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Being In Abusive Relationship Isn't Always Physical

Updated on June 26, 2016

Not many people realize when they are in an abusive relationship. Most people believe that it is only the physical parts that account for "abuse," but they are very wrong.

A person can be mentally abused by their significant other and it is technically abuse. Being told that you are always the one doing something wrong, you are horrible, you are worthless, you will never amount to anything, etc. These are all signs of mental abuse.

Someone putting you down all the time? Mental abuse. Many people push this aside and try to just sweep it under the rug, but it can cause serious damage. You may start to believe the words that are coming out of the persons' mouth, and that will ruin you forever.

You will start to feel like nothing, act like nothing, and eventually become nothing. It eats away all the good parts to you. Your personality, your lifestyle, the way you care about things, everything. It is like you will be erased as a person.

You won't know what to do anymore. You will slowly just start to fall into this sink hole that just keeps getting bigger, and bigger, until it consumes you.

Please if you feel this is happening to you, call the abuse hotline, or tell a friend/ family member. Do something, so that this doesn't become your whole life. You will regret it if you wait too long, trust me.


I have been through all of this. I have been through physical and mental abuse in a relationship. I honestly feel mental is far worse than physical. You can heal when something is broken, but you can't heal from breakdown. Think about it.

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    • Breeana Gardipee profile imageAUTHOR

      Breeana Gardipee 

      2 years ago from South Milwaukee

      I completely agree. Not most people do. And when people say the reason they are being abused is because it is their fault, are wrong. I hate when the victim blames themselves. I've been there done that, and now I do what makes me happy and if anyone says anything different.

    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      2 years ago

      If you feel like you can't be your "true self" you are probably in an unhealthy, toxic, or abusive relationships. Sometimes this resembles a parent/child relationship instead of equal partners where one gives the other orders.

      This is especially so if it is as if you're walking on eggshells, constantly second guessing yourself, in fear of upsetting them, or find yourself pulling away from your closest friends, family, hobbies & interests.

      Bottom line if you're not happy where you are you need to move on.

      Sticking around while expecting someone to change or revert back to the way they were at the start of the "infatuation phase" is a waste of time.

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on. The choice is up to us!

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

      If someone degrades you, verbally abuses you, or routinely takes you for granted they clearly don't believe you are all that "special".

      The world may not owe you anything but (you) owe yourself the world!

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