You trust the people you work with or your friends but when you fail to do what they ask of you after a while you become a problem to them.

It is like you need a reservation to be with those kinds of people.

Another problem well, it is all part of life. You tend to trust people in return expecting to receive their trust, instead you are manipulated by their poor behavior.

You should not fall in easily into trusting anyone unless you know for sure then again you don't always know for sure.

The mistakes you make allows you to learn further about trust and how to approach other people in relationships.

The friends you choose to have in your life can take advantage of your good nature. They tend to use your kindness against you and hurt you in the process.

All people are not out to hurt you. Sometimes certain people come into your life and use you as their weak target.

I once had a so-called friend but decided not to have her in my life anymore. She is no longer my friend, nor my enemy.

I just stopped visiting her to keep away from that so-called friendship.

In the beginning, when I visited her she was nice and sweet. Her false behavior gave me another impression.

The usual laughs and talking so pleasantly to me closed my thoughts.

After observing her behavior. I realized there was no way I could go along with her manipulative mind.

She pretended to be nice to me but talked about me behind my back. It is sad for her to be this way.

I feel pity, such people, they have such awkward thinking and enjoy hurting others.

I knew the backstabber had no idea how to lay it on me or how to tell what is on her mind.

She failed to tell me directly.

I saw jealousy and kept away.

It made me feel much better to not have her in my life.

She is lazy and very jealous whatever I have been it a new outfit or a different pair of shoes somehow that annoys her and her comments are so ridiculous.

''Oh nice shoes! ''You dress so well it takes money to dress that way.''

I am better of ignoring such words. I don't let those words get to me it is just a jealous mind and tone.

It is so stupid of her to talk like that to me it does not mean a thing of what she does or say I don't care for such people.

I enjoy meeting people being self-employed is a great experience in my summer job in village tourism.

She is not capable of taking a chance on that kind of job as I can do.

This woman's nature is subtle she has a few friends and the reason most people visit her but not as often as they know her better than I do.

The jealous and manipulative behavior keeps them at bay.

She can't have what I have that is so amazing for me.

Why is she a backstabber?
Her insecure mind is the cause of her behavior backstabbing and telling lies makes her feel good.

A backstabber thrives on competition. I have this problem because my lifestyle is modern and lively and she can't stand to see the way I live my life.

I always enjoy listening to music and dress good day and that really gets to her. In my opinion, I don't care what she has to say about my style of life.

I do what I like and dress the way I want even that makes her curious.

She burns with jealousy, especially when I wear fancy clothing. When attending functions like weddings or parties her eyes pops out even wider.

At some point in your life, you must have come across backstabbers and the most annoying behavior from a backstabber is they like to talk about you.

I learned to notice backstabbers by the kind of friends they have in this case she has friends that are just like her often they get together for coffee and talk about others.

I once witnessed how she talks about others with her same kind of friends and thought to myself, ''she talks about others freely together with her kind of friends and talking about me must come very easy.''

They like rumors and enjoy sitting down to get out their harsh words out.

Her gossips are always proved from one another.

When people say things they don't really mean and during conversations, certain talks can be spoken of.

Sometimes these words can come up intentionally to let the others know what has been actually spoken of.

It is exactly how backstabbers work, they intentionally let others know what has been spoken about them in a gossip conversation.

Backstabbers are worthless, with no values of a good character and no pride of how they behave.

They look for gossip and find something interesting to talk about it is a thrilling feeling to them.

A backstabber likes to set you up on a mission and likes to see you fail at that mission.

I found her behavior weird at times and at that time did not know why.

She was in the past very nice to me and won't visit for days but when she needs something her sudden change of behavior tells me something is not right.

The friendly conversations are about her being in need of something from me.

They want payback for something from the past and they find someone to lay it on.
Socially backstabbers are troublesome and wait to pick on something or someone.

I did not feel taken down by though her some people can feel betrayed by backstabbers.

If they are friends for a long time everything can be a toll to take on.

In my case, I did not stay friends with her for a long time.

I worked out her manipulative behavior and shunned her from my life.

Their twisted minds can make you feel down and stressed out use your gut feeling and see for yourself.

Trust is not easily built with backstabbers don' fall into their trap.

The web of lies can get your mind worked up.

You get the thoughtless people, those who you won't want to have in your life.

There are those kinds of people I try to be with like, my family my best of friends in the world.

What is backstabbing all about?

When you call someone a backstabber it means the person is in for gossiping, the greedy kind, the jealous one.

The one who likes playing big games. The are no signs of healthy behavior.

Backstabbers only think of what is beneficial to them and not to you.

Be true to yourself and stay calm.

Avoid making a problem and losing your temper that won't work for you.

The best is to put the whole episode behind you and move on. I moved one and found better friends.

Whether you are in the workplace, or at home you are bound to come across backstabbers remain yourself and be confident with the situation.

Choose your friends carefully.

Life is full of experiences and challenges you meet all sorts of people and don't always succeed in relationships or friendships.

You are committed to the choices you make for yourself. In that chosen lifestyle you learn from your mistakes.

Also, it all depends on how you cope with such situations the way you deal with such people that make a difference to lives.

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Harishprasad thank you for all votes up and your presence at my hubs made me smile today

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      Harish Mamgain 

      4 years ago from New Delhi , India

      Devika, you are right we must choose our friends carefully.Only weak and insecure guys indulge in backbiting and backstabbing. You have skillfully analyzed a negative human trait that we encounter in our lives. Well-written and voted up.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Deborah-Diane well said thank you

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      4 years ago from Orange County, California

      I try to avoid all the negative people in my life, including backstabbers!

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      WriterJanis thank you have a lovely day.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CraftytotheCore thank you so kind of you to come by and I so agree with your point

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you ologsinquito for your constant support

    • WriterJanis profile image


      4 years ago from California

      I think so often people are backstabbers because they are jealous.

    • CraftytotheCore profile image


      4 years ago

      DDE, you did a great job with this article. I like how you define a backstabber. "A backstabber likes to set you up on a mission and likes to see you fail at that mission."

      Sadly, what's worse than a friend who is a backstabber is a relative, parent, sibling or someone we are supposed to love from birth.

      Just recently I had to tell someone that I wouldn't be speaking to them any more because of this type of behavior. And that's exactly what they were doing, setting me up to fail.

    • ologsinquito profile image


      4 years ago from USA

      DDE, this is very insightful. People who gossip about others will also gossip about you. That's a given.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Vellur choosing right is not always the case go with your gut thank you

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Suzanne Day thank you for the vote up and very true words from you.

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      Nithya Venkat 

      4 years ago from Dubai

      Great advice and it is best to choose friends carefully. Great write.

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      Suzanne Day 

      4 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      There are a lot of backstabbers out there and while everyone vents frustrations from time to time, constant backstabbing behind my back means that I'll forgo friendships with such untrustworthy people. Voted interesting.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. thank you kindly for all votes and I so appreciate your coming by have nice day. Getting warmer here today, and feels good to write another hub

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Anna Haven I don't waste my time with such worthless people backstabbers can drain you and make you feel stupid I avoid such people at all times. I have learned lots from the different people I came into contact with thank you very much.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader you are so right thank you for stopping by

    • D.A.L. profile image


      4 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Who needs enemies with 'friends' like these ? I think most people will have encountered such worthless friendships and some time in their lives. However, I am of the nature once bitten twice shy. I believe that if you believe in yourself and you know that you are a much better person than these people, you are far better off without them. Great subject you have chosen which will at some point or other have affected all who read this. Voted up,interesting and useful.

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      Anna Haven 

      4 years ago from Scotland

      Life is too short to waste time on people who don't deserve it. People who don't treat their friends with respect should definately be confined to the past.

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      4 years ago

      Everyone knows at least one backstabber. Best to just get them out of your life if you can. If you have to work with them, minimize contact. Unfortunately, in some sectors it seems that there are many of these people who have nothing better to do and don't know that they should be making their own lives more beautiful.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC you are so right,'' Backstabbing friends or acquaintances definitely need to be avoided!'' Well mentioned thank you

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Sally thank for stopping by I appreciate your kind and thoughtful words.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Jodah thank you for sharing your comment and for the vote up.

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      Linda Crampton 

      4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You've shared some good advice for dealing with backstabbers, Devika. Backstabbing friends or acquaintances definitely need to be avoided!

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 

      4 years ago from Norfolk


      I try never to let these kind of people into my mind, never mind about anywhere near me. Seems to me that one has to choose one's company really carefully at times, especially if they turn out as you describe.

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      John Hansen 

      4 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Useful hub Devika. I think we all know some backstabbers. I usually try to ignore them as much as possible. This isn't always possible and sometimes you have to confront it. Voted up.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway people can be horrible and with such character it is difficult to manage their behaviors thank you for the continuous support I pleased to have met you along with my other faithful supporters

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      grand old lady they need to get a life is just that thank you.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc thank you

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      4 years ago from USA

      I've had these before, and I realized it wasn't worth my energy to try to chang them. I cast them off, just didn't go back and released them from my life and my thoughts. When they called, I didn't answer. When they left messages, I didn't return them. Eventually it stopped. If there was one incident you KNOW about, there were probably lots you do not know about. Toss your cares away and don't allow these kinds of people to contaminate your thoughts. Examine what you found attractive in them so you'll recognize it when you see it again because they are everywhere.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

      4 years ago from Philippines

      This is a very useful hub. There are more backstabbers around than we imagine. You made a very good point in noting that backstabbers tend to make friends with people like themselves. But then what happens is, they backstab each other when one is not present. It's so crazy. I mean, they need to get a life.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I don't have any of these only takes once and then you have lost my trust and I say goodbye. Great subject!


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