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How hate can hinder our self esteem.

Updated on February 15, 2015

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Be Who you are meant to be - and be Proud

Hatred, judgmental-ism, and discrimination are not "rights" or "privileges" to be protected by law.

They are all abominations, and sinful, for those who practice them.

We must learn not to judge others - lest 'we' are willing to be judged as well.

The personal "opinions" we have about how others live their lives has little or no merit to anyone but ourselves.

The plight of the abused (and accused)

I often receive mail forwarded through hub pages, and other sites, with private questions from people who are confused, discriminated against, abused both physically and emotionally, and on the verge of suicide because of how society treats them with disgust and ignorance.

I generally reply to these beautiful people directly and can assist them with their anguish and disdain.

It is extremely disheartening that there are so many people being abused by their own governments, their religions, and society in general for being something that they have little or no control over.

All this sadness, cruelty, and abuse by ignorance is inexcusable today in a supposedly civilized society. This hatred and abuse must end so our society can begin to amend itself in the eyes of those Gods that the abusers invoke as their reasons for their cruelty.

Reaching out for help

The following is an email i wrote to someone who reached out for my help. But unfortunately, something was missing in the return address and it was unable to be sent directly via email.

So i am posting it here, in the hopes that that person will have a chance to revisit my hub pages and find the help and solace they deserve in life. And also to share my thoughts with others who also feel abused by society, and are afraid to reach out for help to cope with their own struggles in life, for what ever reasons they might be.

I do welcome anyone contacting me for assistance and advice. If i cannot adequately counsel those who do, i will direct them to the appropriate path to find the help they need to survive, live in peace, and enjoy life as we all should.

This was my reply email and message to all who need assurance of worthiness:

My dear friend

I am happy to help you.
If you believe in a benevolent God, then you must believe that God would not create any human being with sinful tendencies.

Homosexuality is not a sin.It is a genetic condition that either God, or mother nature, has provided.

I believe that nature and God are the same, and this is the 'natural' way to counterbalance the growing overpopulation problem on this planet.

In the ancient times homosexuality was revered as a gift from God.

Man made the changes in viewing this natural phenomenon as evil for their own selfish ends. God is incapable of discriminating against any of his "children" for we are all part of that universal "creator".

The bible (and other holy books) with references to homosexuality were made by governments and religions when it was unknown that this was a natural occurrence in nature, and who ignorantly viewed anything they did not understand as 'sinful'.
There are many references to "sins" in the holy books that have been proven to be superfluous to reality.

For instance:

  • it was a sin to eat meat on Fridays,
  • it was a sin not go to church on Sundays,
  • it was a sin to eat shellfish,
  • it was a sin to eat meat from animals with cloven hooves,
  • it was a sin for a man to cut his hair and beard,
  • and many other ridiculous man made up 'sins'.

These were all borne out of ignorance, and once science, and logic set into society they were discarded by the people as just plain foolish, and nonsensical.

The last remaining remnants of those silly ancient teachings is homosexuality.

No one "chooses" to be born gay, nor do they "choose" to live a homosexual lifestyle.
We are what nature and God intended us to be.

We are all unique individuals and must learn to be proud and unashamed of who we were born to be.
Times are changing, people in general are becoming more enlightened, and soon homosexuality will be an accepted part of society once again, just as interracial marriages, and not owning slaves, are today.

Love and sexual expressions of that love are both gifts from our Creator and are to be treasured and enjoyed.

There are many in this life that never experience love or the sexual pleasures that go along with that love.

Be thankful for who you are, and never, ever let anyone tell you that you are a bad or sinful person, or of lesser value than they are.

That is just not true.

You are a beautiful creation of God and worthy of all the love and happiness you can find in this world.

Be at peace with who you are, and let those who dislike who and what you are born to be, deal with themselves, for they are the ones with the problem and have no jurisdiction over you or anyone else.

We cannot change who we are meant to be, nor should we try just to please someone else.

Go out into the world; be proud; and live your life the way god intended. Be at peace with yourself and all else will fall into place.

Peace be with you.

Coming to terms with life

There is so much sadness and isolation in this world it is shameful, especially when that sadness and isolation is caused by other ignorant and insensitive humans who have no right judging, bullying, or causing others to feel such despair and anguish, just because their archaic religion dictates them to do so.

Anyone who believes in a benevolent "creator" must logically conclude that, that creator would not deliberately make people born to be hated.

We must learn to accept others for who, and what, they were born to be, without judging or prejudices that are illogical, immoral, and (should be) illegal. To further add to the ignorance of man we can include these facts as well:

1. We pass laws to force women to bear children without any regard to the safety of the mother or the child.

2. We pass laws to discriminate against minorities.

3. We pass laws that reinforce unfair wage and labor practices.

4. We pass laws to protect and aid the corporations against fair labor acts.

5. And then we refuse to pass laws banning discrimination against each other because of inane religious beliefs.

There is little, if any, logic in this.

It is time to stop all this hatred, and start treating each other as equals, for that is exactly what we are in the eyes of the intelligent and logical, and our universal creator.

We can no longer continue to cater to the ignorant and uninformed, or misinformed, as if they were the the ultimate authority to decide who should be considered 'worthy' of anything, or not.

by: d.william 07/09/2012

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    • d.william profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      Thanks for your kind words. Everyday, it seems to get worse according to the news reports. In all my years on this planet i have not seen such a level of hatred, intolerance and vicious violence toward one another. Everyone blames everyone else instead of looking inward and reaching out to help stop this awful trend. Our religions promote it and the government condones this negative behavior.

      If there is a god looking down on this mess, he can only be appalled and ashamed of this stupid childish behavior that he sees.

    • b. Malin profile image

      b. Malin 

      6 years ago

      What a Wonderful and Timely Hub d.Williams...Said as only you can, and shared. In a perfect World this would be...But Sadly, we are not, and so ignorance is bless, for a few. We should always be learning and growing and understanding differences.

    • d.william profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      Amen to that. Thanks for reading and commenting.

    • Melis Ann profile image

      Melis Ann 

      6 years ago from Mom On A Health Hunt

      Great message once again. If we could all have the confidence to portray who we really are, this world would gain so much. Shared!

    • d.william profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      Thanks for visiting and commenting. Your comments made me laugh.

      I often think i should have been more than i am, but have learned to be satisfied with who i have become.

      We can not all be rich and beautiful; and save the world from being destroyed by those selfish people take more than they need and leave devastation in their wake. So, we just have to settle for being the best we can be, accept who we are, and do no harm to others during our sojourn on this beautiful planet.

    • BobbiRant profile image


      6 years ago from New York

      I am sure I was meant to be a beauty queen, but I guess that ship has sailed. Wonderful hub and I agree, everyone is unique and wonderful, even those who needle us sometimes. Great hub!

    • d.william profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      thanks, you are too kind.

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      6 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      lol guess so, consider this battle won, the war is yet ahead of you. That's great to hear that people are seeing what i saw at first glance, what an awesome person and writer you are.

    • d.william profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      Thanks for visiting and commenting. I posted this article 3 days ago, and have had more views that usual and surprisingly enough not one nasty remark. L.O.L. (i usually get at least one from the religious haters group - i guess they finally gave up trying to save my soul)

    • d.william profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      Thanks for your comments. It is always such a pleasure to have you visit my hub pages.

    • d.william profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      Thanks for reading and commenting. Some people cannot be helped when it comes to fighting guilt and fear. I often think that they want to keep these things as a self punishment tool for their perceived "offensive" lifestyle. Little do they know that they only add to their own guilt and fear by giving any credence at all to what others say or feel about them.

    • d.william profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      Thank you also for reading and your kind words.

    • d.william profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Somewhere in the south

      Thanks for reading and your kind words. They are well appreciated.

    • brittvan22 profile image


      6 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      wonderfully written, voting up my friend!

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      6 years ago from Southern Illinois

      This is just so beautiful. We all are who we are, let us not judge one another.

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      6 years ago from Burlington VT

      Amen! I have learned to feel sorry for ignorant abusers. Their stomachs must always be in knots; their brains frazzled. By transferring the 'hurt' or pity to them, it gives me relief. I hope your message reached your intended target.

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      6 years ago from Guildford

      What a brilliant read - thank you.

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      6 years ago from New Zealand

      You my friend make this world a much better place! I agree wholeheartedly. Thank you!


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