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"Becoming One With The Wrong One"

Updated on September 16, 2013

"Becoming One With The Wrong One"

Make sure you know who you're sleeping with when you become one with that person.
Make sure you know who you're sleeping with when you become one with that person.
when you're married you don't worry about becoming one with someone else that's bad for you.
when you're married you don't worry about becoming one with someone else that's bad for you.

"Becoming One With The Wrong One"

When we're young we really don't get into the bible like we should because if we did, we would learn some valuable sexual information that would help us stay away from fornication. Which is sexual intercourse without the marriage licenses. When we don't know these things it can be our down fall, later down the road. We should tell our children the complete truth about sexual fornication and how sleeping with someone before marriage is not an option because of sin and becoming one with that particular person. Sometimes, people get sexually involved with someone because of their sexual desires, or because they're lonely or because they want to feel needed and wanted but for what ever the reason. It's the wrong reason and most times it's the biggest mistake of our young life. I'm sure many of you as myself had known, what I know now. It would have made a great difference in the choices that I made then.

The only thing about our learning experiences is once you committed the act we can't take it back. Sometimes, we find ourselves in peculiar situations an if we had, had all the available information we needed the at time, then we would make choices accordingly and therefore come out a head. That's why it's so important to tell your children the the whole truth. Including the biblical truth about sex and how they will becoming one with that person, whom ever they sleep with. Parents in my day, was like some of you that think telling the whole truth is to much to bare. If you don't tell them they want get the information they need to make the right choices when the time comes. We want them to know that we really would prefer it, if they waited for their Mr. or Ms. Right to come along, get married and go from there. The truth is, our children are going to do what they think is right for them but at least we would have did the godly thing and told them the truth and feel better about it. Their decision to do it or not to it will be totally and completely on them, but at least they will have a conscience now.

We now know why the bible tells us, it's better to marry than to burn. I don't think many of us believe it, since we let our desires get the best of us and go with the flow. Some of us haven't told our children the truth about sexual intercourse in graphic details. Which means your kid will be trying it out on a dry run, or in the dark. They want have the valuable info they need to say maybe this isn 't what I want right now. The bible teach us that when we have sexual intercourse with our partner, we become one with that person. Whether he or she 's a prostitute, or a murderer, a gay person or who ever, you have become one with this person. That's why the bible teach about abstaining until you marry your mate, this way you want worry about becoming one with the wrong one. Some of you whom has sexual intercourse, has found out later that it wasn't the thing to do because it changed what could have been a good relationship. The sexual act itself changed it, and that happens a lot to the young people that's not yet ready for a physical relationship.

Isn't it strange, how we don't think of a sexual encounter as being one with that person; it was just a sexual release. So we think, only it's much, much more. Listen, I'm not trying to judge anyone or point my finger at anyone, because I made my own mistakes in my day but I wish I had known all there is to know now. Things for me would have been very different. By reading and studying the bible I have learned that sexual intercourse with anyone besides your husband or wife is fornication or adultery. Fornication means to have sexual intercourse without marriage, which is a sin by Gods rules. I'm not going to tell you this is a easy thing not to do because it's truly isn't. Maybe with a little determination, a lot of prayer and reading the good book, you can do it. I learned the truth about having sex for pleasure, that once it's all over and done with.The only thing you have left from the act is a wet bottom and empty arms. Then realize it's not worth it.

I learned that just having sexual intercourse isn't as important as finding a true love and settling down with and enjoying the intimacy with the one you love. Being sexual taught me that it had to means something or it wasn't important to me. We must remember that when we have sexual intercourse with someone, we're tying ourselves to this person for life,whether we marry them or not. So the question is, are you going to have sexual intercourse for pleasure or are you going to wait for God to send you the man or women of your dream. To say the vowels with and become one with them and live a happier, godly content life. Remember we can do all things through Christ which strengthen us, but we must have a made up mind and faith that we can do it, in order for it to work.

Benny Faye Douglass (C) Copyright 2010


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      Barbara Eisenberg 

      8 years ago from Titusville

      Women tend to give themselves to a man from their hearts, but men often don't feel any connection, it's just a fun activity. Your words are so very true, but often we cannot understand until we've made many mistakes. Thank you for your teaching words.

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      Audrey Kirchner 

      8 years ago from Washington

      I agree that the most important factor in a marriage is being totally in love with the person and he with you. With that 'magic' formula, nothing else matters and you do find bliss and happiness on every level possible. It is in the words of Mastercard 'priceless'....Audrey

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      Micky Dee 

      8 years ago

      Thanks for the great hub.

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      Hello, hello, 

      8 years ago from London, UK

      I always believed in love and from there, of course, intercourse follows but it has to be on both sides. Since this wasn't in my case my marriage and I am sure many or most marriage break-up. Thank you for a good hub

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      benny Faye Douglass 

      8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you so much for reading with understanding of what I'm trying to get out there. thank you also for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      Veronica Allen 

      8 years ago from Georgia

      It's so easy to succumb to those desires, that's why my mother used to always tell me to never put myself in tempting situations in the first place. It is vital that we have an open forum about sex before marriage with our children, to help them make good choices. Like you said, once it's gone, you can't take it back.


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